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How to survive living alone?

I don't presently live alone but who knows what will happen in the future. I kind of always wondered how to survive it? I mean I've lived alone for short periods in the past but always kind of went back at some point, to parents etc.

I know of a guy that lives alone, he choses to rather than live with his parent, they apparently get on so, so. He's done so for a fair number of years now. He goes to work but don't really know what he does in his spare time other than Netflix type of stuff & video games. I mean sure it passed the time but it's only really do good to a point really. I think he goes out and about a little but that's as far as I know. Kind of wonder how he or anyone else copes. I think I've kind of got an active mind that is often hammering away thinking one thing or the other. Kind of need to unload sometimes by talking to someone I know and reasonably close to usually. So don't really know how I would cope with it all. Guess I might get used to it after a time possibly but kind of think long periods of it I might find hard going. So any thoughts that might help would be useful?
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Firstly living with parents is totally different than living on your own. I always stayed with someone in my life. I just could not live on my own. But when you do you’ll feel so much better. In fact. It was the best thing I ever did. How about sharing with someone ? There’s plenty of students ling in shared housing.. Then you’re living on your own but not. If you get my meaninglifes to short mate. Get out there while you can. We only get to live it once.
I have no idea, I've never lived alone.

I imagine it's a bit lonely, but otherwise not a complicated thing to do.
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F. My boyfriend works away, I live alone, have done for years and long before I met him. I own my house and car, have a full-time job and in my spare time volunteer at fund-raising events, visit family, socialise with friends and like to go to football matches, exhibitions, concerts, on holiday solo and have several hobbies. I'm a good cook, can darn and sew, I'm handy at decorating and do basic DIY.

I don't gave time to overthink things and sometimes it's nice to have my own space to relax. People are always at the end of a phone or available for messaging.

It's never bothered me.
To be completely honest, I found living by myself really difficult at first. I'd only ever lived with my family, uni friends or my ex beforehand, so living alone for the first time at the age of 29 was a massive change. I was also really mentally unwell which definitely complicated things and made everything 10 times harder. But it's not so bad anymore and you do get used to it with time.

I'd say the most important thing is to try and plan things when you know you'll be at home, even if it's something small. You don't have to account for every minute of your day but having a rough schedule can keep you occupied and with a routine. I'm generally at home at the weekend so if I'm not seeing my friends or travelling to visit my parents, I go shopping, go for a walk, spend a lot of time reading in cafes, visit the local library, get on a train and go somewhere new, literally anything that gets me outside. Having some kind of human contact when I'm not at work is so important; isolating myself from everyone only made me more miserable.

Plus doing things by yourself will give you confidence and a sense of wellbeing, knowing that you don't need to constantly be around anyone else and can have a nice time on your own can do wonders for your mental growth.
I live alone and I love it. I spent a few years (university and a couple of years afterwards) in house shares. Not having to compete over the washing machine, not having get woken up by your drunken housemate, not having to tolerate the mess of others, etc. are all wonderful. I love having an entire apartment to myself. It is an introvert's dream.

Of course, I balance this out with an active social life. So it is not like I'm isolated.
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I don't presently live alone but who knows what will happen in the future. I kind of always wondered how to survive it? I mean I've lived alone for short periods in the past but always kind of went back at some point, to parents etc.

I know of a guy that lives alone, he choses to rather than live with his parent, they apparently get on so, so. He's done so for a fair number of years now. He goes to work but don't really know what he does in his spare time other than Netflix type of stuff & video games. I mean sure it passed the time but it's only really do good to a point really. I think he goes out and about a little but that's as far as I know. Kind of wonder how he or anyone else copes. I think I've kind of got an active mind that is often hammering away thinking one thing or the other. Kind of need to unload sometimes by talking to someone I know and reasonably close to usually. So don't really know how I would cope with it all. Guess I might get used to it after a time possibly but kind of think long periods of it I might find hard going. So any thoughts that might help would be useful?

Hi there :smile:

Living alone is a great experience! It can help you to develop many useful skills such as learning to cook, clean and balance everyday tasks. When I moved to uni, I definitely found certain aspects of living alone tricky at first. It can take some time to develop a routine that works for you and learn to enjoy your own company. But there were also many aspects of living alone that I really enjoyed. It develops your independence and many people enjoy having their own space. My advice is to try and find a balance between keeping yourself busy, enjoying your own company such as doing a hobby and socialising with friends. It can often feel isolating being alone for prolonged periods of time so I always try to make plans to go out at least once or twice a week even if its just for dinner or a walk with a friend. Over time you will get used to living on your own and you might actually find that you enjoy it. Remember that living alone doesn't mean you are alone. Your friends and family are always a phone call/facetime away so there are countless ways to stay connected to others. Hope this helps a bit.

Best wishes

Joanna
-Uni of Kent Rep
I live alone and it's brilliant, I can do what I like and when I like without any potential issues of having a housemate e.g. cleanliness and clash of personalities.

Plus I don't really feel lonely at all as I work during the day and spend most of my evenings either studying, running, seeing friends or cooking and doing housework. So with my lifestyle I end up being kept busy enough without having to worry about ever feeling lonely, plus I often speak to friends on WhatsApp pretty much every day which keeps me connected.
Always trust your gut instinct and listen to what your common sense is telling you. :smile:

Not everyone wants to live alone or will be able to do sowithout feeling miserable.
If you prefer to live in a houseshare with roommates or move in with a partner, that's your choice

I am very happy living alone.
Enjoy the peace, privacy, freedom and independence.
Am very thankful that my days of housemates & shared bathrooms, fridges and kitchens are long gone.
I'll never live with another adult again.
Easily. I don't enjoy being around other people.
Thanks for the responses guts I appreciate it. Yeah I used to know a guy, older than me, think probably in his fifties, was single and lived alone. He said the thing is to keep busy and guess there is something in that.

The house share is an interesting concept. Think with me that sharing with one other if I was around a bit would probably be the most. More than that and would get a but much I think. Though to be honest possibly might prefer just to live alone over sharing.

Guess I would just have to see what work and what doesn't and be open to changing stuff as I go.

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