is she interested or am I bugging?

yes i do but it's on a platform the whole college use, and while you can privately message on it i can just imagine not knowing what to say, and if i did know i am almost certain she would screenshot or show it to her friends and that would be so embarrassing..

i also literally 10 minutes ago just had the lesson, and she didn't look at me once despite my efforts for us to make eye contact. it was like over the weekend her apparent interest just disappeared, and i guess it was 8:30am on a monday morning so that could affect it a bit, but it was like i didn't exist. whether she looked at me when i wasn't aware i have no idea, and she might have laughed at something i said to the class but i didn't want to risk looking over in the fear she wouldn't be laughing or whatever. do you have any clue as to why she's suddenly just gone all cold on the whole idea? its so deflating and feels like im back at square 1, and that everything that had just happened meant nothing :/

again, i've been in a similar situation and i honestly thought the guy had lost interest in me because he wasn't making any moves or going out of his way to talk to me for a while, and i decided to pull back for the sake of my own sanity, and not wanting to get hurt first.

however, sometimes people just don't notice that they're missing eye contact/cues/coming off as they're ignoring someone. i know for a fact that i ignore people without realising sometimes, and it can be easily done when distracted by friends/classes etc.

i want to caveat what i'm about to say with this: don't do anything you do not feel comfortable with or that you feel rushed/ pressured to do. It's never worth it in the long run.

I honestly think the only way to truly understand what is going on in her head is to talk to her, reading people body language/how they act, especially in situations like this, is not always the greatest way to understand someone's intent. rejection hurts, and it can be embarrassing, but what you don't know wont hurt you, and if she's a decent human being, she wont go out of her way to humiliate or embarrass you.

i can't promise you that she likes you or that everything will go smoothly, but i can promise that things will be a little easier if you're not trying to navigate this emotional limbo. So when you're ready and feel like you know what to say, i would definitely say that you should message her.

Oh my god man, just go talk to her, how the hell are you gonna get to know people if you don't talk to them, what exactly do you want his girl to do to show that she's interested in you? how exactly do you think you will get a relationship with women if you don't speak to them? if you're waiting for girls to actually approach you as a guy, you'll never get anywhere. She could be just looking at you because she noticed you staring at her, or she could be into you. Just go and ask her, better get used to these things now when you're young, you don't want to be one of those older guys who are so terrified of approaching women.

And if she rejects you or laughs with her friends, who gives a damn? you didn't do anything wrong by talking to her as long as you were being polite. I've had a couple women be rude to me when I approached them in the past, but a few days or so and I forgot about it, it happens sometimes and women who are decent would not be rude to you, so it's really insignificant even if it doesn't go your way as you'll find better women later. Literally every guy gets rejected at some point. It's like a numbers game.

thanks so much, it's reassuring to know that it might naturally vary whether she's engaging eye contact or not - and since your reply i actually had the lesson yesterday, and she was looking at me more again, i was just not looking back much worried she wasn't actually looking at me - but i did feel her checking or looking in my direction at least, or sneaking glances if that makes sense. you made me realise too that im also guilty of just completely ignoring her at some periods because i don't know what to do, or at the time it doesn't feel like a good time to side eye or make eye contact.

i also came to the decision that after the weekend is over on Monday im going to try and actually talk to her(!) in person(!!!) and it's really nerve racking but ive thought of something i can start the conversation with and the situation i would try and talk to her in. i just have one condition that i won't say anything if she's with a friend, because im honestly surprised at myself for being so adamant about taking the first step, it's not like me at all lol! im just hoping i won't back down in the moment because it's easy for me to say ill talk to her when im not in front of her, but when i am i worry I'll just shy away. im also worried that she is going to be cold on the idea of me talking to her and that she'll have some dislike towards me? i don't know why, but im thinking that what if she's really dry and it all goes awfully and that kind of thing.

it's been long enough with the back and forth eye contact and i reckon any longer and the small signs ive assumed is her interest will diminish if i leave it any longer.
is there any advice you would have for 'when' i (assuming i actually do) talk to her? i have the weekend to plan it all, lol. thank you again!