My boyfriend hates it when I cry

Reply 40

Omg i'm exactly the same! Think my boyfriend gets so fed up with me!
specially around the time of the month! I just snap at every little thing. or cry.
Like on monday this week... i just ended up snapping at him for a silly little thing and he was so sick of it he just kept ignoring my calls!
This keeps happening quite a lot recently.
But for the past 3 days, I've been feeling quite down but I didnt tell him. (normally just ring him up straight away)
But he can tell when i'm not myself! and was like... whats up??
I just said 'oh im just tired' and today i actually feel a lot better cuz i was just in a depressive mood the past few days!
Its so hard. Im constantly telling myself to stop being like crying n stuff.
sometimes I really cant help it though.
Especially when I got told I had a tumour i was crying for days... and there was one day he said 'your not still upset about that are u?' I was like :-O Whattt!

Reply 41

Millmill

12

burninginme

Toughen up, bitch.

haha amazing

Reply 42

VixenX

If he can't accept you then dump him, why waste your time with someone if they can't put up with your crap. Like the saying goes you have to go with the good and the bad.

Reply 43

Rosie18

9

My boyfriend is fantastic when I cry (which happends ALOT) even though I know it breaks his heart to see me so upset he never gets annoyed or fed up with me and he always knows how to cheer me up. Dunno what I'd do without him :smile:

Reply 44

Captain Biggles

2

Original post by ßl&#945

You're a car crash waiting to happen. Yes your parenter should be there for your emotional needs, but when you get so crazy, clingy, emotional, wanna die when he doesnt answer his phone whatever. You hate him and blame him for being insensitive and not caring 'like he used to'. Did you ever think maybe you weren't behaving this way earlier in the relationship? You need to be able to suuport yourself no matter what. Put yourself in his shoes, you're probably driving him mad. though I can relate to you OP, it's hard but you have to pull yourself together or you will lose him.

Agree with this somewhat, however the boyfriend is making things worse.

Reply 45

Eien

16

I know how difficult it can be, when you want somebody to lean on, but there's nobody there to care for you or comfort you in times of need. I've always been single so I guess I have developed ways of being more emotionally self sufficient because I have to be, because it is only ME that essentially has to deal with my emotions, it isn't somebody else's job. That said, you are still entitled to support in times of need, but that can also come from your family and friendship network - sometimes the best support is spending time doing positive activities with friends - that way they will often not feel burdened by your angst. While it's fine to have somebody to lean on once in a while, you have to act really as if you don't have a boyfriend - your relationship can grow and become healthier if you have your own life and own strength, because then you can give to your boyfriend. He might seem unemotional and have less emotional swings than you do, but it is likely that he equally has times when he feels crap, but deals with them differently, especially as guys are socialised that being openly emotional is negative.

Reply 46

mfc20

11

burninginme

Toughen up, bitch.

lol.

Reply 47

User237126

15

I actually like girls who do this- my past gfs hardly ever talked to me apart from face to face and it annoyed me so much! Then when I tried texting them in the same sort of situations you're in, they said I was too smothering! aarg!

Reply 48

Zamolxes

10

Look, I understand how your bf/gf should be there for you in times like these. But you can't turn every waking moment into times like this. That's not what he signed up for. Hes not trained to deal with some one who is chronically depressed. You gotta stop being such a crybaby. People who haven't gone through much in life are usually cry babys. Meaning you are crying for no reason because some people have gone through worse crap than u.

Reply 49

Tufts

17

Rosie18

My boyfriend is fantastic when I cry (which happends ALOT) even though I know it breaks his heart to see me so upset he never gets annoyed or fed up with me and he always knows how to cheer me up. Dunno what I'd do without him :smile:

Your sig is counting down to your next anniversary. Don't you think that's a bit... sad?

Reply 50

Rosie18

9

Tufts

Your sig is counting down to your next anniversary. Don't you think that's a bit... sad?

Why? I don't see how it's any different to many other tickers people have in their sigs.

Reply 51

Zamolxes

10

That is effing clingy my friend.

Reply 52

Mask Of Sanity

14

Being honest, that is quite over emotional. But, he shouldn't be so rude about it.
Some guys tend to deal with it better. If he can't, as many have said, I don't think you're a really good match.

Reply 53

Zamolxes

10

I actually deal very well with " it ", but even I cant stand being with some one who is connstantly depressed. I like happy people, depressed people get sick more, live less, get far less ahead in life, than optimistic people.

Reply 54

diskoteck

Your boyfriend hates it when you cry? Look on the bright side, at least he doesnt love it when you cry, or find it hilarious, or take great delight in it. Optimism and independence are two very great things, i suggest you acquire some.

Reply 55

Darkness and Mist

9

To all the people who have been saying ''end it....how could he...etc etc'' honestly you need to grow up and stop being pathetic.

The OP quite clearly has some issues with depression and does not have a good coping mechanism, OP has a problem that she needs to adress with a doctor or therapist.
I dont know the details of what is going on, but did anyone stop to consider that maybe the bf is not emotionally able to deal with someone who is clinically depressed maybe he has his own issues (I know that sometimes it is hard for me to deal with my partner being emotional) maybe he hates it when she cries because it makes him feel bad and he cant deal with that sometimes?
I would say that the OP should get some help and that she should talk with her bf about an issue that is very important.

Reply 56

GodspeedGehenna

3

Tufts

Your sig is counting down to your next anniversary. Don't you think that's a bit... sad?

I would say the spite/jealousy required to question such a thing is sad.

I don't see anything wrong with it.

Reply 57

Tufts

17

GodspeedGehenna

I would say the spite/jealousy required to question such a thing is sad.

I don't see anything wrong with it.

Jealousy why? I'm in a 4 year relationship :confused:

I find the whole 'countdown till our anniversary' a tad tween-ish.

Reply 58

GodspeedGehenna

3

Tufts

Jealousy why? I'm in a 4 year relationship :confused:

So where does the insecurity to question such a trivial thing stem from?

I dont see how it is constructive for people to question the things that other people derive happiness from. It is an incredibly ugly characteristic to have. Let her do as she pleases.

Reply 59

Tufts

17

GodspeedGehenna

So where does the insecurity to question such a trivial thing stem from?

I dont see how it is constructive for people to question the things that other people derive happiness from. It is an incredibly ugly characteristic to have. Let her do as she pleases.

Free speech

The way you're talking, you'd think I raped her :rolleyes:

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