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Is she a fake friend?

I have been friends with a work colleague for few months and at first i always helped her finish her work as well as still helping her after i finished. We used to go out but somehow stopped and after sometimes she completely switched up on me and i haven’t done anything? I was always nice to her. She kinda avoids me now and stopped giving me lifts back home with the excuse of her door handle being broken. Tonight there was a staff party and i wasn’t going to attend if she wasn’t there as she assured me she wasn’t going because she wasn’t interested. Today i show up at work and she had her hair done and i was like okey weird but that doesn’t mean anything? After i get back home from work after again helping her finish faster she randomly dms me and says “oh yea btw im going to the party im so nervous” . I was completely saddened by this as i felt completely betrayed. I don’t understand what i have done to deserve this. Any tips on how to deal with this?🥺
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Original post by Anonymous #1
I have been friends with a work colleague for few months and at first i always helped her finish her work as well as still helping her after i finished. We used to go out but somehow stopped and after sometimes she completely switched up on me and i haven’t done anything? I was always nice to her. She kinda avoids me now and stopped giving me lifts back home with the excuse of her door handle being broken. Tonight there was a staff party and i wasn’t going to attend if she wasn’t there as she assured me she wasn’t going because she wasn’t interested. Today i show up at work and she had her hair done and i was like okey weird but that doesn’t mean anything? After i get back home from work after again helping her finish faster she randomly dms me and says “oh yea btw im going to the party im so nervous” . I was completely saddened by this as i felt completely betrayed. I don’t understand what i have done to deserve this. Any tips on how to deal with this?🥺


I think that you should stop reaching out to her. If she was really your friend then she will try to stay close with you but it sounds like she doesn’t want to be friends with you.
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Original post by Anonymous #1
I have been friends with a work colleague for few months and at first i always helped her finish her work as well as still helping her after i finished. We used to go out but somehow stopped and after sometimes she completely switched up on me and i haven’t done anything? I was always nice to her. She kinda avoids me now and stopped giving me lifts back home with the excuse of her door handle being broken. Tonight there was a staff party and i wasn’t going to attend if she wasn’t there as she assured me she wasn’t going because she wasn’t interested. Today i show up at work and she had her hair done and i was like okey weird but that doesn’t mean anything? After i get back home from work after again helping her finish faster she randomly dms me and says “oh yea btw im going to the party im so nervous” . I was completely saddened by this as i felt completely betrayed. I don’t understand what i have done to deserve this. Any tips on how to deal with this?🥺


I hate to say this, but I expect that she’s using u as she makes not much effort to sustain the friendship and it seems just like ur doing stuff for her and she’s not giving back
Ask her what's going on.

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