What should I do? Ask her out or not...

Basically, it's just another typical situation everyone will go through, but yeh, i'm pretty good friends with this girl, she's so unbelievably nice and lovely and I want to be able to go further with her, however...

I've tried being more obvious about my like for her, however she seems somewhat oblivious to it (I don't think she's had that much relationship experience) and I pretty much want to ask her out properly. BUT...I asked my friend to go find out if she has any feelings for me and she told me that she said she thinks i'm very nice but doesn't really like me in that way...

Now, I dunno if I can either put it down to her liking me and being shy and not wanting to admit it to a group of nosy girls, or she genuinely doesn't like me in that way.

Either way, I don't know what to do. I don't really want to ruin my friendship with her by asking her out and it becoming awkward if she says no, but I do really like her as well. What do I do?????

Reply 1

Vladimir Kitsch

wait a bit more before asking her. I think the idea is in her head now so if you keep doing what you're doing, you'll have less chance of rejection than asking her now

Reply 2

anonpls123

Depends what kind of person she is. Most girls I know would try to treat you the same even if they didn't like you in that way. From what I've seen, it's been guys that have acted weird when the girl hasn't liked them. If you really like her, then go for it, life is too short not to right? Couple of years down the line do you think you'll regret not going for it? Good luck.

Reply 3

Pinball_heart

Don't.
Just don't.
If it gets too much to bare stop being her friend.
I know this sounds mean, but take it lol.

Reply 4

DarkWhite

I'm an optimist, and the worst that can happen is she says no. If she does, it's hardly going to ruin your friendship, or it would be silly to let it.

Reply 5

running_with_scissors

Wait for a more obvious sign, I'd say. She may actually just like you as a friend, and if you ask her out it may put an odd pressure on your relationship and you may end up losing the friendship too!

Reply 6

FIMM

I agree with DarkWhite, what's the worse that could happen? She says no that's all. If she really is a good friend like you say, it'll stay that way afterwards

Reply 7

Be myself

Vladimir Kitsch

wait a bit more before asking her. I think the idea is in her head now so if you keep doing what you're doing, you'll have less chance of rejection than asking her now

I'd agreed with that

Reply 8

netprime

Go for it. I've heard that having a loving relationship is the best feeling in the world. Surely the risk of being rejected is out-weighed by the possible gain from going out with her?

Reply 9

mr-breaker

*sigh*

Yet another "I became friends with this girl ~~because I fancied her but was too pussy to approach her directly~~ and I like her :rolleyes:

" thread.

Do you think she is gonna be attracted to a man who has to go through intermediaries to find out whether she likes him rather than take the task in his own hands?

Additionally, don't you have any sort of read on this girl? It shouldn't be that hard to take everything you know of her now and decide on that evidence whether making a move would be +ev.

Reply 10

xxkaylsxx

i dont think she would be too awkward, it is true that it does usually seem to be the guy who does that. if you are rejected (not saying you will be) just be casual about it, perhaps talk to her later about something else if your already friends. good luck xx :smile: