I hate being a girl
No nothing traumatic has happened to make me think this way, i'm just sick of being a girl. I try to think of benefits of being a girl but i can't think of any. Sure you can have kids, but the whole process of labour seems so out of date, its 2024 and i don't understand how their isn't an easier way of doing this. Not only that but then the expectations of being a mother, and how your always going to be more responsible for the child compared to the father.
If you move away from that subject completly and we move onto the topic of fashion, sure girls can practically wear whatever they wants unlike men because men in skirts/dresses aren't totally normalized but women can wear suits and it will be fine. But then whatever you wear, someone will make some sort of weird comment or sexualize you, other girls will judge you.
Some times i just wish I was a bird or smt
If you move away from that subject completly and we move onto the topic of fashion, sure girls can practically wear whatever they wants unlike men because men in skirts/dresses aren't totally normalized but women can wear suits and it will be fine. But then whatever you wear, someone will make some sort of weird comment or sexualize you, other girls will judge you.
Some times i just wish I was a bird or smt
Original post by anonymous
No nothing traumatic has happened to make me think this way, i'm just sick of being a girl. I try to think of benefits of being a girl but i can't think of any. Sure you can have kids, but the whole process of labour seems so out of date, its 2024 and i don't understand how their isn't an easier way of doing this. Not only that but then the expectations of being a mother, and how your always going to be more responsible for the child compared to the father.
If you move away from that subject completly and we move onto the topic of fashion, sure girls can practically wear whatever they wants unlike men because men in skirts/dresses aren't totally normalized but women can wear suits and it will be fine. But then whatever you wear, someone will make some sort of weird comment or sexualize you, other girls will judge you.
Some times i just wish I was a bird or smt
If you move away from that subject completly and we move onto the topic of fashion, sure girls can practically wear whatever they wants unlike men because men in skirts/dresses aren't totally normalized but women can wear suits and it will be fine. But then whatever you wear, someone will make some sort of weird comment or sexualize you, other girls will judge you.
Some times i just wish I was a bird or smt
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Original post by kathy89
I agree with you.
There are some benefits but there are much more disadvantages
There are some benefits but there are much more disadvantages
I think it's sad when people talk about disadvantages and advantages all the time. They don't realise they're defining themselves as victims. You aren't a victim, you're more than a conqueror and you don't have to feel like you're a prisoner to social norms (most of which are different in other countries therefore don't really matter)
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Original post by Hannahblossom
I love being a girl. Being a girl doesn't mean you have to have children or care about what others think. And whilst I agree it's not nice to get weird comment, they are just words. The words of an idiot don't have to affect the way you see yourself ☺️
Original post by Anonymous
I know that i'm not born to have a child but i just hate all the societal expectations of women, makes me not want to be one ig
If something concerning or inappropriate ever happens to you in the meantime because of your gender, try to seek help as soon as possible from appropriate people so they can deal with the brainless individual(s) for you. There will always be nasty people in this world, whether you're a boy or girl. Girls get objectified, boys get bullied and get their masculinity questioned by others, and people that transitioned or identify from one to the other can easily become victims of alternative forms of unpleasant experiences too. You just need to show them that you're not weak and wont let it continue. Stand your ground, believe in yourself, and self-actualise.
Brainless people like to pick on the weaker ones around them to compensate for any insecurities or problems they have themselves, they just deflect it onto others to make themselves feel better and get reassurance from their peers that they're 'cool' or whatever. You may have noticed that many bullies also tend to waddle in groups, that's because they're abasically sheep and constantly seek attention and reassurance from each other. Alone, they're nobodies in most cases.
In conclusion I'd say dont worry yourself too much about typical societal expectations of you as a girl/woman. You dont have to have children, nor do you have to be some stay at home mum, be weak, or wear dresses. You can choose to have a kid if/when you feel like you actually want to commit to having one and being a good mother for one that wont abandon it half way through, as many tend to do after realising how difficult it is.
Also dont rush with finding a partner, you may find that you'll go through lots of trial and error before you find one that will seem like a responsible and sensible individual that can take on the responsibility of being a father just as well as you would if you were to decide to become a mother. Its a very big decision for future you to decide.
As I said, in the meantime the best thing you can do is work on yourself (physically, academically, etc.), discover your calling in life and find your peace (It can be hard to find nowadays because everyone's focused on other topics from the medias and society so people seem to have forgotten the concept entirely), and don't let negative people in life drag you down as you're bound to encounter them everywhere.
Don't overthink it, and try not to think in black and white. Life is a beautiful thing and even the gender we get at birth can be loved and appreciated so long as you believe in yourself and dont let the yucky grey mass in society affect the way you see yourself. 🙂 I hope this helps clear the fog a bit, and I wish you all the best. 😊
Original post by Hannahblossom
I think it's sad when people talk about disadvantages and advantages all the time. They don't realise they're defining themselves as victims. You aren't a victim, you're more than a conqueror and you don't have to feel like you're a prisoner to social norms (most of which are different in other countries therefore don't really matter)
I don't think I'm a victim. I mostly meant having painful periods (or periods at all)... and generally women have to go through more painful stuff (giving birth)...
Original post by Anonymous
No nothing traumatic has happened to make me think this way, i'm just sick of being a girl. I try to think of benefits of being a girl but i can't think of any. Sure you can have kids, but the whole process of labour seems so out of date, its 2024 and i don't understand how their isn't an easier way of doing this. Not only that but then the expectations of being a mother, and how your always going to be more responsible for the child compared to the father.
If you move away from that subject completly and we move onto the topic of fashion, sure girls can practically wear whatever they wants unlike men because men in skirts/dresses aren't totally normalized but women can wear suits and it will be fine. But then whatever you wear, someone will make some sort of weird comment or sexualize you, other girls will judge you.
Some times i just wish I was a bird or smt
If you move away from that subject completly and we move onto the topic of fashion, sure girls can practically wear whatever they wants unlike men because men in skirts/dresses aren't totally normalized but women can wear suits and it will be fine. But then whatever you wear, someone will make some sort of weird comment or sexualize you, other girls will judge you.
Some times i just wish I was a bird or smt
The grass is always greener...
Original post by Anonymous
I know that i'm not born to have a child but i just hate all the societal expectations of women, makes me not want to be one ig
Society isn't stopping you doing what you want.
I joined the RAF as an engineer, have held my own in competition against men in the Forces, watch football and know more about it than a lot of blokes, and now work for a charity where I occasionally drive a 3.5T van and help collect furniture from people's houses. It's not what people expect a woman to be doing, but I set my own expectations and standards; why don't you?
Original post by Anonymous
No nothing traumatic has happened to make me think this way, i'm just sick of being a girl. I try to think of benefits of being a girl but i can't think of any. Sure you can have kids, but the whole process of labour seems so out of date, its 2024 and i don't understand how their isn't an easier way of doing this. Not only that but then the expectations of being a mother, and how your always going to be more responsible for the child compared to the father.
If you move away from that subject completly and we move onto the topic of fashion, sure girls can practically wear whatever they wants unlike men because men in skirts/dresses aren't totally normalized but women can wear suits and it will be fine. But then whatever you wear, someone will make some sort of weird comment or sexualize you, other girls will judge you.
Some times i just wish I was a bird or smt
If you move away from that subject completly and we move onto the topic of fashion, sure girls can practically wear whatever they wants unlike men because men in skirts/dresses aren't totally normalized but women can wear suits and it will be fine. But then whatever you wear, someone will make some sort of weird comment or sexualize you, other girls will judge you.
Some times i just wish I was a bird or smt
i feel like a lot of people are misunderstanding what you're saying! i really feel your frustration. Why do we have to have periods ? why do we have to give birth ? why are we always the ones responsible for contraception ? it's so easy for men to just walk away from that kind of stuff while for women it is a constantly expensive and painful process. Then we also get belittled by men both for periods and during menopause as if we don't have control over our own minds!
Original post by Anonymous
i feel like a lot of people are misunderstanding what you're saying! i really feel your frustration. Why do we have to have periods ? why do we have to give birth ? why are we always the ones responsible for contraception ? it's so easy for men to just walk away from that kind of stuff while for women it is a constantly expensive and painful process. Then we also get belittled by men both for periods and during menopause as if we don't have control over our own minds!
Like one thing i saw the other day was:
A man can get multiple women pregnant at a time but when women gets pregnant for 9ish months and they can't get pregnant again during that time frame and if they do it's super rare. And there are more conceptives available or pushed on women more, more than men even though men are the ones that increase the pregnancy rate. idk if that makes any sense but it did in the video
Original post by Surnia
Society isn't stopping you doing what you want.
I joined the RAF as an engineer, have held my own in competition against men in the Forces, watch football and know more about it than a lot of blokes, and now work for a charity where I occasionally drive a 3.5T van and help collect furniture from people's houses. It's not what people expect a woman to be doing, but I set my own expectations and standards; why don't you?
I joined the RAF as an engineer, have held my own in competition against men in the Forces, watch football and know more about it than a lot of blokes, and now work for a charity where I occasionally drive a 3.5T van and help collect furniture from people's houses. It's not what people expect a woman to be doing, but I set my own expectations and standards; why don't you?
Original post by Anonymous
I never said that I don't have any expectations or standards. My point flew over ur head lol. I meant about the stereotypical role of a woman and no matter what you do, theres gonna be some form of backlash or smt that affects you're health/general life. Like wife/mother expectations, success of a woman, contraception, hospital treatment etc. And theres nothing you can rlly do abt it bc its deeply rooted into society so thats why i hate being a girl
So what's your say on my response then. You seem to only respond to the ones you deem haven't understood your initial statement in the right way.
Original post by Anonymous
So what's your say on my response then. You seem to only respond to the ones you deem haven't understood your initial statement in the right way.
Because so far it sounds to me like you're not looking for a light at the end of the tunnel, but rather just looking for people to call wrong or to accuse of misunderstanding you.
Original post by Anonymous
Because so far it sounds to me like you're not looking for a light at the end of the tunnel, but rather just looking for people to call wrong or to accuse of misunderstanding you.
I'm aware that there might be light at the end of the tunnel, but it's easy to feel like there isn't one or its easy to lose sight of it once in a while, especially when you feel overwhelmed or stressed. I'm not looking to blame anyone for societal problems, or my problems. I'm just correcting people and showing then stuff from my perspective.
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