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My friend might be getting extra time and i hate it.

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Reply 40

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by Trinculo
Cool. You guys can have the surgeon that needed extra time in order to pass GCSE Maths.
you can have the one that has a shaky hand or is slapdash and is negligent I know who I would choose

Reply 41

If you want extra time you should have your own assessment done instead of comparing your capabilities to hers. Go ask your GP or your school.

Only a test and herself can tell what help she needs tbh regardless if you think you know her well.

Reply 42

Honestly it's a shame I can't rep your comment again.

Reply 43

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by tamil fever
Honestly it's a shame I can't rep your comment again.
why would u report their comment for spreading useful information.

Reply 44

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by Daniel13257
why would u report their comment for spreading useful information.

REP not report. like thumbs up

Reply 45

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by Anonymous
Its only starting to annoy me more because we've been doing timed tests in class that have to be completed in 30 minutes. But if you finish before the time limit, you can just hand it in and just sit there and wait. And she just gives it in at like the 20 minute mark and sits their happily. She doesn't have a disadvantage, her processing time is fine. Everyone process things slowly, like it takes me 5 minutes to understand the text. It's not going to click before that, its normal but she seems like its not. If you can't tell, i'm extremely annoyed. Her predicated is already AAB. I want extra time so bad. I'm on a BCC and yes i do revise.
I'd say at this point, don't really pay attention to what she is doing. I'm in year 13 too, and though I don't know how long you've known your friend, I DO know that at this point it's everyone for themselves. I don't have any learning disabilities or things that may disadvantage me in exams and I was offered extra time by one of my teachers for mocks (and didn't get it but that's another issue lol) - my friend could have the same argument as you. If timing is an issue for her, then I see why she got offered it, but when you guys do those 30 min tests that's obvs different to the actual 2hr exams we'll be sitting in May. She's most likely used to the low stakes of class tests and might crack under the pressure. You genuinely don't know what's going on in her head, because she may not decide to tell you everything even if she usually does, so try not to think that what you're seeing is exactly what's going on. I've found myself slightly annoyed at times with my peers saying they're "getting such bad grades" and "not where they want to be" but then they're getting like As and Bs, some even A*s, but they still ask for extra help and sign up to extra classes etc. Don't feel any way about asking for extra help or extra time, because I'm sure you guys will stay friends but those grades will also stay with you and have an effect on your future. hope everything goes well and all the best for exams <3

Reply 46

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by Anonymous
I'm trying

keep trying, that's all that matters. try not to feel threatened by it, even though that's easier said than done atp. I've seen so much ppl in my year group change from year 7 until now, so don't pay much attention to your friend and her needs. if it still bothers you, just tell her that it makes you feel uncomfortable talking about exams and whatnot and you'd rather not talk about it. you guys are friends so she should understand.

Reply 47

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by Anonymous
No she doesn't have a learning disability or a disorder that makes her have difficulty. She got like 8s and 9s in her GCSE and now we're in year 13, she just happens to do very badly in her mocks and shes asked a teacher if she can have extra time purely because she didn't finish her exams. Not many people finish their exam in my class so idk why she gets to ask and shes close to getting it.
She got a C in her mock for one class and then two Bs in another. She told me that she can't process quickly, but neither can I? It makes me angry how she gets special treatment and I don't even when my grades are clearly lower than hers. I know its not a competition but if teachers opened their eyes more, they would see that she doesn't need it and there are people who do. She complains about how she doesn't get to finish her exams like she did in the GCSEs i can't even complete exams now but i haven't been asking around and seeking help that i don't need.
I just feel like shes using it because she wants an advantage for her alevels.
Should i ask for extra time too or is it too late? I hope they say no to her because this isnt fair.

I feel like some of my friends might be feeling like this about me and I totally see where people are coming from but I just wanted to give my personal opinion and experience. I'm currently in year 12 and had extra time for my GCSEs however, I still didn't do greatly and I now am allowed to type and have rest breaks. I don't have any learning disabilities or disorders however I do have very low processing. I struggle to focus in both lessons and exams however, exams are worse for me. when I can focus or understand a topic I tend to do quite well. I can see the frustration when in a situation such as yourself and I'd say my main piece of advice is speak to someone at your school/collage who could help with possibly getting you extra time because even if its too late now it may help in University (if your choosing to go)

Reply 48

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by Surnia
So where do you stop? If you go to uni and see someone with better marks getting extra time, will you ask for it too? In a job, if someone gets extra time to complete their tasks, will you want it too?
It sounds like this has only become an issue because of your friend and it wouldn't bother you otherwise. You don't know all her circumstances, but if you have a problem then shouldn't you be telling your parents and seeing your GP for it to be formally raised with the school?

adjustments are supposed to be reasonable in order to support someone to adequately complete given tasks, there has to be some level of equity involved

Reply 49

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by tamil fever
REP not report. like thumbs up

Ahhh my bad. Had no clue what rep meant. That's why I was confused.

Reply 50

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by Anonymous
No she doesn't have a learning disability or a disorder that makes her have difficulty. She got like 8s and 9s in her GCSE and now we're in year 13, she just happens to do very badly in her mocks and shes asked a teacher if she can have extra time purely because she didn't finish her exams. Not many people finish their exam in my class so idk why she gets to ask and shes close to getting it.
She got a C in her mock for one class and then two Bs in another. She told me that she can't process quickly, but neither can I? It makes me angry how she gets special treatment and I don't even when my grades are clearly lower than hers. I know its not a competition but if teachers opened their eyes more, they would see that she doesn't need it and there are people who do. She complains about how she doesn't get to finish her exams like she did in the GCSEs i can't even complete exams now but i haven't been asking around and seeking help that i don't need.
I just feel like shes using it because she wants an advantage for her alevels.
Should i ask for extra time too or is it too late? I hope they say no to her because this isnt fair.

My advice is focus on what you're doing and your success than what other people are doing. Life's unfair and if she gets this support then that goes to show you just that.

Reply 51

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by Daniel13257
Ahhh my bad. Had no clue what rep meant. That's why I was confused.

Nws man, it's like TSR language at this point lol

Reply 52

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by Anonymous
i didn't force it out of her, she told me everything. She's not proving evidence, she got told to do a writing test

Which is evidence? They're timing her and making her write to see if she can write quicker or slower than the average person. I quite honestly think you're just being selfish, thinking your friend clearly doesn't have problems.

If you think you have a problem, ask. Get a writing test. But putting your friend down and saying she doesn't need it purely because she's predicted high grades is what makes you an awful friend.

A levels are an entirely different workload than GSCEs and exams are a lot more stressful than timed questions because of how tricky the exam board can make the papers. They're inconsistent and use horrible wording to catch people off.

TLDR: Don't be a prick. Ask for help if you think you need it.

Reply 53

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by Anonymous
Which is evidence? They're timing her and making her write to see if she can write quicker or slower than the average person. I quite honestly think you're just being selfish, thinking your friend clearly doesn't have problems.
If you think you have a problem, ask. Get a writing test. But putting your friend down and saying she doesn't need it purely because she's predicted high grades is what makes you an awful friend.
A levels are an entirely different workload than GSCEs and exams are a lot more stressful than timed questions because of how tricky the exam board can make the papers. They're inconsistent and use horrible wording to catch people off.
TLDR: Don't be a prick. Ask for help if you think you need it.
She didn't get it - all im saying is that its not fair to be asking for extra time when your struggling with time, because everyone struggles with time. It doesn't make you special and it doesnt mean you need special treatment unless you have a learning difficulty. Everyone finds alevel hard - doesn't mean you have the right to cheat tho does it. By evidence i meant that she doesn't have a learning disability - she just writes slow - again, like alot of people.

Reply 54

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by cherrycosmos
I have the same thing happening, my mate has slow processing time but her work and contributions in class show otherwise. She doesn't have any disabilities or learning problems either. Lets hope they don't get it lol, if they don't have medical proof, then i don't see why she would get it. There are people who need it for valid reasons but having slow processing time when theres proof that your doing well is just stupid. People just like to abuse the system.

you can have slower processing but still get good grades in class/do better than your peers

Reply 55

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by Chronoscope
Many people are diagnosed late with learning difficulties as an adult - I was myself and didn't get extra time at all in GCSE's but I do at uni :smile: All my coursework at college was coursework so it didn't matter but I did struggle. Just because your friend did fine in GCSEs is completely different to A Levels which are more intense and totally different ballpark. Also, sixth form is more independent compared to college. The coping strategies work fine until they don't :sadnod:

Also, it's not special treatment, she's clearly at a disadvantage. Any adjustments will just bring people up to a level playing field.
The process for getting extra time you need the JCQ paperwork and evidence to prove you actually have the disability to get the adjustments in place so its pretty strict. You can't just 'want extra time' to get it. You usually need to be struggling with a condition e.g. dyslexia, dyspraxia, autism, ADHD etc, which processing speed can affect. So if you're worried about any of these yourself it might be worth having a research and see your GP to see if you can get assessed/referred for assessment.:smile:

Nah, tbf I've heard of cases where people on TSR say that their mates faked having dyslexia or slow processing in order to have extra time (to the point where the mates admit this) and then they get extra time, so there a definitely some people abusing the system in this regard imo but other than that I agree.

not that this applies to the OP's friend but it's something to note imo (re last paragraph).
(edited 1 year ago)

Reply 56

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by Talkative Toad
you can have slower processing but still get good grades in class/do better than your peers
yeah exactly, just because you have slow processing time doesn't mean you should have extra time depending on ur situation

Reply 57

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by cherrycosmos
yeah exactly, just because you have slow processing time doesn't mean you should have extra time depending on ur situation


I mean it does, that’s the point of it. People with slow processing process things slower than than the average person with no slower processing so they need extra time to accommodate for that. Their academic ability is irrelevant, they are receiving accommodations for something that isn’t within their reasonable control.

That’s of the reasons I need extra time regardless of my academic ability.

Reply 58

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by Talkative Toad
I mean it does, that’s the point of it. People with slow processing process things slower than than the average person with no slower processing so they need extra time to accommodate for that. Their academic ability is irrelevant, they are receiving accommodations for something that isn’t within their reasonable control.
That’s of the reasons I need extra time regardless of my academic ability.
Theres a difference between having a slow processing time and having a slow processing time because they have a learning disability or smt. I think people get confused abt that. Because if you were allowed time for the first, then majority of people would have it, including myself. In my experience, I have never been able to finish an exam since year 10, i have had some friends who struggle the same yet we can't do anything abt this bc our school needs proof that we are slow, aka medical proof. Also some people think they are slow processors but in reality they're just stressed which is normal in an exam or having things in exam conditions.

I'm not saying that everyone who gets extra time or wants extra time is like this btw, i completely understand if you struggle - but i think having a slow processing time is something you have consistently rather than having it at random moments which people in my school claim to have. When in reality, what most of them have is being stuck on a question, not knowing what to write down.
Idk this is just my experience tho, I don't want to come across as mean - some people genuinely need it and i understand :smile:

Reply 59

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by cherrycosmos
Theres a difference between having a slow processing time and having a slow processing time because they have a learning disability or smt. I think people get confused abt that. Because if you were allowed time for the first, then majority of people would have it, including myself. In my experience, I have never been able to finish an exam since year 10, i have had some friends who struggle the same yet we can't do anything abt this bc our school needs proof that we are slow, aka medical proof. Also some people think they are slow processors but in reality they're just stressed which is normal in an exam or having things in exam conditions.

I'm not saying that everyone who gets extra time or wants extra time is like this btw, i completely understand if you struggle - but i think having a slow processing time is something you have consistently rather than having it at random moments which people in my school claim to have. When in reality, what most of them have is being stuck on a question, not knowing what to write down.
Idk this is just my experience tho, I don't want to come across as mean - some people genuinely need it and i understand :smile:


If you genuinely have slow processing (to this extent) then maybe it’s worth asking what support and accommodations can be put in place for you rather than doubting others who receive accommodations such as extra time for having the same issue. The person who you’ve mentioned could also have a disability or health condition that they don’t want to disclose to you or in my case wasn’t aware of, thanks mum (assuming that they haven’t admitted to abusing the system like some do in order to get extra time).

But academic ability is irrelevant as I’ve before, you could be getting the top grades in your class but still be someone who has slow processing or a disability. High grades and contributions doesn’t negate the issue is the point that I’m trying to make.

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