Reading signals from a girl

Hello.

So theres this girl that I like, and we would talk and go out clubbing (albeit as part of a group) fairly often. We get on well but i'm not sure if shes just being friendly, or if its worth pursuing further. A 3rd party who knows both of us mentioned to me the other night that i should ask her out, but thinking about it i could think of more reasons against asking than going for it. I guess thats more to do with me not being sure what her thoughts of me are than anything else. Such reasons would include spending many slightly drunk nights out and having nothing happen, her openly telling me she likes other guys, and her different behaviour towards me than to anyone else. So i short, what sort of signs should i be looking for if she quite likes me?

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

OP

Nothing ?? :frown:

Reply 2

Peter North

Anonymous

Hello.

So theres this girl that I like, and we would talk and go out clubbing (albeit as part of a group) fairly often. We get on well but i'm not sure if shes just being friendly, or if its worth pursuing further. A 3rd party who knows both of us mentioned to me the other night that i should ask her out, but thinking about it i could think of more reasons against asking than going for it. I guess thats more to do with me not being sure what her thoughts of me are than anything else. Such reasons would include spending many slightly drunk nights out and having nothing happen, her openly telling me she likes other guys, and her different behaviour towards me than to anyone else. So i short, what sort of signs should i be looking for if she quite likes me?

shell probably get wet when she see's you, so look out for that :smile:

Reply 3

tom_tom_tom

18

I dont think there is any universal "sign" a girl gives out, i would say ask her to get a coffee and/or out for a drink just the two of you and see how things go, if you think it seems to have gone positively and she reacts positive to it, i would breach the subject about if she thinks the realtionship should be more etc...

Reply 4

geminilady

9

well i always touch the guy i fancy like on his arm, or try and hold his gaze if she dances/ sits beside u good sign too,does she give off any signs in particular??

Reply 5

FunkyIguana

I think you have to be honest with your emotions. You really don't want to end up in one of these situations:

http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/friends.png

I know it's a comic, but it's a serious lesson: there's nothing more painful.

Reply 6

WibbleWooble

Geminilady:

When we are in work together, she will sometimes touch my arm when shes speaking to me, starting randomly poking me in the arm for fun the other day as well. She can also be quite risque, showing me corset tops up against her and asking what i think, but she does that with a few people so im not sure if thats a personal thing towards me. When we're out shell look over fairly often, and try and get me to copy her dancing, or at least thats how i perceive it,but even if thats not true shell definately put a concerted effort into dancing a bit more whilst im looking back. Some of this is quite rudiemntary and obvious stuff, like, not sure if any of its relevant.

Reply 7

geminilady

9

think she likes you, all positive signs, but i honestly cant be sure, if you like her you'll jst have to take the plundge and ask her out! Go on! : )

Reply 8

WibbleWooble

For every positive sign, there are instances that could easily be interpreted as negative though, which is whats putting me off asking anything. Do the postive just outweigh the negative?

Reply 9

geminilady

9

well i'd prob have to know the negative signs? does she act the same with you like any other guy? if she does, she might see you only as a friend

Reply 10

beeb375

Aye that's pretty hard to tell, if the girl was normally shy around others then I guess those could be taken as some sort of sign, but I've known plenty of girls who just have a generally outgoing and carefree demeanour and would do all those playful kinds of things as a matter of course.

Basically: Dunno. I'm sooooo helpful.

Reply 11

No.666

12

If she touches your penis, youre deffo in with a shout.

Reply 12

WibbleWooble

beeb375:

Shes quite outgoing and flirty, but at the same time ive never seen her do those thing with anyone else, except one guy 6 years her junior who adores her.

Geminilady:

As i alluded to in my OP, there are a few signs that could be deemed bad from my POV. Firstly, in general, she treats me a lot differently than anyone else ive seen, just in terms of what she says and how she acts, and Im the only one that seems to get this. eg constantly asking me "are you ok?" if were out somewhere. Second of all, surely if something was going to happen it would happen when we are out and both a bit tipsy?
Also she always seems to be texting some guy, or talking about how she likes some guy. I know i cant expect someone to drop everything/everyone and sit and wait for me but at the same time if she was interested shirely id get a random text or something every now and again?

Reply 13

WibbleWooble

Anyone got any views on these "negative signs" ?

Reply 14

kitz

She may be talking about those other guys to make you jealous, or to make you realise that she's up for a relationship. But the flip side - she may just like those other guys.

Reply 15

Cupid Stunt

15

No.666

If she touches your penis, youre deffo in with a shout.

So uncreative yet so funny.

Reply 16

username239687

18

WibbleWooble

For every positive sign, there are instances that could easily be interpreted as negative though, which is whats putting me off asking anything. Do the postive just outweigh the negative?