i hate my moms boyfriend

so my mom has had this boyfriend (who i absoulutley hate!) for like 2 years now and its been off and on, they have seperated like 7 times now.. that guy is a drunk, a manipulator and a jealous freak and hes ruined the all of the holidays we have had, he legit didnt even get my mom a birthday present and was mad when i got her a macbook... i just hate how my mom cant take the rose tinted glasses off and keeps going back to him.. she thinks that its beter to stay with one terrible boyfriend then looking for the one she truly loves, i guess she didnt learn from her past mistakes aka staying with my narc dad for 9 years because of the same mentallity. she has the mental age of a 16 year old. shes also so rude and mean to me when hes there and i hate it. everytime they break up shes so kind until that devil starts begging and manipulating her to come back. then she starts being all *****y again. im just scared that he will be just like my dad and she ends up staying with a drunk forever. it sucks and i hope i can find a place to stay but **** everythings so expensive. i hate it here :frown:

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Anonymous #2

I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through such a tough situation with your mom's boyfriend. It sounds like you're feeling frustrated and concerned about the impact he's having on your family. It can be really difficult when someone we care about continues to go back to a toxic relationship. Remember that you can't control your mom's choices, but you can focus on taking care of yourself and finding support. Is there anyone you trust, like a friend or family member, that you can talk to about what you're going through?how old are you btw

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Sha.xo527

Her bad choices as a grown woman aren’t your responsibility. Retracting care about the matter is the only way to deal with this unfortunately. Let her suffer, you talked to her multiple times and she didn’t listen; let her experience the consequences of her actions upon herself. You’re a child, not a relationship councillor, their relationship issues aren’t yours to worry about anymore. You can’t control people who don’t want to be controlled