Masturbation vs sex for women

I'm a woman, 21 years old (virgin) with pretty low interest in sex, I've started masturbating this year and I like it but only with a vibrator. I can get absolutely nowhere with my hands. I'm sure everyone's gonna tell me I can't know until I try it, but I'm honestly wondering how any guy can possibly hope to make me orgasm if I can't even do it. To other women- can you orgasm without using a vibrator? Can a man make you orgasm?

Does anyone have similar experiences? Is it generally easier for a guy who knows what he's doing than it is to get you there than it is for you to do it on your own? Is there a point having any hopes for sex? With everything I read online I honestly think theres no way I won't hate it, if I'm perfectly honest, but I'd like to have some idea of what to expect. What have other women experienced?

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

As a 18yo woman I barely ever masturbate, but I've got a lovense and it's amazing

Reply 2

ageshallnot

Original post by Anonymous #1

As a 18yo woman I barely ever masturbate, but I've got a lovense and it's amazing

If it's amazing why do you use it so rarely?

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

Original post by ageshallnot

If it's amazing why do you use it so rarely?

low sex drive. i rarely get horny

Reply 4

ageshallnot

Original post by Anonymous

low sex drive. i rarely get horny

A shame. Wasn't your lovense quite expensive?

Reply 5

Anonymous #2

Original post by anonymoose96

I'm a woman, 21 years old (virgin) with pretty low interest in sex, I've started masturbating this year and I like it but only with a vibrator. I can get absolutely nowhere with my hands. I'm sure everyone's gonna tell me I can't know until I try it, but I'm honestly wondering how any guy can possibly hope to make me orgasm if I can't even do it. To other women- can you orgasm without using a vibrator? Can a man make you orgasm?
Does anyone have similar experiences? Is it generally easier for a guy who knows what he's doing than it is to get you there than it is for you to do it on your own? Is there a point having any hopes for sex? With everything I read online I honestly think theres no way I won't hate it, if I'm perfectly honest, but I'd like to have some idea of what to expect. What have other women experienced?

I have had far better orgasms by myself that with men. It's just easier because you know what you like and you can just get it done and done. My experience anyway

Reply 6

Apachecow

No set rule, but there is no logical reason that you cannot achieve an orgasm with a partner that you know and trust. Think of it like trying to tickle yourself - the sensation is more intense when it's someone else. Failing that, there is absolutely no reason that you cannot use a vibrator during sex with a partner.

Reply 7

Anonymous #3

Female, in my late 20s, pretty low sex drive and not much interest in sex. Have never used a vibrator. Have never made myself orgasm. Have never had a partner make me orgasm (admittedly, have only had one sexual partner but we were together for several years). Sex and foreplay with a partner do feel a lot better than masturbation for me though.