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The more you see someone, the more attractive they appear to you?

Hi guys,

I've got a question to ask:

I was with someone for about 3 years but broke up because we were at different stages in life and there were a few things we didn't agree upon. It's been about 2 months now since the break-up and yesterday I just happen to come across a few of his photos. While looking at them, my mind started to wonder about why I was attracted to this person- in terms of looks, he's not really what I would consider attractive based on my preferences such as he has a fat face, broad nose and has lots of redness, acne and black spots on his face and isn't too fashionable, and he's got a baby face which isn't too appealing either.

This got me thinking that is it because the more time we spend time with someone, the more the feeling get very 'familiar' and we see and think of them as more attractive even after the first few months of being together with them.

I don't know, what do you guys think- does the above make sense?
Original post by Anonymous
Hi guys,

I've got a question to ask:

I was with someone for about 3 years but broke up because we were at different stages in life and there were a few things we didn't agree upon. It's been about 2 months now since the break-up and yesterday I just happen to come across a few of his photos. While looking at them, my mind started to wonder about why I was attracted to this person- in terms of looks, he's not really what I would consider attractive based on my preferences such as he has a fat face, broad nose and has lots of redness, acne and black spots on his face and isn't too fashionable, and he's got a baby face which isn't too appealing either.

This got me thinking that is it because the more time we spend time with someone, the more the feeling get very 'familiar' and we see and think of them as more attractive even after the first few months of being together with them.

I don't know, what do you guys think- does the above make sense?

It makes perfect sense, you're describing the mere exposure effect.

It takes time to heal from break ups, particularly after a long relationship. Take your time and try ti minimise things that remind you of him (so maybe stop looking at his photos for a while)

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