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Should we stay friends?

Should we stay friends?

Me and this guy have been talking every single day since August. We get on super well and he is the first person I have ever had feelings for. When we hang out everything is as perfect as I can imagine it being, but he has a girlfriend. Nothing has ever happened between us and he hasn't led me on or tried anything with me and I have never tried anything with him either, which is obviously a good thing as it shows he is loyal. I am firmly friend zoned. I've never even told him about my feelings because that feels wrong to do since he is in a relationship.

I don't know how to stop having feelings for him and just see him as a friend again, as every day my heart breaks a little more that we will never be together and he will never see me in that way. I don't want to stop talking to him as he is my best friend, but I don't want to have feelings for him anymore either. I don't know what to do, any suggestions?

Reply 1

jelllyfiiish

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Original post by Anonymous

Should we stay friends?
Me and this guy have been talking every single day since August. We get on super well and he is the first person I have ever had feelings for. When we hang out everything is as perfect as I can imagine it being, but he has a girlfriend. Nothing has ever happened between us and he hasn't led me on or tried anything with me and I have never tried anything with him either, which is obviously a good thing as it shows he is loyal. I am firmly friend zoned. I've never even told him about my feelings because that feels wrong to do since he is in a relationship.
I don't know how to stop having feelings for him and just see him as a friend again, as every day my heart breaks a little more that we will never be together and he will never see me in that way. I don't want to stop talking to him as he is my best friend, but I don't want to have feelings for him anymore either. I don't know what to do, any suggestions?

I would say stay friends until you get the opportunity to expose your true feelings to him.
Whatever the outcome - I wish you all the best and goodluck! :biggrin:

Reply 2

Anon2463

Original post by Anonymous

Should we stay friends?
Me and this guy have been talking every single day since August. We get on super well and he is the first person I have ever had feelings for. When we hang out everything is as perfect as I can imagine it being, but he has a girlfriend. Nothing has ever happened between us and he hasn't led me on or tried anything with me and I have never tried anything with him either, which is obviously a good thing as it shows he is loyal. I am firmly friend zoned. I've never even told him about my feelings because that feels wrong to do since he is in a relationship.
I don't know how to stop having feelings for him and just see him as a friend again, as every day my heart breaks a little more that we will never be together and he will never see me in that way. I don't want to stop talking to him as he is my best friend, but I don't want to have feelings for him anymore either. I don't know what to do, any suggestions?

No.

You clearly have feelings for him and these do not seem to subside / go away with time.

He has a girlfriend and whether you like it or not you may find that you are directly/indirectly affecting the relationship. Outside of moral obligations, why do you want to feel like you are being seared with a red-hot poker every time you see him? Plenty of other date-able fish in the sea.

I, personally, would not be able to live with myself if I was the cause or even a contributing factor in two people breaking things off.

I guess it all comes down to your morals / personal ethics though. At the same time, I also wouldn't allow myself to be plagued by a "what if" type feeling. Distancing yourself seems like the best option here in my opinion.

Reply 3

Azariah14

Original post by Anonymous

Should we stay friends?
Me and this guy have been talking every single day since August. We get on super well and he is the first person I have ever had feelings for. When we hang out everything is as perfect as I can imagine it being, but he has a girlfriend. Nothing has ever happened between us and he hasn't led me on or tried anything with me and I have never tried anything with him either, which is obviously a good thing as it shows he is loyal. I am firmly friend zoned. I've never even told him about my feelings because that feels wrong to do since he is in a relationship.
I don't know how to stop having feelings for him and just see him as a friend again, as every day my heart breaks a little more that we will never be together and he will never see me in that way. I don't want to stop talking to him as he is my best friend, but I don't want to have feelings for him anymore either. I don't know what to do, any suggestions?

No absolutely not I once was in this situation and personally just don't even go there STOP being friends with him because it'll get worse and if the girlfriend finds out you will have beef with the girl because she will accuse you of trying to take him away from you and when they break up she will tell everyone its due to you

Reply 4

Kathy89

It mostly depends on your personality. If you can handle being friend-zoned until an opportunity comes (if at all) than there is no problem with that.