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Is this pathetic or genuinely something to be upset about

I work in a job with a lot of chavs and young people I am older and am going through a more difficult time and have no friends etc so maybe feel more vulnerable. When I first worked there this kid shouldered me I dunno if he did it deliberately. A bit later he stood right in my face with very little in between us he is also taller than me and has big shoulders and arms and so I shoved him. This has kind of upset me and now I think abott it leaving the job did you think it is a reason to leave a job or be upset about something like that
Original post by Anonymous #1
I work in a job with a lot of chavs and young people I am older and am going through a more difficult time and have no friends etc so maybe feel more vulnerable. When I first worked there this kid shouldered me I dunno if he did it deliberately. A bit later he stood right in my face with very little in between us he is also taller than me and has big shoulders and arms and so I shoved him. This has kind of upset me and now I think abott it leaving the job did you think it is a reason to leave a job or be upset about something like that

Talk to you supervisor/manager about his bullying attitude.
Reply 2
What are you upset about? You need to consider why you reacted so badly and raised your hands to someone, rather than say something to them.
Reply 3
Original post by Surnia
What are you upset about? You need to consider why you reacted so badly and raised your hands to someone, rather than say something to them.

Because they deliberately invaded my personal space although I told them to **** of twice and then pushed them
Original post by Anonymous
Because they deliberately invaded my personal space although I told them to **** of twice and then pushed them


You told someone who stood in your space to **** off? There's obviously a bit more to this.

What were they actually doing? And why didn't you just back off rather than escalating things?
Original post by Anonymous
Talk to you supervisor/manager about his bullying attitude.

'Someone bumped into me so I swore at and attacked them'

How well do you see that complaint going?
Reply 6
no they stood in my face and shouldered me
Reply 7
Original post by Anonymous
no they stood in my face and shouldered me

Two separate incidents.

You don't even know if they 'shouldered' you. You say you are older than your colleagues, therefore you should be taking a more mature response than swearing and shoving. Why didn't you suggest he be more careful or just ask him what he was doing?
Yes, you said that the shouldering occured "When I first worked there". What we're trying to establish is why they were pushing your buttons this time, beyond standing in your space.
Reply 9
It might be because this girl fancied me who he is now seeing also he thinks he is a hard case also he definitely shouldered me on purpose
Original post by Anonymous
It might be because this girl fancied me who he is now seeing also he thinks he is a hard case also he definitely shouldered me on purpose

You said you weren't sure before, but you are now? This story isn't very consistent, is it? The fact it apparently ends with you shoving and swearing at supposedly aggressive and in shape person and then just.... 'nothing' stretches credibility a bit too.
Still absolutely none the wiser about what happened the second time.
Original post by Admit-One
Still absolutely none the wiser about what happened the second time.

Something to do with the girl coming crawling back and the crowd clapping no doubt.
(edited 2 weeks ago)
Reply 13
Original post by StriderHort
Something to do with the girl coming crawling back and the crowd clapping no doubt.

Is that an alternative ending to An Officer and Gentleman?
Original post by StriderHort
Something to do with the girl coming crawling back and the crowd clapping no doubt.


Original post by Surnia
Is that an alternative ending to An Officer and Gentleman?

:biggrin: :biggrin: :biggrin:
Original post by Anonymous
I work in a job with a lot of chavs and young people I am older and am going through a more difficult time and have no friends etc so maybe feel more vulnerable. When I first worked there this kid shouldered me I dunno if he did it deliberately. A bit later he stood right in my face with very little in between us he is also taller than me and has big shoulders and arms and so I shoved him. This has kind of upset me and now I think abott it leaving the job did you think it is a reason to leave a job or be upset about something like that

If the person is genuinely making you uncomfortable or scared to work I'd recommend leaving. Whilst it is good experience to be able to work with people who are just weird (i too work with people deemed as chavs in my county), You need to be able to feel safe and happy to come into work. I'd suggest first tho, talking to your supervisor/manager about what's happened and see if there's anything they suggest or can do themselves to help you. If they don't get the result you wanted, then just leave.
Yeah I might leave but why should I when I have done nothing wrong also the other replies are kind of weird I said it might be because of this girl I don’t actually know why he did that.
He did what.

Stood close to you so you swore and shoved him?

As described you’re in the wrong. But you seem determined not to say what occurred.
just act like you dont care and smile at him it will make him seem pathetic
Original post by chewy06
just act like you dont care and smile at him it will make him seem pathetic

...they already lost their temper, bit late to try playing it cool.

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