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I don't know what to do. There is a new girl who has latched on to me, she's messaging constantly and if I don't answer instantly she'll message again, and then message someone else in my friend group or our whole group to get an answer. If I ignore her she does the same. Then she keeps making out I have a problem with her and creating drama saying other people have said things when they haven't, but is sweet as anything to everyone else and then it makes me look like the bad person raising that i don't particularly like her. I just don't know what to do and how to get rid of her - i feel like she has it in for me and keeps weaseling her way into everything. Does anybody have an advice? I feel like I'm at breaking point with it
Reply 1
just tell the girl that u dont like her
also tell ur friends of her actions
also tell people that she is trying to cause problems as she will probably spread lies
Reply 2
If I did that, again she would use it against me and create the biggest drama.
I have told them, although she is as sweet as anything with them, so some of them don't see any issues which is tricky and making it worse because I can't separate from her
Reply 3
i c this may be a bit extreme but my advice is:
I would do what you probably dread and take Miss Obsession out to a quiet dinner and tell her honestly that you’re gay. lol jk but seriously I would tell her honestly that you are not in to her and that she is hard to deal with. Don’t tell her how funny she is. Don’t tell her how pretty she is. She doesn't care if she is the cats meow to a bunch of other dogs, she wants YOU. Compliments will further server her delusion that you notice things in her that other men couldn’t, or that you have repressed feelings that even you cant see… or whatever she is telling herself.
It’s probably going to seem ‘rude’ or like you’re being a d***, but it doesn't need to be. Keep your intent in a good place, but don’t back down from your purpose. It’s not healthy for her.
I wonder what you did or said that has her mind all twisted for you. Do you make good money? Maybe she’s mentally spending it over and over and just wishes she could get her real claws in you so she could spend it physically. That’s me being cynical. Good luck with your lady friend!
Reply 4
Original post by JF ZAK
i c this may be a bit extreme but my advice is:
I would do what you probably dread and take Miss Obsession out to a quiet dinner and tell her honestly that you’re gay. lol jk but seriously I would tell her honestly that you are not in to her and that she is hard to deal with. Don’t tell her how funny she is. Don’t tell her how pretty she is. She doesn't care if she is the cats meow to a bunch of other dogs, she wants YOU. Compliments will further server her delusion that you notice things in her that other men couldn’t, or that you have repressed feelings that even you cant see… or whatever she is telling herself.
It’s probably going to seem ‘rude’ or like you’re being a d***, but it doesn't need to be. Keep your intent in a good place, but don’t back down from your purpose. It’s not healthy for her.
I wonder what you did or said that has her mind all twisted for you. Do you make good money? Maybe she’s mentally spending it over and over and just wishes she could get her real claws in you so she could spend it physically. That’s me being cynical. Good luck with your lady friend!

I’m a girl but I guess this could work the same 😂
Reply 5
Original post by Anonymous #1
I’m a girl but I guess this could work the same 😂

so u saying the girl is a lesbian
i thought were a male sorry
just kinda change it a bit
but dont give up
Original post by Anonymous #1
I don't know what to do. There is a new girl who has latched on to me, she's messaging constantly and if I don't answer instantly she'll message again, and then message someone else in my friend group or our whole group to get an answer. If I ignore her she does the same. Then she keeps making out I have a problem with her and creating drama saying other people have said things when they haven't, but is sweet as anything to everyone else and then it makes me look like the bad person raising that i don't particularly like her. I just don't know what to do and how to get rid of her - i feel like she has it in for me and keeps weaseling her way into everything. Does anybody have an advice? I feel like I'm at breaking point with it


personally, as a male i would politely tell her that i’m not interested/ don’t like her and tell her to stop bugging me. If she kept on going after that i would just ignore.

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