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Horrible random energy with my first boyfriend who is loveky

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Dater for a few months. Both 19.
My first relationship. After most dates we both start to feel very drained and it can become very physically ill. For some reason we run out of stuff to talk about and this progresses into a horrible stomach feeling and I feel like I will throw up. We both say we are fine with awkward silence but why does this happen. There is a horrible exhausting energy which comes randomly.
I get this in very odd socially uncomfortable situations. I really like this guy but worried as to what this means and how to fix it.
Also we can do long walks as I'm worried this will happen or we will run out of convo. Also I'm scared of just hanging out and doing museums or shopping or nights out due to this horrible energy. I worry I'm an energy vampure. He's very lovely and we both have nice memories together. Also he is on his phone when having first family dinner together. I become very worried by these. I am naturally very anxious person. Any good back up convo I should have? How do I navigate this relationship? Also any supplements for anxiety?
What should I say and do.thanks
Original post by Damitr05
What to do
Dater for a few months. Both 19.
My first relationship. After most dates we both start to feel very drained and it can become very physically ill. For some reason we run out of stuff to talk about and this progresses into a horrible stomach feeling and I feel like I will throw up. We both say we are fine with awkward silence but why does this happen. There is a horrible exhausting energy which comes randomly.
I get this in very odd socially uncomfortable situations. I really like this guy but worried as to what this means and how to fix it.
Also we can do long walks as I'm worried this will happen or we will run out of convo. Also I'm scared of just hanging out and doing museums or shopping or nights out due to this horrible energy. I worry I'm an energy vampure. He's very lovely and we both have nice memories together. Also he is on his phone when having first family dinner together. I become very worried by these. I am naturally very anxious person. Any good back up convo I should have? How do I navigate this relationship? Also any supplements for anxiety?
What should I say and do.thanks
Ur relationship doesn't sound great, there shouldnt be exhausting energy after a couple of months. The relationship drains both of you and its not a good thing. You're not as compatible as you think you are and the warning signs are everywhere. Ask him what he thinks about all of this, maybe its just you. If he feels the same way then breaking up would be better for both of you
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Natural silences should never be awkward between a couple who get on well together. If you feel you have to fill every minute together with conversation, then it can mean you are trying to make up for something else that is missing from the relationship.

You should be enjoying time as a couple. Can't you go to a museum and just appreciate the fact that you are doing something together and look at the exhibits without a running commentary? Or walk together and have fun holding hands and liking the fresh air and sights and sounds? It can be quite intimate having touch without words. Try it, and if it still doesn't work, as above, you aren't compatible.

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