Confidence

Hii,
How do I become more confident in school?
I'm in Year 11 and bullying and feeling extremely insecure from year 8 to mid year 10 has really affected me and I just feel so insecure and not myself at school. I got bullied for wearing glasses and obviously I still have to wear them but I feel so ugly in them.
Can anyone help? Thank-you, i'm not trying to attention seek or anything I'm just fed up of feeling this way

Reply 1

JF ZAK

i have a friend who had the same problem
what i recommended was wearing contacts if u feel it cauzing problems but its yr 11 the last time u will c them
in yr12 and 13 life is different and u will find better poeple
dont care wht people say as u r the best and hose people r those who will do horrible in life
good luck
and believe in ur beauty

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Original post by JF ZAK

Thankyou so much 🙂 This really helped, It means alot

Reply 3

JF ZAK

Original post by Anonymous

Thankyou so much 🙂 This really helped, It means alot

good luck

Reply 4

Kathy89

Hey. Talk to me.
I've been through bullying since year 7 to sort of end of the high school.
Feel free to share and ask for specific advice.

As for glasses, contacts may be a good solution.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

Original post by Kathy89

Hey. Talk to me.
I've been through bullying since year 7 to sort of end of the high school.
Feel free to share and ask for specific advice.
As for glasses, contacts may be a good solution.

thanks I will look into getting contacts :smile:

I really want to tell someone about it but the girls will call me snitch and idk what to do

Reply 6

Kathy89

Original post by Anonymous

thanks I will look into getting contacts :smile:

I really want to tell someone about it but the girls will call me snitch and idk what to do

You can share here.
The best part of the internet is that it is anonymous in a way.

Reply 7

Lttale

Original post by Anonymous

Not to fully disagree with the crowd here, on the contact lenses point, but, if you prefer contact lenses for movement reasons, sure, but otherwise it probably isn't a permanent solution. But if that works for you in the end, then it's all good.

I was bullied from mid primary school to mid/end of secondary (covid changed things us a bit). I only mentioned the above because I got quite a lot for my teeth and just general personality, I had braces and in the end, my teeth are a lot better, but it hasn't helped me forget much, and most of that has come from elsewhere.

You could always get new frames, try a different style, that kind of thing to symbolise turning over a new leaf. Something that looks pretty and makes yourself feel confident, especially if it's the glasses that make you feel like that or exacerbate the issue. New pair of glass is a new look, a new start.

I had a friend once suggest to look in the mirror every morning and say 'I'm amazing' or think it if that's too embarrassing, and come up with a good couple of reasons why - nothing deep, or it doesn't have to be, it can be what you're good at, a niche bit of knowledge you have or something you're proud of, maybe you've done your hair differently or painted your nails or are wearing something nice or decided to try something new, that kind of thing.

Going to a teacher or someone can be hard, and if it's really bad that might be the right decision, but it's always a good idea to have someone to confide in.

Another way to build confidence is to talk to people, people you might not be too close to at the moment. Go up to another classmate strike up a conversation, like an open one about favourite genres or subjects or something. Most people, I've found, are fairly open to this sort of thing, and it can help bolster your confidence because it takes guts to decide to do it in the first place, and it helps provide support.

Either way, things will get better. I hope I've been some help, and that you find something that works for you. Even posting something like this takes confidence. I wish you all the best.