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In love with a girl so much it makes me depressed

Over this past year, I've met the most beautiful girl of my life. She is everything I can ask for in a girl. She has the looks, the brains, and just damn beautiful. I currently work with this girl pretty much everyday for a good 7-9 hours. We often break together, talk while on shift, and even leave together. Not to mention we text each other a few times a day. I'm not gonna lie, So I'll just say it- I LOVE HER with all my heart. I'd die for her if I had to. But I learned she has a boyfriend and I've tried my very best to move on, but I can't. I often cry at night thinking how much better my life would be if I was with her. How even after a bad day, I can go home and see her beautiful face and tell her how much I love her. My friends tell me to move on, but I can't. I see women everyday but I pay them no attention because I love this one so much. Not to mention her boyfriend is a scrub who does pot, etc,, My situation has really affected me life. I feel more depressed and really don't care for things as much anymore. I really want to just tell her how I feel, but I don't want to make things awkward either. Is there a more better way of telling her without so much saying " I love you"? The whole situation is really making me feel like crud to be honest. :frown:

Reply 1

Captain Biggles

2

To be honest, mate, it's best to just move on. I've been in a similar situation once and I just forced myself to move on. It will be much harder for you since you see her everyday but it's for the best. In this scenario, the girl in question tends to be very happy with the boyfriend, even though to everyone else but her he is a ****. I wouldn't tell her how you feel because you'll inevitably upset her and make things awkward between you both.

Reply 2

caroline147

14

Two choices:
-tell her
-move on

Obviously, either one would be difficult, but you're going to have to choose one if you want to resolve this problem.

Reply 3

Dark Horse of the Race

8

See, you probably don't love her. It's probably just lust or obsession.
But that doesn't mean you can't give it a shot.
I've been in the same situation and what I did was text her telling her I LIKE liked her but I understood that she was taken I just had to let her know how I felt. I said even though it's not what I wish for, I was happy being her friend and didn't want this to change anything between us.
If she likes you it will at least cause her to think over her relationship and, if her boyfriend is as prickish as you say, she may think of you as the grass on the other side.

The greener side, by the way.

Reply 4

Dark Horse of the Race

8

And why are people still awake!?

Reply 5

Travis_Bickle

Dark Horse of the Race

And why are people still awake!?

They're not. We're all in your head, you see.

Reply 6

Dark Horse of the Race

8

Travis_Bickle

They're not. We're all in your head, you see.

Oh dear... It's happening again...

:woo:

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

see i like a girl with a boyfriend and i feel same way about her as u have described. damit i hate this. im trying to move on tho.

Reply 8

Double Agent

18

It sounds like infactuation rather than love. You need to get over it, telling her how you feel may help you to do this, but may crush you, either way move on.

Reply 9

taylorrrr96

13

Double Agent

It sounds like infactuation rather than love.

agree^

Reply 10

Mr. Tinkertrain

Jump into the fray and expose your love. Its the only way.

u dont love her.

you just gotta tell her mate

Reply 13

Dr.Hox

9

1) Tell her, get rejected, get over it, realise it wasnt love but just the usual teenage infatuation.
2) Tell her, break up a relantionship, go out with her, realise she aint all that and feel cheated anyway.

These are your options.

Reply 14

Darkness and Mist

9

Beneficial

Over this past year, I've met the most beautiful girl of my life. She is everything I can ask for in a girl. She has the looks, the brains, and just damn beautiful. I currently work with this girl pretty much everyday for a good 7-9 hours. We often break together, talk while on shift, and even leave together. Not to mention we text each other a few times a day. I'm not gonna lie, So I'll just say it- I LOVE HER with all my heart. I'd die for her if I had to. But I learned she has a boyfriend and I've tried my very best to move on, but I can't. I often cry at night thinking how much better my life would be if I was with her. How even after a bad day, I can go home and see her beautiful face and tell her how much I love her. My friends tell me to move on, but I can't. I see women everyday but I pay them no attention because I love this one so much. Not to mention her boyfriend is a scrub who does pot, etc,, My situation has really affected me life. I feel more depressed and really don't care for things as much anymore. I really want to just tell her how I feel, but I don't want to make things awkward either. Is there a more better way of telling her without so much saying " I love you"? The whole situation is really making me feel like crud to be honest. :frown:

Look to me it seems like you are obsessed and maybe you need to see a counselor or your GP, you may be in love but not acting on those feelings sooner has obviously made you a bit unstable. You may also be more obsessed with the fact that you know you cant have her. This is a very bad behaviour pattern to get into and you need to get this adressed by a professional. The last thing you want is to end up as a stalker mate.

I cant beleive the other users havent thought that this kind of behaviour and obession is just a bit wierd and may be the consequence of a pyschological problem developing.

Reply 15

Malsy

18

Nothing you can do about it if she doesn't feel the same; harsh reality mate, that everyone experiences. xx

Reply 16

Dr.Hox

9

Lol this isnt a psychological problem, GPs get enough rubbish already, every teenager goes through this crap.

Reply 17

Eien

16

I am pretty much in the same situation with a guy who already has a girlfriend, in fact, I have had this situation every single time I have been interested in someone (be they with a girlfriend, or just not interested in me, or gay). What is difficult in this situation (which you may feel too) is that your feelings are not acknowledged, and are worth jack **** to anyone else because you can't act upon them, but if you can acknowledge them yourself, and let yourself compartmentalise this feeling, you can start to let go of the wish to be with her, or wondering whether she could be with you, which is the most damaging thing. Of course you may be surprised and she ends up going for you after dumping her boyfriend, but it's probably the worst thing for you to hope for this and have your hopes smashed. If you can, try and devote yourself to something else you are passionate about, and focus your energies upon that rather than the negative energy that one inevitably generates by hoping for an unlikely cause.

Reply 18

The_Bear

13

Dr.Hox

1) Tell her, get rejected, get over it, realise it wasnt love but just the usual teenage infatuation.
2) Tell her, break up a relantionship, go out with her, realise she aint all that and feel cheated anyway.

These are your options.

At least with option 2 he'll get it pumped.

Reply 19

Stubert

jggb

beat up her boyfriend prove yourself as a real man.

Na, you're only a real man if you do this, eat the oppositions heart, do the victory dance and then blood puke everywhere.

In love with a girl so much it makes me depressed

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