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In a LDR and may like someone else?

Hi my bf goes uni. Our relationship is going well but Idk sometimes i don’t feel happy…
What do i do???? Is this bad? I’ve never liked someone or anything in our relationship? But im feeling more and more distant from my bf… it’s horrible.
There’s things that my bf has done to kinda be put off but then again, i may be too sensitive.
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I was in an LDR for 18 months, by ex lived in the USA. Here are a few things I learned:

Communication is the most important thing. Communicate about your relationship, how you are feeling, to literally anything and everything else in your life. Knowing how the other person's day was, their plans etc, really helped me to feel connected.

Make time for date nights. There are so many activities you can do virtually, from watching a movie/tv show, having a dinner date, virtual escape rooms, playing games, or just enjoying eachother's company. Just because there is physical distance, it doesn't mean you should see any less of each other.

Always know when the next trip is to see one another. This gives you something to look forward to, something to plan.


Now, if there are things your bf has done to put you off, that is a different matter. Being "too sensitive" is not a valid concern. You are entitled to feel the way you do, you should validate those feelings and importantly, communicate them with your partner, so they know never to repeat that action.

If you think you like someone else, that is ok, it doesn't make you a horrible person. But, you need to decide what you want, otherwise its unfair to everyone, including you. You all deserve to be happy.

Hope this helps 🙂
Original post by Anonymous
Hi my bf goes uni. Our relationship is going well but Idk sometimes i don’t feel happy…
What do i do???? Is this bad? I’ve never liked someone or anything in our relationship? But im feeling more and more distant from my bf… it’s horrible.
There’s things that my bf has done to kinda be put off but then again, i may be too sensitive.

hey, i was in this sort of situation but on the opposite end.

my girlfriend and i were in a LDR for just over a year (broke up and got back together midway through) and things fell apart due to heavy school workloads, exams and the 4 hour drive between us.

please talk with your boyfriend about how you're feeling. it's not fair on yourself if you could be happier single/with someone else and it's not fair on him if you're not on the same page. an in-person conversation would be much better for you both if it's possible to meet up

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