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Chores

Is it rude to say ‘no ‘ to my parents when they ask me to do chores for them? If I feel it’s me doing most of it, and my brother does little to nothing.

Reply 1

hotpud

When you say most what do you do? Cooking for the family? Ironing for the family? Cleaning/ vacuuming the whole house? Cleaning the bathroom? Gardening?

Reply 2

Syed998

Original post by hotpud

When you say most what do you do? Cooking for the family? Ironing for the family? Cleaning/ vacuuming the whole house? Cleaning the bathroom? Gardening?

Yep .
Cleaning the house , cooking, sorting the laundry out.

Reply 3

hotpud

Original post by Syed998

Yep .
Cleaning the house , cooking, sorting the laundry out.

Well good for you. You are discovering the joys of being a grown up. You could always do your bit and not include anyone else.

Reply 4

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Your parents will most likely take it badly. Arguably, it's a good thing for teenagers to get into the habit of doing chores. Once you move out you'll be doing all of the chores on top of studying or working full-time.

Say yes to what you can reasonably manage. Say no if it will impact your schoolwork. If you feel the division of chores between you and your brother is unfair then discuss that with them using neutral language. For example, don't approach them with "it's unfair I do more than my brother", instead approach it as, "I think this could be fairer, for example, brother could do X, Y, and Z and I could do A, B, and C."