i recently got a place on a foundation year at my dream uni (it is a competitive uni) for a competitive subject. i was super proud of myself, especially considering the fact that in the last few years i have had a lot of difficult circumstances that led to me underachieving in my a levels.
the issue is, im starting to feel like i dont deserve it. i went to a private school for my a levels, i am not financially disadvantaged at all, and when i told my friend that i had got in and i was so excited (this friend is alr at uni, achieved all A*s and went to the same school) they were telling me that it’s unfair that im taking up a place for a ‘student who needs it and that i didn’t get the grades so i should be paying the price.
for context, i am a very hard working person. i would prefer not to share details, but i have had some ongoing experiences that genuinely have led to my education being disrupted (in addition to having a late diagnosis of adhd that had an impact on a lot of my learning) i should have been achieving A*s, and my teachers knew this, but i carried a lot of weight on my shoulders that was a constant distraction from my education, and unfortunately led to my attendance at school dropping (even though I completed as much work as possible, was known as a ‘smart’ student who other students would ask for help etc)
I applied for a foundation year as a transition, and as it seemed like a way to attend my dream university despite underachieving in my a levels. The university were very selective in how they chose the students for the course, and genuinely read through our situations etc.
I’m now feeling stuck: what my friend said to me has led to me feeling like I don’t deserve my spot at this university and that I should attend a less prestigious uni because my grades were what I achieved despite having a private education from a good school.
Is it unfair that I have a place?