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Questioning my gender and sexual orientation

Hi everyone, I've identified as lesbian for quite a few years now but I've recently developed a crush on a boy who's really nice and is bi so can relate to me in some ways. Also, I've recently been questioning if I'm genderfluid because I feel like I fluctuate in how I feel and express myself depending on the day. I haven't got a clue what to call myself as bi/pan doesn't feel right and queer is slightly better but people insist it is still an offensive label to some and I don't want to make people uncomfortable by calling myself that.

Reply 1

Gerd9

Do what you feel is best for you, we are all different anyway...

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

You are bisexual if you are attracted to both male and female people, and being female isn’t about feeling anything. We just are female. Stereotypical behaviour isn’t what makes someone a woman. I find this idea very conservative that people think thar changing their clothes or hair has somehow made them a different ‘gender’. It’s exactly what we used to fight against. I’m a lesbian who is feeling very jaded with it all.

And yes, I find the word queer offensive and get the impression that those who use it don’t care about the offence that they might cause.