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How to slowly stop being close friends with my best friend?

So short story. I met my bestfriend ( guy bf) in 2020 we started being in touch texting everyday updating each other, hanging out etc.. ofc he wanted me i knew it but I always made it clear, he knew i see him as a friend, lol bcs actually i was crazy in love with his bestfriend. We text every day but after 4 years it starts to be annoying to me, back then we were students, just typical highschool life, now im living in China for couple of months and I have different life, i meet new ppl.. I have no time to update him or even reply on his messages bcs He is in europe my life is in asia + the timezone is different. As i think of those 4 years of being bestfriends I feel like he ruined my chances to be with his bestfriend, he knew i wanted him but never actually helped me.. why? bcs he was in love with me and ai bet his thoughts were if i cannot have her nobody else will.. Now i reply slower sometimes i dont text him at all for full 1 day but he cannot survive one day of not texting me obviously he is forcing conversation sometimes so much that he sends me random ******** as reel or something and it’s not even funny… what shoulf i do?
Just explain to him that you're a bad friend and he deserves better. If he doesn't understand show him this post and he'll get it.
^ This
Whatever else is happening with this guy bf, it wasn't up to him to be a matchmaker. If you wanted to be with his friend, it was up to you to do something, so don't blame him for your choices.
Classic let's blame someone else syndrome.
(edited 7 months ago)

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