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Gap year due to mh

I’ve been in a depressive episode for nearly a year and believe that university will be my downfall. There is no way that I will cope and want a year off to sort my head out. I’ll get a job and work on myself to ensure that university is the best years of my life. The only issue is that my parents dont understand and the university is a half hour drive away from home so it’s like there isnt a point in doing a gap year, what should I do?????
Original post by helpp pls
I’ve been in a depressive episode for nearly a year and believe that university will be my downfall. There is no way that I will cope and want a year off to sort my head out. I’ll get a job and work on myself to ensure that university is the best years of my life. The only issue is that my parents dont understand and the university is a half hour drive away from home so it’s like there isnt a point in doing a gap year, what should I do?????


When would you be starting University? Universities do offer wellbeing services which you may find really valuable! But I understand wanting to take a gap year too, its perfectly ok to do that if you want to take a year out to focus on you.
Is that the same thing as a gap year? Usually you are expected to explain gaps in CV but the older you get the less relevant it seems
Original post by wanga_wanga
Is that the same thing as a gap year? Usually you are expected to explain gaps in CV but the older you get the less relevant it seems


Yes it’s the same. Gap years at undergraduate level are perfectly normal and acceptable.
Original post by Autumn223
Yes it’s the same. Gap years at undergraduate level are perfectly normal and acceptable.

by whom?
Original post by helpp pls
I’ve been in a depressive episode for nearly a year and believe that university will be my downfall. There is no way that I will cope and want a year off to sort my head out. I’ll get a job and work on myself to ensure that university is the best years of my life. The only issue is that my parents dont understand and the university is a half hour drive away from home so it’s like there isnt a point in doing a gap year, what should I do?????

Ive tried to tag you but no idea if thats a thing.

https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=7464682#post99355485
Original post by wanga_wanga
Ive tried to tag you but no idea if thats a thing.
https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=7464682#post99355485


While I’m sure thats really helpful for most looking to take a gap year, these two users are in very different shoes.
Original post by Autumn223
While I’m sure thats really helpful for most looking to take a gap year, these two users are in very different shoes.

if you say so, they asked about specific affects of it, these may or may not be able to help with that, or the OP can ignore. Thanks for your input though.
Original post by wanga_wanga
if you say so, they asked about specific affects of it, these may or may not be able to help with that, or the OP can ignore. Thanks for your input though.


I just think its important to recognise the mental health aspect. Degrees can be very demanding, I’d encourage anyone who recognises they are struggling before starting university to consider a gap year or options which can make their first year easier. Lots of stress can come from moving away from home for the first time too (even if its still close). Sometimes in this scenario its best to keep things consistent and consider postponing their studies, as long as they do something whilst they aren’t in education to build up skills :smile:
Original post by Autumn223
I just think its important to recognise the mental health aspect. Degrees can be very demanding, I’d encourage anyone who recognises they are struggling before starting university to consider a gap year or options which can make their first year easier. Lots of stress can come from moving away from home for the first time too (even if its still close). Sometimes in this scenario its best to keep things consistent and consider postponing their studies, as long as they do something whilst they aren’t in education to build up skills :smile:

Oh, of course it is. Knowing the impact and having this anxiety put aside through others experiences may help this person move towards accepting they need the break. Sometimes people need "permission"
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Original post by wanga_wanga
Ive tried to tag you but no idea if thats a thing.
https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=7464682#post99355485

Tysm for taking time to do that :smile:)
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Original post by Autumn223
I just think its important to recognise the mental health aspect. Degrees can be very demanding, I’d encourage anyone who recognises they are struggling before starting university to consider a gap year or options which can make their first year easier. Lots of stress can come from moving away from home for the first time too (even if its still close). Sometimes in this scenario its best to keep things consistent and consider postponing their studies, as long as they do something whilst they aren’t in education to build up skills :smile:

That’s the thing! When I start university I’m just going to live at home to save money, I’m just worried about starting university with the wrong mindset meaning I won’t strive to enjoy all aspects of it if that makes sense. I want to go in with better mental health in order to enjoy it rather than go this year due to societal pressures and feel unhappy
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Original post by wanga_wanga
Oh, of course it is. Knowing the impact and having this anxiety put aside through others experiences may help this person move towards accepting they need the break. Sometimes people need "permission"

You’re absolutely right! It’s nice to have reassurance and I guess “permission” as well, since everyone I ask in real life is unsure about me taking a gap year and encourages me not to

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