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I think I'm autistic.

i think I am autistic and have been thinking about this for a long time.
I have obsessive interests that are different to my peers, over the top interest about varying topics that nobody tends to know anything about. I have sensory issues, and cannot sit still in class without feeling like I need to touch something to be able to concentrate, making teachers think I’m being disrespectful. I find the school uniform overstimulating, the edge of my tights touching my feet and the blazer touching my arms in all the wrong places. This makes just a normal day in school more difficult than it should be, or than it is for many students. Every social interaction or conversation I have feels forced, so I tend not to speak for fear of appearing abnormal. I adjust how I act in different settings to make the people around me think that I am “normal”, and I have felt inherently different from all of my classmates and everyone close to me ever since I was a child. Every small sound that other students can dismiss, every change in smell, everything that touches me feels wrong and it’s only been getting worse recently.
I've spoken to my friends who are autistic, and they think I'm very likely to be. I've researched for hours on end and it seems to all be checking out. I've taken the online autism tests (which aren't a good indicator, or diagnostic, I'm aware) and I've got high and even full marks on a lot of them. I want to take steps towards a diagnosis but I'm 14 and my mum won't take me seriously. My school is switching the head of my year group, and the mental health lead is on maternity leave, so I don't know who to go to who will have dealt with a similar situation before and can help me.
I have been in this exact situation and its very frustrating, unfortunately if your parents are not taking you seriously then this complicates matters, it certainly did for me, as parents need to consent to an assessment. You would need to speak to your school’s SENCo but bare in mind that they might not take your concerns further due to the lack of parental support, especially if you are not presenting any significant challenges for staff.
I would definitely speak to the SENCo if this is concerning you significantly, especially if you think you require support at school and a diagnosis is important to you and your identity.
Original post by Anonymous
i think I am autistic and have been thinking about this for a long time.
I have obsessive interests that are different to my peers, over the top interest about varying topics that nobody tends to know anything about. I have sensory issues, and cannot sit still in class without feeling like I need to touch something to be able to concentrate, making teachers think I’m being disrespectful. I find the school uniform overstimulating, the edge of my tights touching my feet and the blazer touching my arms in all the wrong places. This makes just a normal day in school more difficult than it should be, or than it is for many students. Every social interaction or conversation I have feels forced, so I tend not to speak for fear of appearing abnormal. I adjust how I act in different settings to make the people around me think that I am “normal”, and I have felt inherently different from all of my classmates and everyone close to me ever since I was a child. Every small sound that other students can dismiss, every change in smell, everything that touches me feels wrong and it’s only been getting worse recently.
I've spoken to my friends who are autistic, and they think I'm very likely to be. I've researched for hours on end and it seems to all be checking out. I've taken the online autism tests (which aren't a good indicator, or diagnostic, I'm aware) and I've got high and even full marks on a lot of them. I want to take steps towards a diagnosis but I'm 14 and my mum won't take me seriously. My school is switching the head of my year group, and the mental health lead is on maternity leave, so I don't know who to go to who will have dealt with a similar situation before and can help me.

I bellieve that I too am an undiagnosed autistic / aspergers (or as they call all now "Neurodivergent" to cover all differences, and there are many) Elon Musk also is autistic, high spectrum that is. My advice is to get tested and do not let it stop you making friends ,socialising etc etc, learn from my mistakes. Too late for me, but for you I am sure you have long successful life ahead. Let me suggest this also, get a good therapist, perhaps a Hypnotherapist and you can overcome that "shyness" that way. . Ah just noted you are14, that may make getting hypnotherapist harder without parents consent and money.
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Original post by Anonymous
i think I am autistic and have been thinking about this for a long time.
I have obsessive interests that are different to my peers, over the top interest about varying topics that nobody tends to know anything about. I have sensory issues, and cannot sit still in class without feeling like I need to touch something to be able to concentrate, making teachers think I’m being disrespectful. I find the school uniform overstimulating, the edge of my tights touching my feet and the blazer touching my arms in all the wrong places. This makes just a normal day in school more difficult than it should be, or than it is for many students. Every social interaction or conversation I have feels forced, so I tend not to speak for fear of appearing abnormal. I adjust how I act in different settings to make the people around me think that I am “normal”, and I have felt inherently different from all of my classmates and everyone close to me ever since I was a child. Every small sound that other students can dismiss, every change in smell, everything that touches me feels wrong and it’s only been getting worse recently.
I've spoken to my friends who are autistic, and they think I'm very likely to be. I've researched for hours on end and it seems to all be checking out. I've taken the online autism tests (which aren't a good indicator, or diagnostic, I'm aware) and I've got high and even full marks on a lot of them. I want to take steps towards a diagnosis but I'm 14 and my mum won't take me seriously. My school is switching the head of my year group, and the mental health lead is on maternity leave, so I don't know who to go to who will have dealt with a similar situation before and can help me.

As an autistic, I think you probably are too. It’s great that you’ve recognised it, it might actually make you feel better to know why you think and feel certain ways (eg i used to think i was mad for no reason, when really the lights were too bright, i could hear the fridge and 5 different conversations at the same time). I get it about your family finding it hard to understand, there are very specific stereotypes about autism that makes people think if you are not maybe a level 3 non-verbal person, you don’t have it. It will take her time to get her head around. I have been in this situation too sort of thinking maybe I was but wasn’t entirely sure, I would talk to your school’s learning support about getting assessed or having a pre-assessment, I know they do that in some schools. Be aware that NHS has a 2 year waiting list- I’m not saying go private but just something to be aware of so it isnt a shock.

Something I would do for your own benefit before is do things to help you. With sounds, consider LOOP earbuds. They’re really discreet (especially the clear loop ones) and can cut noise quite considerably (I use them in class and out and about), consider getting things that will meet your sensory needs when you feel overwhelmed, that might be a weighted blanket, a little fidget toy (like one of those bubble pop things). Ahead of talking to someone or before an assessment i would keep a little diary of how you feel, what kind of things bother you or upset you, just to help build a picture, particularly if you are someone who maybe can hide your traits from the average eye.

Hope that helps, best of luck :smile:
Even as a 14 year old, you can contact your GP yourself. So if you want to get diagnosed, contact your GP for an appointment - they'll then do a referral for you

- Works for the NHS in a GP surgery
Maybe you could ask your parents if they would agree to an assessment, even if they don't think you are (sound like it and I'm also autistic) then you could say then it will prove them right but it also provides the assessment for you and it might just be something that your parents are trying to come to terms with.
Sometimes people might know one autistic person and think oh my child isn't like them and they haven't had as much education and it takes longer to accept but I would say its worth a try talking to them about it
Original post by Jess_Lomas
Maybe you could ask your parents if they would agree to an assessment, even if they don't think you are (sound like it and I'm also autistic) then you could say then it will prove them right but it also provides the assessment for you and it might just be something that your parents are trying to come to terms with.
Sometimes people might know one autistic person and think oh my child isn't like them and they haven't had as much education and it takes longer to accept but I would say its worth a try talking to them about it

Yes good advice indeed. The OP might also like to start the conversation with by saying "...Did you know that Elon Musk one of richest men in World says that he is diagnosed autistic ....". There is a reason that the Medical profession have/are changing the name to "neurodivergent" ,which is that there is a whole spectrum of differences and that better describes the spectrum.
Original post by anonymouse2024
Yes good advice indeed. The OP might also like to start the conversation with by saying "...Did you know that Elon Musk one of richest men in World says that he is diagnosed autistic ....". There is a reason that the Medical profession have/are changing the name to "neurodivergent" ,which is that there is a whole spectrum of differences and that better describes the spectrum.

They're not changing the name of ASD to neurodivergent
Neurodivergent is an umbrella term for many conditions where the brain works in unqiue ways rather than the new term for ASD
For me it was a little different as my parents suspected me and the school had concerns but around 15 we started the offical process and I started by telling them about the AQ tests etc and other traits about why and then we went from there. I would say maybe compairing it to a famous person might not be the best as they might interpret that as you wanting it because they're like that. Maybe just talk about your own experiences
Original post by Jess_Lomas
They're not changing the name of ASD to neurodivergent
Neurodivergent is an umbrella term for many conditions where the brain works in unqiue ways rather than the new term for ASD
A “neurodivergent” person refers to a person on the autism spectrum or, more generally, to someone whose brain processes information in a way that is not typical of most individuals.
Original post by anonymouse2024
A “neurodivergent” person refers to a person on the autism spectrum or, more generally, to someone whose brain processes information in a way that is not typical of most individuals.
Someone who is autistic is neurodivergent but not every neurodivergent person is autistic

Frequent refernce to autistic people but isn't the only condition that would cause someone to be neurodivergent therefore they aren't used interchangibly
Original post by Anonymous
i think I am autistic and have been thinking about this for a long time.
I have obsessive interests that are different to my peers, over the top interest about varying topics that nobody tends to know anything about. I have sensory issues, and cannot sit still in class without feeling like I need to touch something to be able to concentrate, making teachers think I’m being disrespectful. I find the school uniform overstimulating, the edge of my tights touching my feet and the blazer touching my arms in all the wrong places. This makes just a normal day in school more difficult than it should be, or than it is for many students. Every social interaction or conversation I have feels forced, so I tend not to speak for fear of appearing abnormal. I adjust how I act in different settings to make the people around me think that I am “normal”, and I have felt inherently different from all of my classmates and everyone close to me ever since I was a child. Every small sound that other students can dismiss, every change in smell, everything that touches me feels wrong and it’s only been getting worse recently.
I've spoken to my friends who are autistic, and they think I'm very likely to be. I've researched for hours on end and it seems to all be checking out. I've taken the online autism tests (which aren't a good indicator, or diagnostic, I'm aware) and I've got high and even full marks on a lot of them. I want to take steps towards a diagnosis but I'm 14 and my mum won't take me seriously. My school is switching the head of my year group, and the mental health lead is on maternity leave, so I don't know who to go to who will have dealt with a similar situation before and can help me.

Can you have a look at your primary school reports?
Original post by Jess_Lomas
They're not changing the name of ASD to neurodivergent
Neurodivergent is an umbrella term for many conditions where the brain works in unqiue ways rather than the new term for ASD

That's not strictly true, its what is was originally for but dependent on who you ask can incorporate many facets of human behaviour considered to be "ab"normal.

ND is conflated with ADHD ASD a lot as that's the growing thing on social media. There no true definition just like the word "spectrum"...

But no, "they" most certainly are not eradicating ASD in favour of an umbrella term
Original post by wanga_wanga
Can you have a look at your primary school reports?

i don't have any of those available to me, but i do remember being described as quirky in a few, or as struggling to fit in with my peers, so idk

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