Should I leave this friend group?

So basically I have been in this friend group since secondary school. We literally live within a 30 minute radius from each other and we ocassionally hang out together. However, I never really had or developed any interests in what they enjoyed at all. I found the things they enjoyed to be immature, and just really boring. But I stayed with them because I really didn't have any friends at all in my life.

I feel like its one of those ones where they are amazing friends, but nothing in common.

Ever since the end of college and start of uni, I have developed a new friend group that are more tailored to my interests. They enjoy pretty much most of what I enjoy and I am not left feeling dissatisfied or bored all the time we hang out.

I found myself not even talking on the group chats as much as I did previously, if not at all.

But, I do come for events sometimes in person, in comparison to more virtual events like gaming.

Should I leave this group or keep them in my circle?

Reply 1

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I used to be in a friend group like that in my early years of secondary school. They found humour in things I would not and I felt left out,but stayed with them because it would be really awkward to leave without a 'good enough' reason, like a fight. What I did was slowly drift off without saying anything, and just make a quiet exit if that works. Since you've got new friends who you could say are more comfortable with since they have the same interests, maybe slowly drift away from your old one. You don't need to cut them off as a whole if you still want to talk to them, but just think; do they try and reach out to you now and then, or do they acknowledge you're part of the group? If they don't then there's no reason to waste your time on them and stick with the people you're happy with, like the new friends you made in Uni. I hope this helps a little! :smile:

Reply 2

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Original post by Anonymous

So basically I have been in this friend group since secondary school. We literally live within a 30 minute radius from each other and we ocassionally hang out together. However, I never really had or developed any interests in what they enjoyed at all. I found the things they enjoyed to be immature, and just really boring. But I stayed with them because I really didn't have any friends at all in my life.
I feel like its one of those ones where they are amazing friends, but nothing in common.
Ever since the end of college and start of uni, I have developed a new friend group that are more tailored to my interests. They enjoy pretty much most of what I enjoy and I am not left feeling dissatisfied or bored all the time we hang out.
I found myself not even talking on the group chats as much as I did previously, if not at all.
But, I do come for events sometimes in person, in comparison to more virtual events like gaming.
Should I leave this group or keep them in my circle?

Hi,

I think it's important to acknowledge that everyone progresses through life stages at different periods in their lives - and that's completely okay! I have lots of friends and friend groups from different stages in my life and although we don't interact with each other as much as we used to, there isn't any bad blood and we're still friendly toward each other.

On their behalf, it may seem like you're avoiding them since you've been distant - but healthy communication is so important and if they ever bring it up to you, I think it's a good idea for you to bring up your perspective and thoughts in a calm, coherent manner to avoid any misunderstandings.

Whenever I find myself in the same situation as you, I remind myself that some people are meant to be in your apart of your life at certain stages to help you grow as a person. There isn't anything wrong with outgrowing a person as long as you manage it in a mature and kind manner. Whether you leave or keep them in your circle is entirely your decision and what you're comfortable with, but I think it won't hurt to explain how you feel to avoid any misunderstandings and heartbreak.

Hope this helps,
Danish
BCU Student Rep