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Been trying to date m25

I've been going on dates for the first time. Everything seems to go alright until they ask about my dating history and I have to say I've never been with anyone before. How can I approach this subject without creeping out or scaring off the women im on a date with?
A wise man once said - If you don't manifest yourself in the way you are, then there is no way that the path that's proper for you will reveal itself.

In other words, don't worry about "not having dating experience", be confident and be yourself. If a lady is bothered by the fact that she's one of the first you've ever dated then so be it, you have dodged a bullet. Personally I don't see why a well aligned individual should see that as a problem at all.

Wish you all the best! :smile:

-Al
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Original post by Jakeymakeycakey
I've been going on dates for the first time. Everything seems to go alright until they ask about my dating history and I have to say I've never been with anyone before. How can I approach this subject without creeping out or scaring off the women im on a date with?

You don’t have to be fully honest lol, and I don’t mean for you to lie to them. But if the topic reaches your past dating experience say you just haven’t had much experience, as you had different focuses or whatever the reason may be ( don’t try too go too much into details. Most of the time people won’t try to push further, as long as you don’t show or act bothered by your lack of experience it will never be a deal breaker. It is different if it’s an actual insecurity you have/hold, at that point the ball is more in your court than theirs!
Original post by BirdLeaf
You don’t have to be fully honest lol, and I don’t mean for you to lie to them. But if the topic reaches your past dating experience say you just haven’t had much experience, as you had different focuses or whatever the reason may be ( don’t try too go too much into details. Most of the time people won’t try to push further, as long as you don’t show or act bothered by your lack of experience it will never be a deal breaker. It is different if it’s an actual insecurity you have/hold, at that point the ball is more in your court than theirs!

I get you. My biggest insecurity with it relates to my experience with intimacy. I feel if they find out I've never done anything they'll not want to continue for fear of a bad physical relationship.
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Original post by Jakeymakeycakey
I get you. My biggest insecurity with it relates to my experience with intimacy. I feel if they find out I've never done anything they'll not want to continue for fear of a bad physical relationship.

That’s alright bro, sometimes sex is bad or not great, perfect or even good is not easy to get to especially if it’s the first couple of times with someone. The best tip I can give you is honestly just find someone who you like and likes you, who is wanting and willing to explore that part of intimacy with you. As long as you don’t try to pull some porn moves and some triple backflips everything will turn out just fine! Take it slow do what you know and remember there is no need to rush! best of luck
Original post by BirdLeaf
That’s alright bro, sometimes sex is bad or not great, perfect or even good is not easy to get to especially if it’s the first couple of times with someone. The best tip I can give you is honestly just find someone who you like and likes you, who is wanting and willing to explore that part of intimacy with you. As long as you don’t try to pull some porn moves and some triple backflips everything will turn out just fine! Take it slow do what you know and remember there is no need to rush! best of luck

Would it matter that I'm not very big in the downstairs department?

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