Marriage (Muslim Brothers and Sisters)

Salaam,

I’m a 23 year old and I am looking to marry this 21 year old girl. She’s cute and adorable and very pretty and beautiful and it’s her heart that has me won over the most over her looks and physical appearance. A little background about myself I’ve completed my educational studies, and I am earning a substantial amount of money to provide for my family as the eldest son so I have some proof of stability and financial dependence, I am looking for my graduate job and I am doing everything but at the same time I wouldn’t mind being flexible around a plan to marry and settle into something temporary to accommodate until the money there for a house. She’s entering her penultimate year of university in September and is desperate to get married. As wise and like wise I am.

I have spoken to my mother who’s aware of my intentions to marry her along with giving her approval and my father is aware of it too. As for the girl sadly she tried telling her mum and first although she’s refused, snickered and laughed off the subject of marriage multiple times. Her father well he is strict and over fear and reaction she is reluctant to approach even both of them to tell them.

With Ramadan gone by we made lots of Dua especially. She experienced a lot of hardship at work although I just had come to hand a Eid Gift to her to hand and she felt at ease and comfort with my presence. And my last hope is intending to perform Umrah in our name and for us making Dua and pleading for us to get married. At the time when I met her she said “it wouldn’t be easy and she’ll require time” I said “how long” she said “2 or 3 years” I initially met her 2 years ago next month, it has been 2 ramadans now… Is performing umrah really the last hope in being able to get what we both want in marrying each other or is it time up.

I’m sorry for it being so long but thank you to all the brothers and sisters who read this and provide advice.

Eid Mubarak,

:smile:

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Anonymous #2

Walaikum Salam,
I don't know if I'm the right person to answer because I haven't gone through what you are currently, but I'll try and help aha. Can I ask what is the reason for why her mother is rejecting/laughing at the idea? Also have you tried praying istikhara?

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Original post by Anonymous

Walaikum Salam,
I don't know if I'm the right person to answer because I haven't gone through what you are currently, but I'll try and help aha. Can I ask what is the reason for why her mother is rejecting/laughing at the idea? Also have you tried praying istikhara?

Strict parents potentially she’s almost completed her education she’s in her penultimate year of uni in September. I just want to make her happy…No although I do pray my salahs

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Anonymous #2

So will they be more accepting of it once she has graduated or have they not indicated that?
Praying your five salah is obviously mandatory but whenever I need to make a decision, I try to pray istikhara to give me some guidance on what to choose. You may already pray tahajjud, but if not then that is also a good thing to do. There's countless stories of people being granted the dua they made during tahajjud salah.

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Original post by Anonymous

So will they be more accepting of it once she has graduated or have they not indicated that?
Praying your five salah is obviously mandatory but whenever I need to make a decision, I try to pray istikhara to give me some guidance on what to choose. You may already pray tahajjud, but if not then that is also a good thing to do. There's countless stories of people being granted the dua they made during tahajjud salah.

No indication to that. I will do that.

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