Am I Selfish ?

Basically there’s this girl (lets call her J) that went to my Highschool and I never really spoke to her then bc everyone found her weird and I was a sheep but I was always nice to her. I’m in y13 now and she’s in my tutorial, i’m always making jokes in tutorial and she actually laughs at them. There’s this other girl that lives near me so we walk to college or back home whenever our timetables allign and sometimes J walks home with that girl so sometimes it ends up that all three of us walk together. I only started speaking to J like last week and it was just about tutorial and stuff but shes added me on snap and yday she sent me a snap of her crying, I adked her if she was ok she said no , I asked what’s wrong and she’s replied with “ everything.” And I don’t want to be rude but if you’re sending something snaps of yourself crying then just vent/rant? What’s the point in being all cryptic bc I fullt cba in trying to get her to “open up” and I feel guilty for that but I’ve literally had 8 hour shifts for the past three days, im exhausted mentally and physically as I’ve got my own **** going on but i feel so guilty and idk what to do now. Im scared if I properly comfort her she’ll start doing it more often and i feel so guilty

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Nicoleon

I think you can express that you've been quite busy and tired lately, and then suggest setting a time to talk more if you're available. I believe she would understand and appreciate your honesty.