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am I unloveable?

Hi everyone,

Im a first year at university but 22 years old (took a few years out). I've never had a boyfriend/talking stage or even a bit of a flirt. I have never had anyone show even a slight interest in me, or have a crush on me. It's like im completely invisible to men, like im not even an option.

At age 16, I definitely noticed it but I didn't care too much because I thought my destiny would meet me when I was older but now im 22 and I feel unlovable.

what makes me so polar to men, why do they never approach me. I have always felt secure but now I think, is it me? am I unattractive, too rude, high standards? what more can I do when other women are approached unprovoked

I don't know what to do, ive even tried approaching men or being a tad flirty but nobody either gets the hint or wants to move forward. I just feel heartbroken seeing everyone find happiness, it's not envy as I am so so happy at seeing love prosper.

but when is it my turn?
Likely the vibe you give off. I'm sure on a dating app you'd get hoovered up soon enough.
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Original post by tiktokRizzParty
Likely the vibe you give off. I'm sure on a dating app you'd get hoovered up soon enough.

what do you mean by vibe sorry?
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Original post by Anonymous
Hi everyone,
Im a first year at university but 22 years old (took a few years out). I've never had a boyfriend/talking stage or even a bit of a flirt. I have never had anyone show even a slight interest in me, or have a crush on me. It's like im completely invisible to men, like im not even an option.
At age 16, I definitely noticed it but I didn't care too much because I thought my destiny would meet me when I was older but now im 22 and I feel unlovable.
what makes me so polar to men, why do they never approach me. I have always felt secure but now I think, is it me? am I unattractive, too rude, high standards? what more can I do when other women are approached unprovoked
I don't know what to do, ive even tried approaching men or being a tad flirty but nobody either gets the hint or wants to move forward. I just feel heartbroken seeing everyone find happiness, it's not envy as I am so so happy at seeing love prosper.
but when is it my turn?

What is your height and weight?
Original post by Anonymous
Hi everyone,
Im a first year at university but 22 years old (took a few years out). I've never had a boyfriend/talking stage or even a bit of a flirt. I have never had anyone show even a slight interest in me, or have a crush on me. It's like im completely invisible to men, like im not even an option.
At age 16, I definitely noticed it but I didn't care too much because I thought my destiny would meet me when I was older but now im 22 and I feel unlovable.
what makes me so polar to men, why do they never approach me. I have always felt secure but now I think, is it me? am I unattractive, too rude, high standards? what more can I do when other women are approached unprovoked
I don't know what to do, ive even tried approaching men or being a tad flirty but nobody either gets the hint or wants to move forward. I just feel heartbroken seeing everyone find happiness, it's not envy as I am so so happy at seeing love prosper.
but when is it my turn?

There's always a chance they're just to afraid to approach you.
I'd say try meeting others to be friends - then slowly rethink your decisions and when you're ready, go for it! There's a higher chance of success when a girl asks out a guy instead of the guy taking the course of action.

Anyhow, I wish you all the best - good luck and don't give up! :smile:
Original post by Anonymous
Hi everyone,
Im a first year at university but 22 years old (took a few years out). I've never had a boyfriend/talking stage or even a bit of a flirt. I have never had anyone show even a slight interest in me, or have a crush on me. It's like im completely invisible to men, like im not even an option.
At age 16, I definitely noticed it but I didn't care too much because I thought my destiny would meet me when I was older but now im 22 and I feel unlovable.
what makes me so polar to men, why do they never approach me. I have always felt secure but now I think, is it me? am I unattractive, too rude, high standards? what more can I do when other women are approached unprovoked
I don't know what to do, ive even tried approaching men or being a tad flirty but nobody either gets the hint or wants to move forward. I just feel heartbroken seeing everyone find happiness, it's not envy as I am so so happy at seeing love prosper.
but when is it my turn?

No one is unlovable

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