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I feel like i'm falling behind

idrk where to put this thread bc i'm going to talk about everything.
I'm a girl - 18 years old.

Never had a relationship, a talking stage - never held hands. I haven't done anything to do with romance. Everyone my age either had some sort of talking stage, in a relationship or had a relationship in the past or has some sort of experience in the relationship department. I do not. I feel like i'm falling behind.

I do have goals in life like i want having a stable income or a nice house but i feel like those are basic and therefore rubbish because everyone wants that. Most people my age know what uni they want to go to, they know what industry they want to go into. I feel like i'm behind on this.

I'm ugly. I try and find beauty in everything and everyone and i find everyone beautiful except from myself. I don't think i'm ugly when i TRY. But thats what annoys me because in order for me to look good, I have to be putting massive amounts of makeup on my face so my skin looks brighter with less acne. I want to be those girls that come out of bed with beautiful skin. For some reason my eyes are always swollen when i wake up.

I feel like everyone has reached some sort of stage in their life where they're confident whether that will be in their relationship, future, abilities or appearance but i'm none of these things. I don't know whether i feel insecure, angry or just empty because of this.
I’m turning 20 soon and I’ve never had a relationship or anything romantic ( I have had other experiences with boys tho). my situation is that I usually reject boys that do want me and if I get close to a relationship I back out but haven’t rlly gotten close to one I just never meet them but evryone has diff situations. But I get you girl all my friends have had relationships etc but it’s okay, learn to love yourself first and I know it’s so hard when the only things we point out about ourselves are all the insecurities we have ( I also know when evryones like just love yourself first you don’t need anyone else etc it gets annoying beacuse it’s hard) . Dont compare urself to anyone else beacuse it will only put u down , everyone has insecurities even if they look perfect in our eyes but there’s no point in comparing. your still young and u have so much ahead of you and when the timing is right it will come to you, you just have to be confident in urself and believe and it will come. I know how u feel it does get lonely n even scary sometimes when evryone else around you has had that experience and you’ve never but not all those experiences are good , so many toxic relationships out there even if it looks good for an amount of time. Your just waiting for the right person who will come. there’s nights where I feel lonely because I’m scared I’ll never have what evryone else has but the thing is you will. You are not alone in this and so many other people are probably feeling same as you do but it will get better! And I hope you find someone who will love you for you , u don’t even have to love urself beacsue another person will love you for ur insecurities/ flaws. if they don’t then they’re not the one. (another thing that might help is socialising, you have got to go and socialise with people , go out with friends beacuse u never know u might meet the one) also please don’t talk bad about urself just cos u haven’t found someone , you are perfect the way your are, it’s just that the it’s just not meant for you right now but it will happen.
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Original post by Anonymous
idrk where to put this thread bc i'm going to talk about everything.
I'm a girl - 18 years old.
Never had a relationship, a talking stage - never held hands. I haven't done anything to do with romance. Everyone my age either had some sort of talking stage, in a relationship or had a relationship in the past or has some sort of experience in the relationship department. I do not. I feel like i'm falling behind.
I do have goals in life like i want having a stable income or a nice house but i feel like those are basic and therefore rubbish because everyone wants that. Most people my age know what uni they want to go to, they know what industry they want to go into. I feel like i'm behind on this.
I'm ugly. I try and find beauty in everything and everyone and i find everyone beautiful except from myself. I don't think i'm ugly when i TRY. But thats what annoys me because in order for me to look good, I have to be putting massive amounts of makeup on my face so my skin looks brighter with less acne. I want to be those girls that come out of bed with beautiful skin. For some reason my eyes are always swollen when i wake up.
I feel like everyone has reached some sort of stage in their life where they're confident whether that will be in their relationship, future, abilities or appearance but i'm none of these things. I don't know whether i feel insecure, angry or just empty because of this.

you are not ugly. do not hurry. the right person will come to you naturally.
Original post by Anonymous
idrk where to put this thread bc i'm going to talk about everything.
I'm a girl - 18 years old.
Never had a relationship, a talking stage - never held hands. I haven't done anything to do with romance. Everyone my age either had some sort of talking stage, in a relationship or had a relationship in the past or has some sort of experience in the relationship department. I do not. I feel like i'm falling behind.
I do have goals in life like i want having a stable income or a nice house but i feel like those are basic and therefore rubbish because everyone wants that. Most people my age know what uni they want to go to, they know what industry they want to go into. I feel like i'm behind on this.
I'm ugly. I try and find beauty in everything and everyone and i find everyone beautiful except from myself. I don't think i'm ugly when i TRY. But thats what annoys me because in order for me to look good, I have to be putting massive amounts of makeup on my face so my skin looks brighter with less acne. I want to be those girls that come out of bed with beautiful skin. For some reason my eyes are always swollen when i wake up.
I feel like everyone has reached some sort of stage in their life where they're confident whether that will be in their relationship, future, abilities or appearance but i'm none of these things. I don't know whether i feel insecure, angry or just empty because of this.

Do not worry,

I myself have always struggled with self esteem and my own insecurities. I've always wondered maybe one day someone will be interested in me but most of the time women simply speak to me then cast me aside I'm to be laughed at not with. Maybe love will come to me one day, but I've learned to just move forward at this point. It still frustrates my though when I see all my friends get into relationships and I'm just stuck behind them. hell, my own grandad mocks me for not having a girlfriend at my age it can be quite destabilising. But, no matter what journey we may be on we must sail together embrace our futures and hopefully the boat we have been waiting so long to sail past, anchors down and we find what we desire. But relax, chill. Life is a journey there is no destination other than what we discover along the way.

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