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I've never had a relationship, I'm an 18 year old girl. I have some questions to do with my appearance and i want people to tell me what they think of it coming from a partners pespective and tell me if its a big deal or not bc i heard that people care less in a relationship to do with appearances over time - is it because of laziness/not caring or just trust? Any advice would be helpful.

1.

What was it like staying round their house for the first time? Especially for girls because you have to take off your makeup etc. I have alot of acne scars and using makeup does make a difference to my skin as my skim actually looks good. Its not a massive sickly difference but a noticeable one.

2.

Hair - my hair is very thick and frizzy. I can straighten it and it will become straight and silky but this ovbiously isn't good weekly for the health of my hair. Is having thick hair weird and annoying? I find it ugly/annoying.

3.

Everytime I wake up, my eyes are more swollen/puffier. I don't know why this happens but it's like I have a different eye shape for the first 2/3 hours in the morning before it goes back to normal. It hasnt affected me but i haven't heard many people have it so it just makes me paranoide that if i sleep over at someones - they'll find it weird.

4.

Messy hairline - atm I've been trying to grow out my baby hairs. Their at that stage where they stick out when i have my hair up, and they're visible when i have my hair down. I can't push them back as they come back into their original place but it just makes me feel insecure as my whole hairline isn't neat like many others. In the future, if my hair hasn't grown to my liking, I do plan on getting laser but that will be ages away.

Girl one thing is for sure. Im also 18 btw. Nobody really cares about personality. Invest in your looks. Take care of your outward appearance first then work on personality.
Original post by Anonymous
I've never had a relationship, I'm an 18 year old girl. I have some questions to do with my appearance and i want people to tell me what they think of it coming from a partners pespective and tell me if its a big deal or not bc i heard that people care less in a relationship to do with appearances over time - is it because of laziness/not caring or just trust? Any advice would be helpful.

1.

What was it like staying round their house for the first time? Especially for girls because you have to take off your makeup etc. I have alot of acne scars and using makeup does make a difference to my skin as my skim actually looks good. Its not a massive sickly difference but a noticeable one.

2.

Hair - my hair is very thick and frizzy. I can straighten it and it will become straight and silky but this ovbiously isn't good weekly for the health of my hair. Is having thick hair weird and annoying? I find it ugly/annoying.

3.

Everytime I wake up, my eyes are more swollen/puffier. I don't know why this happens but it's like I have a different eye shape for the first 2/3 hours in the morning before it goes back to normal. It hasnt affected me but i haven't heard many people have it so it just makes me paranoide that if i sleep over at someones - they'll find it weird.

4.

Messy hairline - atm I've been trying to grow out my baby hairs. Their at that stage where they stick out when i have my hair up, and they're visible when i have my hair down. I can't push them back as they come back into their original place but it just makes me feel insecure as my whole hairline isn't neat like many others. In the future, if my hair hasn't grown to my liking, I do plan on getting laser but that will be ages away.


In all honesty, looks is definitely something that would get people to notice you at first.
From my experience, my boyfriend seemed to be attracted to looks rather than personality when we first met - he thought I was cold and only focused on my academics (not true but also true!!). When he first asked me out I rejected him as he didn't fully know my whole personality as whole - but then after a year we've gotten closer and I asked him out (he said yes!!).
So from that, I would agree with the comment above and say that looks really matter in this world of relationships.

I'll try to answer these questions the best I can:

1.

I go to a boarding school, so we date on campus + in our boarding houses - I don't wear makeup, but he has suggested me to wear some before (which I thought was a bit weird). Anyhow, when we have our alone time on campus, he's quite respectful and tries to make me feel comfortable.

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Having thick hair is absolutely fine, just have the right haircare and routine! I bet your hairs perfectly gorgeous :biggrin:

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To me, puffy eyes doesn't seem weird at all! It's natural and happens to people from time to time; Yet I cannot advise that everyone thinks in the same way.

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I hope your hair will start to act in the way you want it too! :smile:

Moreover, I wish you all the best - you're definitely an amazing + gorgeous individual and good luck! :biggrin:
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Original post by Anonymous
Girl one thing is for sure. Im also 18 btw. Nobody really cares about personality. Invest in your looks. Take care of your outward appearance first then work on personality.
I don't think i'm totally ugly, it's just that most of these things happen when i wake up so its sort of out of my control to a certain extent

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