What is his problem?

My boyfriend's friend has a problem and falls out with everyone over minor things which most wouldn't get offended by. He is a complete control freak which his girlfriend told me the other day he still doesn't let her go out this includes clubbing and is funny when she goes to the pub. He has fallen out with my boyfriend as he didn't tell him about our relationship difficulties.

He has fallen out with me for agreeing with his girlfriend I had noticed his emotional affair of 2 years with a girl he failed to mention until he recently added her on the internet - there is evidence to prove it. He also isn't speaking to me as it got back to him I don't speak to him as he is my boyfriend's best mate, which I didn't think it was appropriate for us to form a close friendship considering he has inappropriately looked at me in a sexual way many times.

My boyfriend says I shouldn't have agreed with his girlfriend as some people get easily offended by opinions. I have tolerated him too many times like the time he came to spy on me and his girlfriend at the pub to 'make sure we were ok' and when has checked out other women on holiday and blamed my boyfriend. Most people have advised this guy is the one with the problem and to leave him if he can't be an adult enough to talk about worries he has. Who is in the wrong and what would you do?

Reply 1

bexicle89

It's not easy to get involved in other peoples relationship worries, if anything you are at risk of losing his gf as your friend now.
My point of view says you have two options:
1. Side with his girlfriend but be at risk of losing your bf if he doesn't seem the same way.
2. Completely ignore the situation, when he is around you ignore him. Don't provoke a reaction, just act civil to one another.
Like you said the guy may have interests in you, maybe you should stay away from him.