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Bf never gives me a time ??????

Ok so I don’t work and my bf does. He got kids so he takes his kids out on Saturday.

I have a major problem that he doesn’t ever let me know the time he’s going to come collect me. Am I over reacting.

I don’t want to seem like a beg so I don’t ask more than once or sometimes I won’t ask what time is he coming but it’s common sense to tell someone what time you’ll meet them.
I feel like he thinks I’ll be home all day so I can wait for him all day but I don’t like that.
I’ve told him about this before but clearly nothings changed.
We haven’t seen eachother in a month because I went out of town.
He has his kids today and he just said he’ll pick me up when he’s done with them but it’s 7oclock like ??????
How much of this lifestyle did you know about in the honeymoon period?
Original post by Anonymous
Ok so I don’t work and my bf does. He got kids so he takes his kids out on Saturday.
I have a major problem that he doesn’t ever let me know the time he’s going to come collect me. Am I over reacting.
I don’t want to seem like a beg so I don’t ask more than once or sometimes I won’t ask what time is he coming but it’s common sense to tell someone what time you’ll meet them.
I feel like he thinks I’ll be home all day so I can wait for him all day but I don’t like that.
I’ve told him about this before but clearly nothings changed.
We haven’t seen eachother in a month because I went out of town.
He has his kids today and he just said he’ll pick me up when he’s done with them but it’s 7oclock like ??????

Are we talking kids as in toddlers or like grown up?
Reply 3
Original post by Mohammed_2000
Are we talking kids as in toddlers or like grown up?

Pre teens
Reply 4
Original post by wanga_wanga
How much of this lifestyle did you know about in the honeymoon period?

I don’t understand your question. The lifestyle is not the probably it’s clearly the communication on timings that’s very simple to do
Reply 5
Original post by Anonymous
I don’t understand your question. The lifestyle is not the probably it’s clearly the communication on timings that’s very simple to do

He had children when you were dating, so was he communicating properly during that period or not?
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Original post by Surnia
He had children when you were dating, so was he communicating properly during that period or not?

Yes he was but. For example right now I’m telling him tell me when you’ll get to me and he is refusing to and it’s angering me. He’s saying he doesn’t wanna tell me a specific time incase he doesn’t come on that time and I get annoyed and he said he’s dropping them home and I said so how can you still not tell me a time he said he will tell me a time once he’s dropped them off so he knows he’s already dropped them.

This making me think is he going to do something with his babymum or something.

Why would he not calculate the drive to drop them then the drive to drop me?
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Original post by Anonymous
Yes he was but. For example right now I’m telling him tell me when you’ll get to me and he is refusing to and it’s angering me. He’s saying he doesn’t wanna tell me a specific time incase he doesn’t come on that time and I get annoyed and he said he’s dropping them home and I said so how can you still not tell me a time he said he will tell me a time once he’s dropped them off so he knows he’s already dropped them.
This making me think is he going to do something with his babymum or something.
Why would he not calculate the drive to drop them then the drive to drop me?

There are children and unpredictable; they might want him to stay longer with them when he drops them off.

End the relationship anyway; you don't trust him.
Original post by Anonymous
Pre teens

It’s a hard one to say they are his kids at the end of the day but ultimately they are his first priority like your “boyfriend” is their dad and they need the attention and time of their father in this case. Best scenario talk about this with him and how he can be flexible in being able to spend time with you too as well as addressing your concern or look elsewhere.
Original post by Anonymous
Yes he was but. For example right now I’m telling him tell me when you’ll get to me and he is refusing to and it’s angering me. He’s saying he doesn’t wanna tell me a specific time incase he doesn’t come on that time and I get annoyed and he said he’s dropping them home and I said so how can you still not tell me a time he said he will tell me a time once he’s dropped them off so he knows he’s already dropped them.
This making me think is he going to do something with his babymum or something.
Why would he not calculate the drive to drop them then the drive to drop me?

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