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How bad is it that im almost 19 and never had a GF

I turn 19 in May and like it says in the title I've never had a partner.
I'm a male like 5"11 white and my friends say chubby I disagree in my eyes I'm slightly over that line. and idk if they are trying to spare my feelings cos they know I'm literally impenetrable when it comes to insults so idk. Anyway when people ask me how have you never had a partner I always say cos of my size and laugh it off and some friends have said like if you talked to girls you'd probably get somewhere. but idk if I trust that. See me personally I'm not bothered about the never had a gf thing it doesn't bother me much I always focused on education although id definitely love to have one. it was something that came up when talking to a close friend which essentially brought the attention to the issue that people like experience in sex when dating at my age and my dumbass hasn't even kissed a girl. Essentially what he said to me so I've been thinking about it and I dont have anyone to ask not close with any girls so i have to ask.
1. How big is experience in relationships at my age
2. Have I passed that line where its going to be hard for me to get into something without the experience
3. Any advice of what I should do
Not a question but I want to preface that my weight is something I have been taking responsibility for I dont go to gym as advised by a friend (I wasn't planning to anyway going to the gym without a friend to go with is extremally too stressful for me to deal with) I just watch my diet and go on runs/jogs/walks and home exercises

Reply 1

Personally I don't think it's a massive deal (18 female), I've had one serious relationship before and don't see another for a while because of the amount of academic pressure I'm under.
The only issue that I could see is that you may initially struggle with the emotional commitment/communication of a relationship if you date someone who has been in many previous relationships but as long as you are comfortable with each other and are up for talking about yourselfs you should be fine.
I won't worry to much about sexual experience either from my experience people tend to have less experience then they claim to anyway.
As long as you are honest about it and willing to put effort into a relationship you will be fine :smile:

Reply 2

Original post by Anonymous
I turn 19 in May and like it says in the title I've never had a partner.
I'm a male like 5"11 white and my friends say chubby I disagree in my eyes I'm slightly over that line. and idk if they are trying to spare my feelings cos they know I'm literally impenetrable when it comes to insults so idk. Anyway when people ask me how have you never had a partner I always say cos of my size and laugh it off and some friends have said like if you talked to girls you'd probably get somewhere. but idk if I trust that. See me personally I'm not bothered about the never had a gf thing it doesn't bother me much I always focused on education although id definitely love to have one. it was something that came up when talking to a close friend which essentially brought the attention to the issue that people like experience in sex when dating at my age and my dumbass hasn't even kissed a girl. Essentially what he said to me so I've been thinking about it and I dont have anyone to ask not close with any girls so i have to ask.
1. How big is experience in relationships at my age
2. Have I passed that line where its going to be hard for me to get into something without the experience
3. Any advice of what I should do
Not a question but I want to preface that my weight is something I have been taking responsibility for I dont go to gym as advised by a friend (I wasn't planning to anyway going to the gym without a friend to go with is extremally too stressful for me to deal with) I just watch my diet and go on runs/jogs/walks and home exercises

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