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Did she like me?

Hey Girls and Guys, i am from Germany and i am 21 years old. Two years ago i met a woman, i was 19 at that time and she was 22. She is oder than me. I dont what happend to me but when i saw i realized immediatelly that i liked her. I did not know that she had a bf at that time and they lived in an distanted relationship. So my feelings grew stronger because she did not mention him yet. She studied at the time on the university and i was in the twelve grade. We met because she was assigned to my little sisters as school helper. She came twice a week and i seriously got nervous each time, once it did happen, that i started, starring at her nonstop and she looked back to me aswell. It was a feeling that i will never forget, like it could go like an enternity. She got nervous but her body languages was open while looking back to me, so no crossed arms and legs. Obivously the next week she was defensiv but it was just that week because she met her boyfriend every two weeks. As time passed, during my graduation exams, i saw her and her bf in the city center. It really broke me, because couple of times she did not try to mention him and i believe she knew i liked her. She a jewelery around her arm with her name on it. When i asked who gave you that gift, she answered so fast my brother. Obviously she was lying, i knew it was him, and then on other day i found her bf was Football Player. So i asked do watch football, she said not really only Ucl. I asked with who and she did not mention him after asking the same question five times, i said to her Ucl is a tournament every month, so there must be one at the time she did not mention him and than she did. She hesitated a lot.

Coming back to the point, after i saw her in the City center with her bf. I totally broke me. The next day she came and we talked about him and i said damn, that really suits you and all that (obviously i was just hiding my pain there). So a week after she saw me distant and wondered what happend to me i just talked normally but less. The next day she came in, she tried to ignore me(she just did not say hello until i asked a question, she ignored me obviously because of him, only when she same twice a week to keep her distance) But when i walked past her and kept my distant that day i remembered that she was super nervous and said hello first. Two weeks later we met i was still shocked and hung out with other girl. She saw me writing with her and her reaction told everything. She was laughing about a joke of my sister and i put my phone out and she looked sad while i wrote a girl. On an other day same thing happend again, this time she really looked sad. And the body language at that time was matching me a lot. Like i take a cup water she took one, i put my arms up she did etc. She remembered my hobbys and all the other stuff wich was important to me. But i was unsure, if she liked me or she was just polite, obviously she had bf that was going through me. After i finished my 12 grade, i decided to study on the university. In this time i asked her how the process of applying for the university works and she explained everything in detail. But there was another thing the week after she came, she was so nervous and asked me, if i will study in the town where we currently live or will move out. She was super nervous, i gave closure about my plans that will stay in the city but perhaps move out in the future, at first she seemed relieved but after mentioning that i want to move out the fear i saw in her eyes was high.


That keeps me still wondering obviously she had a bf and i know i should not have approched her but she revealed him after four months. So my question was, did this woman actually like me?
Like you? Probably.
But is that what you're asking chief?
Reply 2
Original post by wanga_wanga
Like you? Probably.
But is that what you're asking chief?

I am just wondering not asking, her behaviour in between was a bit weird to me. Like why should you look sad because i am writng with other girl or why are you sad that i might leave you, you know what i mean
Reply 3
Why have you missed out parts of the story again?

Same answer as before...
Reply 4
Original post by Surnia
Why have you missed out parts of the story again?
Same answer as before...

Which parts do you mean?
Reply 5
Original post by Ami1922
Which parts do you mean?

Where she kept visiting your house.
Reply 6
Original post by Surnia
Where she kept visiting your house.

She came every week, once or twice and we all had a wonderful time together. Yeah she helped my sister by her schoolstuff in our living room (there we have a big table) , it was like on hour schoolstuff and the other just hanging around with us. After three months, it felt like family. She really said also to us, she feels like she is one of our family. Obviously i know its just kind gesture as saying thank you. Now coming back to the point where they did other stuff like random activity, i got every time the opportunity to take part in it. She always wanted me like to participate, once they went out and she said to me come please with us. Now by then we spent there more time together, had more and more conversations and all this. Once it happend while we were playing together uno, i started gazing because i tought she was looking at me. I swear, this gaze was like three minutes long and she was looking at me aswell. Her body languages was also open and she took her time while looking back. Now through this she figured out, i had a crush on her. It was gaze like its so obvious, well he or she likes you. Now as time went on, she did not reveal yet, she had a boyfriend by this time and i asked myself like, she sometimes uses the term we and all this stuff. Once i found out her bf was a soccer player and i asked her, do you watch Football. She said sometimes like Champions League on regular bases. Now Champions League is a competition which takes place every month and she said she does not like soccer. So i asked with who do you watch then, trust me, she kept trying to not reveal him until i asked her the ten time to tell me because i told her she is confussing me and then she revealed like, man sorry my boyfriend. So i was asking myself why did she keep hiding him, before that she had a jewlery around her arm, which was a gift from her bf. She told it was from her brother, she hid him, my sister also told me that she told her, it was her bf who gave it to her. Now during my exam days i saw her with him in the City Center. Now day afte we met, she was like well you could have sat next to us etc. I was complimanting her bf and her, obviously not meant to be serious, but kinda had to hide my pain. And she had a habit, when she came twice the week, i was always the one who started to conversation, she was trying to ignore me like trying to put a distant that i am just a friend of her. Obviously i know but the week after when we met, i was not in the mood seeing her again, i felt hurt and pitty for myself what happend to me. She noticed it quickly like hey whats wrong, even the conversation was one sided, she was putting into it and i was not. The next day after that, we met again and she went to her old habit but this time, i did not try to engage the conversation again, trying to creat a distant between me and her. She was very nervous while reading a book like she lost her voice while i was walking past and ignoring her. So the week after, she then tried always really hard to engage me in everything like playing games, hang out all of this. But she also did things which were confusing to me. She kept checking my phone when i was writing with a girl and her mood told everything. Her mood was with me like, very energetic, talking a lot etc. But when i wrote a other girl at the time she went from being very loud and noisy to silent and distant. She looked sad and her body language was matching me a lot and i did not build this in my mind it was like this. She mirrored every move of mine and she rememebered everything i told her in detail. When we had group chats her feets and body were positioned to me. With mirroing i felt it was just a coinsidence but it was not it happend on regular bases like every time. Now after three weeks, i was about to leave earlier from my home because i had to go to a friend and she was like hey no, please stay one hour longer and i did for her. And then she found out i going to study on the university, we met three days later and she was so worried, she asked so nervously, am i going to stay in our city to study like she lost her voice. And there i realized there could be more on stake.
(edited 1 month ago)
This seems to be a mountain out of a molehill.

I wonder why the original thread was edited down to nothing?

https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=7465536
Reply 8
When you have a crush on someone you read too much into anything they do. She has a boyfriend, so is probably relaxed about things and she doesn't need to discuss her private life with the brother of a child she is employed to help.

As for being nervous, maybe that was because she didn't want you around when you are acting up. I mean, how can someone lose their voice while reading a book? Anyway, she has a boyfriend, so move on.
Reply 9
Original post by Surnia
When you have a crush on someone you read too much into anything they do. She has a boyfriend, so is probably relaxed about things and she doesn't need to discuss her private life with the brother of a child she is employed to help.
As for being nervous, maybe that was because she didn't want you around when you are acting up. I mean, how can someone lose their voice while reading a book? Anyway, she has a boyfriend, so move on.

Are you seriously telling me that you still did not get it. Why would someone look at my phone sad at and would ask me to stay here. I think you have not red the text properly. You are annyoing but with bf stuff to move on and let go, is all what i say true.
(edited 1 month ago)
Reply 10
Original post by Ami1922
Are you seriously telling me that you still did not get it. Why would someone look at my phone sad at and would ask me to stay here. I think you have not red the text properly. You are annyoing but with bf stuff to move on and let go, is all what i say true.
You are overemotional, so it's difficult to tell exactly what has been going on. However, it's irrelevant what you or anyone on here thinks, because she has a boyfriend. How would you feel if you had a girlfriend and someone was behaving like this about her? It's not like she's said she's leaving him for you. The fact that you find a comment annoying when told to move on says a lot...
Original post by Ami1922
I am just wondering not asking, her behaviour in between was a bit weird to me. Like why should you look sad because i am writng with other girl or why are you sad that i might leave you, you know what i mean
..."So my question was, did this woman actually like me?"

apologies for any confusion
Original post by Ami1922
She came every week, once or twice and we all had a wonderful time together. Yeah she helped my sister by her schoolstuff in our living room (there we have a big table) , it was like on hour schoolstuff and the other just hanging around with us. After three months, it felt like family. She really said also to us, she feels like she is one of our family. Obviously i know its just kind gesture as saying thank you. Now coming back to the point where they did other stuff like random activity, i got every time the opportunity to take part in it. She always wanted me like to participate, once they went out and she said to me come please with us. Now by then we spent there more time together, had more and more conversations and all this. Once it happend while we were playing together uno, i started gazing because i tought she was looking at me. I swear, this gaze was like three minutes long and she was looking at me aswell. Her body languages was also open and she took her time while looking back. Now through this she figured out, i had a crush on her. It was gaze like its so obvious, well he or she likes you. Now as time went on, she did not reveal yet, she had a boyfriend by this time and i asked myself like, she sometimes uses the term we and all this stuff. Once i found out her bf was a soccer player and i asked her, do you watch Football. She said sometimes like Champions League on regular bases. Now Champions League is a competition which takes place every month and she said she does not like soccer. So i asked with who do you watch then, trust me, she kept trying to not reveal him until i asked her the ten time to tell me because i told her she is confussing me and then she revealed like, man sorry my boyfriend. So i was asking myself why did she keep hiding him, before that she had a jewlery around her arm, which was a gift from her bf. She told it was from her brother, she hid him, my sister also told me that she told her, it was her bf who gave it to her. Now during my exam days i saw her with him in the City Center. Now day afte we met, she was like well you could have sat next to us etc. I was complimanting her bf and her, obviously not meant to be serious, but kinda had to hide my pain. And she had a habit, when she came twice the week, i was always the one who started to conversation, she was trying to ignore me like trying to put a distant that i am just a friend of her. Obviously i know but the week after when we met, i was not in the mood seeing her again, i felt hurt and pitty for myself what happend to me. She noticed it quickly like hey whats wrong, even the conversation was one sided, she was putting into it and i was not. The next day after that, we met again and she went to her old habit but this time, i did not try to engage the conversation again, trying to creat a distant between me and her. She was very nervous while reading a book like she lost her voice while i was walking past and ignoring her. So the week after, she then tried always really hard to engage me in everything like playing games, hang out all of this. But she also did things which were confusing to me. She kept checking my phone when i was writing with a girl and her mood told everything. Her mood was with me like, very energetic, talking a lot etc. But when i wrote a other girl at the time she went from being very loud and noisy to silent and distant. She looked sad and her body language was matching me a lot and i did not build this in my mind it was like this. She mirrored every move of mine and she rememebered everything i told her in detail. When we had group chats her feets and body were positioned to me. With mirroing i felt it was just a coinsidence but it was not it happend on regular bases like every time. Now after three weeks, i was about to leave earlier from my home because i had to go to a friend and she was like hey no, please stay one hour longer and i did for her. And then she found out i going to study on the university, we met three days later and she was so worried, she asked so nervously, am i going to stay in our city to study like she lost her voice. And there i realized there could be more on stake.

if you did this on a mobile device inside 90 secs, I know exactly what the problem is.
Reply 13
Original post by wanga_wanga
..."So my question was, did this woman actually like me?"
apologies for any confusion

Its alright. The thing is the other user just did not understand my point, it was straight.
Original post by Ami1922
Its alright. The thing is the other user just did not understand my point, it was straight.

There's a common denominator
Reply 15
Original post by wanga_wanga
There's a common denominator

How you mean
Reply 16
Original post by wanga_wanga
if you did this on a mobile device inside 90 secs, I know exactly what the problem is.

Ah, i did write this on mobile device

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