Linkedin Dating?

Hi everyone,

I'm very inexperienced at dating, so I was wondering if someone could give me some big sister advice!

A man had recently connected with me on LinkedIn then proceeded to send me a text saying he thought my profile was great and he'd love to know if I was open to connecting!

The exchanges were very professional and we even spoke about really deep topics for instance he has asked me how life has been being a woman trying to break into the bankings sector in the UK for context he's not from here (he's from Africa but moved to the states recently) but has a banking degree also. It has only been 2 days so far, but had nice conversations so far.

Today, he has complimented me saying he appreciates my honesty and admires my intelligence when I spoke about the challenges of being a woman in a male dominated sector and then proceeded to ask for my instagram.

He has also asked about my religion and let me know that he is also of my same faith but trying to be better.

So what do we think everyone? does he like me? is this whole situation weird? I have no idea!

ive already replied back saying id love to keep our messages on LinkedIn and see how things progress.

Can everyone let me know their thoughts on this? I have a tendency to self sabotage and like i've said, I have never dated or been shown interest before.

I have a tendency to also overthink a LOT, in my mind I'm already thinking that he just wants to use me or he thinks Im easy to get or I am wanting to already block him because he's not worth my time because I have incredibly high standards and I know what I can provide.

This is not too say Im perfect, but incredibly anxious and would love honesty and advice please xxxxxx

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

Hi everyone,
I'm very inexperienced at dating, so I was wondering if someone could give me some big sister advice!
A man had recently connected with me on LinkedIn then proceeded to send me a text saying he thought my profile was great and he'd love to know if I was open to connecting!
The exchanges were very professional and we even spoke about really deep topics for instance he has asked me how life has been being a woman trying to break into the bankings sector in the UK for context he's not from here (he's from Africa but moved to the states recently) but has a banking degree also. It has only been 2 days so far, but had nice conversations so far.
Today, he has complimented me saying he appreciates my honesty and admires my intelligence when I spoke about the challenges of being a woman in a male dominated sector and then proceeded to ask for my instagram.
He has also asked about my religion and let me know that he is also of my same faith but trying to be better.
So what do we think everyone? does he like me? is this whole situation weird? I have no idea!
ive already replied back saying id love to keep our messages on LinkedIn and see how things progress.
Can everyone let me know their thoughts on this? I have a tendency to self sabotage and like i've said, I have never dated or been shown interest before.
I have a tendency to also overthink a LOT, in my mind I'm already thinking that he just wants to use me or he thinks Im easy to get or I am wanting to already block him because he's not worth my time because I have incredibly high standards and I know what I can provide.
This is not too say Im perfect, but incredibly anxious and would love honesty and advice please xxxxxx

I think the only sisterly advice I can give you is trust your gut and don't go against it! If you feel unsafe, walk away. If you see red flags, walk away. Time always tells - don't fall too fast too quickly. Be patient and observe how he treats you. Most people - men and women equally are very nice at first, but over time the cracks will start to show.

Generally, I find it weird when people try to date on Linkedin. It's not a dating website, it's a platform for professionals to connect so I'm not sure how I feel about this one. I personally think I'd find it rude if someone tried to show interest in that kind of way on Linkedin - it's kind of demeaning and shows a lack of respect for me as a woman with a professional career 😅

Reply 2

Paladino

Original post by Anonymous

Hi everyone,
I'm very inexperienced at dating, so I was wondering if someone could give me some big sister advice!
A man had recently connected with me on LinkedIn then proceeded to send me a text saying he thought my profile was great and he'd love to know if I was open to connecting!
The exchanges were very professional and we even spoke about really deep topics for instance he has asked me how life has been being a woman trying to break into the bankings sector in the UK for context he's not from here (he's from Africa but moved to the states recently) but has a banking degree also. It has only been 2 days so far, but had nice conversations so far.
Today, he has complimented me saying he appreciates my honesty and admires my intelligence when I spoke about the challenges of being a woman in a male dominated sector and then proceeded to ask for my instagram.
He has also asked about my religion and let me know that he is also of my same faith but trying to be better.
So what do we think everyone? does he like me? is this whole situation weird? I have no idea!
ive already replied back saying id love to keep our messages on LinkedIn and see how things progress.
Can everyone let me know their thoughts on this? I have a tendency to self sabotage and like i've said, I have never dated or been shown interest before.
I have a tendency to also overthink a LOT, in my mind I'm already thinking that he just wants to use me or he thinks Im easy to get or I am wanting to already block him because he's not worth my time because I have incredibly high standards and I know what I can provide.
This is not too say Im perfect, but incredibly anxious and would love honesty and advice please xxxxxx

Bro he's reaching out over linkedin, run away

Reply 3

Zarek

I would be cautious. LinkedIn is not about dating, although I sure that people do use it to catch up with acquaintances that they used to fancy. It seems a bit of a random reach out and he coming on in quite an over the top way. Fine if you want to see how things progress but watch out in case it’s a scam