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Hii! I’m a junior in Highschool and I have always wanted to study in the US. Now I have lived in the US for about 10 years and moved back my freshman year.
Now my focus has always been to apply for colleges abroad as in America since that’s the only goal I have been working towards.. anyways my father has injected me studying outside now I have tried to talk to him and I have tried to talk to everyone and he’s just like your never gonna go you shouldn’t even think about it which really hurts my pride and I can’t do anything but cry! I want to study abroad i feel I have a better understanding and communication with people abroad! Now ofc I love my dad but I just can’t understand him in this matter and the only excuse he has is because IM A GIRL. So what??? I know he wants to protect me but I don’t see this as protecting but ruining my dream instead and I seriously don’t know what to do😕 I hate being a girl honestly
Like I lived outside and I experienced already WHY IS HE BEING SO CLOSE MINDED???

Reply 1

DataVenia

Volunteer Team, Clearing and Applications Advisor

Original post by Retalll

I'm going to ignore your first two sentence as, like I suspect most UK residents, I have no idea what the terms "a junior", "in Highschool" or "freshman year" mean.

Can I just check what you mean when you say, "father has injected me studying outside"? By "injected" do you mean "objected to"? (To inject means to use a needle to push a fluid into something, to object means to disagree with a decision or proposal.) Also does "outside" mean "in another country" in this context?

You use the word outside again later when you say you "lived outside". Can I assume that means that you lived in another country, rather than meaning that you were homeless or lived in a tent?

Is your mother on the scene? Does she have an opinion? Might she be able to persuade him?

Has anything happened in the past that might lead him to be particularly fearful for your safety? Or is this just dads worrying about their daughters?

Is there some middle-ground that could be reached? If he's worried about you living in New York City (for example) then is there somewhere he would be happy you living which is still of interest to you?

Would he be happy with you living / studying at the opposite end of the UK (to where he is), or does he really want you to stay very local?