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Living at home during uni

im gonna be staying at home during uni, but i dont know of anybody doing the same and im really scared that im going to miss out on making friends or something by not living in student accomadations 😭, im not that far from the uni its likes one bus away but i haev such bad FOMO sometimess
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Original post by starfshi
im gonna be staying at home during uni, but i dont know of anybody doing the same and im really scared that im going to miss out on making friends or something by not living in student accomadations 😭, im not that far from the uni its likes one bus away but i haev such bad FOMO sometimess

Hi @starfshi ,

Although you might not know of anyone there are a lot of people which commute into university rather than living in halls so you won't be the only one. I know that it can be worrying that it will be difficult to make friends and missing out but there are lots of other opportunities to make friends at university like on your course or by joining a society. By the sounds of it you don't live that far away either which means that if there is an event at the university or you want to meet up with friends you can easily travel to go see them.

I hope this helps🙂
Louise - University of Wolverhampton Rep
(edited 1 month ago)
Original post by starfshi
im gonna be staying at home during uni, but i dont know of anybody doing the same and im really scared that im going to miss out on making friends or something by not living in student accomadations 😭, im not that far from the uni its likes one bus away but i haev such bad FOMO sometimess

Hi there,

Although it might not feel like it, many people commute and will be in the same situation as you, feeling the same way! I wouldn't worry too much, as it shouldn't prevent you from enjoying your experience or making friends at all.

There are so many opportunities to make friends at university, many of them the same as if you lived in student accommodation. For example, by attending campus and city events; talking to people in your classes; meeting people on nights out; signing up for sports and societies; volunteering; and through part-time work. As long as you put in the work to put yourself out there as much as you are comfortable with, you should have no problem making friends and getting the university experience you want.

Staying at home gives you the familiarity of somewhere you know, the benefits of not having to pay rent/bills (or as much), the chance to save money, and the opportunity to 'disconnect' from university. Living in student accommodation does have its perks, but there is no guarantee that you will make friends there. You can miss out on the same things no matter where you live, so it is all about putting the effort in.

It sounds like you don't live far either, which is great for short-notice plans with friends, such as coffee and study dates.

I hope this helps and best of luck!

Isabella
Third-year Geography with a Year Abroad Student
Original post by starfshi
im gonna be staying at home during uni, but i dont know of anybody doing the same and im really scared that im going to miss out on making friends or something by not living in student accomadations 😭, im not that far from the uni its likes one bus away but i haev such bad FOMO sometimess

Hey @starfshi, how are you? 🙂

I stayed at home when I went to uni too, similar to you I was only a short drive away from the university. I knew a lot of people who did the same and they still managed to meet some wonderful people and get involved in societies and sports. It helps that you live one bus ride away, so you should hopefully still be able to attend fun su events, go on trips with them, meet up for coffee with course mates etc. I'd recommend trying to form a study group with fellow course mates then plan to do a walk/grab a coffee after. Also add them on social media so you can keep in regular contact and make plans, you might even plan to meet up on the weekend somewhere away from campus.

I wish you the best of luck with your uni journey, I'm sure you'll have a great time and make some lovely friendships! :smile:

Becky
Original post by starfshi
im gonna be staying at home during uni, but i dont know of anybody doing the same and im really scared that im going to miss out on making friends or something by not living in student accomadations 😭, im not that far from the uni its likes one bus away but i haev such bad FOMO sometimess

HI there,

Commuting to uni is more common than you would think so I'm sure there will be lots of other people who are doing the same as you!

Try not to worry too much as you will still have loads of opportunities to make friends. I would say that you might have to out a bit more effort in at first, but once you've established your friendships it won't make a difference!

One of my best tips for making friends at uni and this is a great thing to do as a commuter student is to join societies!
Have a look online ad see if your university has a page where they show all of their societies and see if there is anything that interests you. I would then go to the freshers society fair, even if you go on your own, and talk to some people there and sign up to some trial sessions! Societies are great because you get out of the house, and especially if you are only a bus journey away, it's a nice easy way of meeting people who have the same interests as you! The socials are also great so it is worth doing this.

I would also join some Facebook groups before you come. There are usually Facebook groups for your uni and there might be ones for your course, and you may be able to meet some other students or even commuter students. This is a great way of talking to some people before you come and making some friendships so it feels less daunting when you get to uni!

I would then say that when you get to uni, just try and chat to as many people as you can! In freshers week especially, everyone wants to make friends so chat to people and ask people on your course if they want to go for food, or go shopping etc. Also, if you can and if you want to, maybe ask them if they want to go out for freshers week and this way you won't have missed out on anything and you will have made some friends!

Once you have met some people, just keep asking them if they want to do things with you and they will invite you to things that they are doing too!

I hope some of this helps,

Lucy -SHU student ambassador :smile:
Original post by starfshi
im gonna be staying at home during uni, but i dont know of anybody doing the same and im really scared that im going to miss out on making friends or something by not living in student accomadations 😭, im not that far from the uni its likes one bus away but i haev such bad FOMO sometimess

Hi there,

Although it does not feel like it, there will be a lot of other students who are feeling the same way as you are and in the same position. Even though you are commuting there are lots of opportunities for you to meet new people and make new friends. As others have mentioned above a good way to meet new people and make new friends is by joining sports and societies or by volunteering. I would also say getting to know the people on your course is also a good way to make new friends as well.

I would also say check if your university offers commuters accommodation. I know a lot of universities offer this for students who are commuting and it allows them to stay for a couple of nights a week for a small price. This could give you the option to commute and also stay within student accommodation occasionally allowing you to meet up and spend more time with friends as well.

I hope this helps and I wish you luck with starting university in September 😊
Katie - Student Ambassador
Original post by starfshi
im gonna be staying at home during uni, but i dont know of anybody doing the same and im really scared that im going to miss out on making friends or something by not living in student accomadations 😭, im not that far from the uni its likes one bus away but i haev such bad FOMO sometimess

Hi there!

I found a great way to make friends when I first started was to join the Facebook groups that my university had. This way, on my first day I already knew a few people and it made it so much easier. These people are also all my really close friends now!
Joining groups and societies can also be a great way to make friends when you first start. During freshers you'll find that people are really open to getting to know people so it isn't as scary as you think!

I hope this helps and good luck!
-Rebecca, UCLan MBBS
Your FOMO is somewhat justified if you don’t stay in halls you will miss out. I’m not saying you won’t make friends but it will take a while.longer and some things will be out of the question. I’m guessing you’re asking what exactly am I going to be missing? out on. This depends on who you’re livening with to an extent but you’ll miss out on the whole first Sunday night thing and the excitement (scary but exciting nonetheless). Of moving in to the halls for the first time. Then there are nights out you’ll miss out on a lot of these because they are so often arraigned very last minute ( I mean hours or even minutes beforehand). Then there are nights when you don’t go out movie nights video game tournaments (think Super Smash Brothers or Mario Kart) are really fun or maybe just going out to watch a football match (I don’t even like football.) can be fun. Is there any more?

Yes there is if you join a society there will hopefully be socials usually starting about 7pm until the clubs close mine usually went like this:
7pm meet in the bar have a few drinks and something to eat.
9pm go to the club
2.30 am stagger. back to halls
If you’re tied to the buses you won’t be able to stay until the end, the last bus home from my local university town is at 10:54 so I’d have let’s say 1.5 hours on the club at most before I would have to leave to be sure to get the bus home and what about if you join a sports club how will you make it back from away games or trips there would be no problem dropping you at your halls or within the immediate area but they won’t want to go it of their way to drop
you off at home. Halls for so many reasons is a much better option even if you don’t save that much money.
(edited 3 weeks ago)
Original post by starfshi
im gonna be staying at home during uni, but i dont know of anybody doing the same and im really scared that im going to miss out on making friends or something by not living in student accomadations 😭, im not that far from the uni its likes one bus away but i haev such bad FOMO sometimess

I feel like you will appreciate this when you’re not in debt like a lot of other uni students! As long as you’re fairly social and make efforts in getting to know people, you will be absolutely fine I wouldn’t worry 🙂
Original post by starfshi
im gonna be staying at home during uni, but i dont know of anybody doing the same and im really scared that im going to miss out on making friends or something by not living in student accomadations 😭, im not that far from the uni its likes one bus away but i haev such bad FOMO sometimess

Hi there,

I commuted in my first year of uni and still made an amazing group of friends. I think it is definitely possible, just make sure you are joining clubs and societies, and sit next to people in lectures and im sure you will be fine. I did stay in accommodation for the first few months of my first year and then moved out due to lockdown, but I can honestly say that the friends I made in the accommodation are not my group of friends now, I met my friends when I was commuting so it is definitely possible.

I hope this helps,

Ellen
Uni of Sunderland digital ambassador
Original post by starfshi
im gonna be staying at home during uni, but i dont know of anybody doing the same and im really scared that im going to miss out on making friends or something by not living in student accomadations 😭, im not that far from the uni its likes one bus away but i haev such bad FOMO sometimess

Hi @starfshi,

I also live at home and commute to university. The opportunity to make friends is still there 😉Having an FMO is real for most who are not living in student accommodation, but from my experience living with other people is complicated. Even people who move in with their friends argue. Budgeted accommodations and dealing with landlords, if you go private, are also complicated. Both options have pros and cons. I am grateful to live with a parent and spend quality time together from time to time.

Hristiana (Kingston rep)
1st Year Mental Health Nursing
Original post by starfshi
im gonna be staying at home during uni, but i dont know of anybody doing the same and im really scared that im going to miss out on making friends or something by not living in student accomadations 😭, im not that far from the uni its likes one bus away but i haev such bad FOMO sometimess

I am in the same situation as you

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