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I have been living with my parents for all of my life, now I’m going to live on my own for the very first time at university. Does anyone have any tips?
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I have been living with my parents for all of my life, now I’m going to live on my own for the very first time at university. Does anyone have any tips?

Hey there!

I felt similar when I moved into halls. One piece of advice I was given, which I did and I think it helped, was to try not to go back home for at least one month. This is because it is very easy to fall into the habit of going back home frequently, sometimes every weekend. If you give yourself at least a month to fully integrate into your new life at university, you will feel a lot more comfortable and overall have a better experience. A lot of socialising happens in the first few weeks, particularly on weekends when you might find yourself wanting to go home. This is the period when groups of friends are formed and just friendships in general, so it is really important for you to be at your accommodation during this time. It sets you up to have a good experience living in halls for the rest of the year.

I hope that makes sense! Others who had already experienced living away from university constantly told me this. Some say that they wished they had forced themselves to stay at their halls, as they missed out on many opportunities to form friendships that would have made their lives at university easier.

For everyday living, you are in a flat with others who probably haven't lived alone before, too, so you will all be working out things together. I became more involved with the food shop and cooking at home before I moved away to 'practice'. I quickly learnt what I needed to buy on a budget for the meals that I enjoyed cooking.

Finally, it can sometimes feel quite lonely at uni, mainly when you first get there (which is why so many people are very tempted to go home more). It was quite a shock for me as I thought I would always be surrounded by people and doing fun things, but it is not always like that. My tip would be to incorporate things into your life that you can enjoy alone and help pass the time well. For example, join a gym nearby and attend some classes. You can also find some nice cafes or green spaces that you can visit. Spend time in the library doing your work rather than shut away in your room.

Change is always scary, but I promise your life at university will quickly become the 'norm'.

I wish you all the best!

Anastasia,
BCU Student Rep.

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