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Horny all the time (Muslim) boy

Am struggling all the time the feeling never goes away and sometimes I have to masturbate as I have no other choice. I pray and read Quran but struggle with porn and masturbation and sometimes even sexting. I get horny anytime by the slightest thing that can turn me on. I am 17 so I can’t really get married as am not ready but the pressure is really killing me I always feel like it’s just me or do any other boys and girls have this.
Original post by Anonymous
Am struggling all the time the feeling never goes away and sometimes I have to masturbate as I have no other choice. I pray and read Quran but struggle with porn and masturbation and sometimes even sexting. I get horny anytime by the slightest thing that can turn me on. I am 17 so I can’t really get married as am not ready but the pressure is really killing me I always feel like it’s just me or do any other boys and girls have this.

Hi there, I'm sorry you feel that way. You are very young and from a biological perspective - I'm sure it's mostly your body's natural way of maturing. It is normal and human to have intense emotional feelings and physical desires so don't feel that it is "haram" because it's a natural physiological process and everyone goes through it. For some it's more intense than others or it may even be that they are more self-aware of their emotions/actions. You are not the only one - it's a taboo topic so it's not talked about a lot.

Just some advice - try and avoid watching porn if you can. From a psychological perspective, it could give you a very unrealistic idea of what intimacy really is and gives you an unrealistic expectation of what your body and your partner's body should look like.

Praying and reading the Quran can help but also in your prayers acknowledge that this okay and it will pass. If you do feel that they may be an underlying reason why it is intense - do talk to people you trust a lot (friends, therapist etc). I know it's not the easiest thing to do, but I feel that this post is more to do with feeling guilty about feeling the way you feel, than the actual emotion itself.

I really hope that you find a solution to your issue. You are definitely not the only one.
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Original post by Anonymous
Hi there, I'm sorry you feel that way. You are very young and from a biological perspective - I'm sure it's mostly your body's natural way of maturing. It is normal and human to have intense emotional feelings and physical desires so don't feel that it is "haram" because it's a natural physiological process and everyone goes through it. For some it's more intense than others or it may even be that they are more self-aware of their emotions/actions. You are not the only one - it's a taboo topic so it's not talked about a lot.
Just some advice - try and avoid watching porn if you can. From a psychological perspective, it could give you a very unrealistic idea of what intimacy really is and gives you an unrealistic expectation of what your body and your partner's body should look like.
Praying and reading the Quran can help but also in your prayers acknowledge that this okay and it will pass. If you do feel that they may be an underlying reason why it is intense - do talk to people you trust a lot (friends, therapist etc). I know it's not the easiest thing to do, but I feel that this post is more to do with feeling guilty about feeling the way you feel, than the actual emotion itself.
I really hope that you find a solution to your issue. You are definitely not the only one.

Appreciate it so much tbh I don’t know what to say the advice is so helpful and perfectly laid out I will try to do what you told me
May allah bless you

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