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I’m a 16 yr old girl and i’ve never been drunk. i know so many people who have gotten drunk & gone to parties & i desperately long to experience these things too because i don’t want to miss out and ruin my teen years by doing nothing.
i have had alcohol before but i never really liked it, but on new years i had like 2-3 shots of vodka because i wanted to know what it was like. i would’ve only had one shot but i loved the warm sensation it made down my throat an it made me want to have more. i’m worried that if i ever to start to drink i would get addicted - i know that is pretty far fetched but what if i just can’t stop??
also, i’m worried that i’d reveal secrets that i’m not meant to tell or i’d do something really stupid. my bff always tells me crazy stories about things she and other people have done and said whilst drunk.
i know lots of people get much more confident when they’d drunk too and i’d love to be more confident, which makes me feel more inclined to get drunk. but what if i’m an angry drunk? or a sad drunk? or just really horrid to be around whilst i’m drunk?
i don’t know what to do i feel so conflicted!!
Original post by Anonymous
I’m a 16 yr old girl and i’ve never been drunk. i know so many people who have gotten drunk & gone to parties & i desperately long to experience these things too because i don’t want to miss out and ruin my teen years by doing nothing.
i have had alcohol before but i never really liked it, but on new years i had like 2-3 shots of vodka because i wanted to know what it was like. i would’ve only had one shot but i loved the warm sensation it made down my throat an it made me want to have more. i’m worried that if i ever to start to drink i would get addicted - i know that is pretty far fetched but what if i just can’t stop??
also, i’m worried that i’d reveal secrets that i’m not meant to tell or i’d do something really stupid. my bff always tells me crazy stories about things she and other people have done and said whilst drunk.
i know lots of people get much more confident when they’d drunk too and i’d love to be more confident, which makes me feel more inclined to get drunk. but what if i’m an angry drunk? or a sad drunk? or just really horrid to be around whilst i’m drunk?
i don’t know what to do i feel so conflicted!!

I can understand this fear; I experienced it myself to some degree. My advice is to start small and find what you like - flavoured cider is often a good starter drink for teens as it is low alcohol and most people like it. By having small amounts of alcohol you'll be able to see how it affects you and learn to know your limits: how much to drink before you don't like the feeling or you get too emotional/aggressive and don't like how you act (it does happen to some people).
Agree with the user above, drink slowly don’t have loads in one go that’s my mistake. I’ve drank half bottles of mead and then other stuff once we’ve hit pubs and bars and ended up on the floor by the time clubs even open (9/10pm). Drink one drink over a period of time rather than downing it. It’s when you drink too fast you get too drunk and lose control of your words etc. Start with ciders, VK’s and then you can work your way into different things. Cocktail cans are also good for starters and they’re quite cheap to buy.
Original post by Anonymous
I’m a 16 yr old girl and i’ve never been drunk. i know so many people who have gotten drunk & gone to parties & i desperately long to experience these things too because i don’t want to miss out and ruin my teen years by doing nothing.
i have had alcohol before but i never really liked it, but on new years i had like 2-3 shots of vodka because i wanted to know what it was like. i would’ve only had one shot but i loved the warm sensation it made down my throat an it made me want to have more. i’m worried that if i ever to start to drink i would get addicted - i know that is pretty far fetched but what if i just can’t stop??
also, i’m worried that i’d reveal secrets that i’m not meant to tell or i’d do something really stupid. my bff always tells me crazy stories about things she and other people have done and said whilst drunk.
i know lots of people get much more confident when they’d drunk too and i’d love to be more confident, which makes me feel more inclined to get drunk. but what if i’m an angry drunk? or a sad drunk? or just really horrid to be around whilst i’m drunk?
i don’t know what to do i feel so conflicted!!

ur 16. wait until it's legal at least.
Reply 4
Don't get drunk and work on being naturally confident.
I recall once going to a Pub in Guildford about your age ,with a group of lads from the local Probation Hostel who drank like fish,lol. I remember the pavement kept coming up to meet my face !.

Much better for the OP to drink just a few drinks, get tipsy but not mad drunk, which ruins it.
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Original post by Anonymous
I’m a 16 yr old girl and i’ve never been drunk. i know so many people who have gotten drunk & gone to parties & i desperately long to experience these things too because i don’t want to miss out and ruin my teen years by doing nothing.
i have had alcohol before but i never really liked it, but on new years i had like 2-3 shots of vodka because i wanted to know what it was like. i would’ve only had one shot but i loved the warm sensation it made down my throat an it made me want to have more. i’m worried that if i ever to start to drink i would get addicted - i know that is pretty far fetched but what if i just can’t stop??
also, i’m worried that i’d reveal secrets that i’m not meant to tell or i’d do something really stupid. my bff always tells me crazy stories about things she and other people have done and said whilst drunk.
i know lots of people get much more confident when they’d drunk too and i’d love to be more confident, which makes me feel more inclined to get drunk. but what if i’m an angry drunk? or a sad drunk? or just really horrid to be around whilst i’m drunk?
i don’t know what to do i feel so conflicted!!
okay I I've gotten drunk a couple of times and I'm now 18 so i can tell you some of my experiences:

1.

I haven't said anything that i shouldn't have said like revealing secrets or acting unproblematic - people say "oh i was drunk" as an excuse for their problematic actions. I've been so drunk to the point where i passed out but never have I done something bad or reveal secrets. It's more to do with the fact that you care less and feel more free but if you care about not revealing those secrets, you won't say anything. You're still in control of what you're saying at the same - at least my experience.

2.

I'm an introvert too so i thought getting drunk would make me more confident. idk whether it does or not but it defo makes me feel less stressed. I'm more of a logical thinker so i never feel comfortable infront of people i don't know but thats more of a me problem than a general thing.

3.

idk how many parties you're invited to where alcohol is involved but as i don't go to many - since September, i've probably been to 5 but i've drunk heavily for 3 of them. I never craved it or got addicted so doing it a couple times won't create an addiction for you. There are people in my school that go out nearly every week and need alchohol to have fun - thats where you should draw the line imo. Also you're not gonna feel the need to drink at every party and thats fine - you shouldn't feel like you have to.

Original post by Anonymous
I’m a 16 yr old girl and i’ve never been drunk. i know so many people who have gotten drunk & gone to parties & i desperately long to experience these things too because i don’t want to miss out and ruin my teen years by doing nothing.
i have had alcohol before but i never really liked it, but on new years i had like 2-3 shots of vodka because i wanted to know what it was like. i would’ve only had one shot but i loved the warm sensation it made down my throat an it made me want to have more. i’m worried that if i ever to start to drink i would get addicted - i know that is pretty far fetched but what if i just can’t stop??
also, i’m worried that i’d reveal secrets that i’m not meant to tell or i’d do something really stupid. my bff always tells me crazy stories about things she and other people have done and said whilst drunk.
i know lots of people get much more confident when they’d drunk too and i’d love to be more confident, which makes me feel more inclined to get drunk. but what if i’m an angry drunk? or a sad drunk? or just really horrid to be around whilst i’m drunk?
i don’t know what to do i feel so conflicted!!

top tip if you don’t like the taste of shots hold your nose and keep your mouth open and breathe through your mouth and then you won’t taste anything
I totally understand this fear. When i first started drinking, because i was very introverted, it brought me out of my shell alot more, so for a long time i liked getting drunk. but i realised that it actually made me feel so much worse because i would wake up the next morning with the worst anxiety about what i had said or done or if id embarrassed myself. At the same time though, no one has ever brought up anything ive said or done and its probably because when you are out drinking 9 times out of 10 the people around you are just as drunk as you and are just having fun and dont care. I would say though, start slowly. sometimes when you start drinking you think that you need more drinks because you dont feel drunk enough, but then all of a sudden it just hits you all at once. so just be patient at first lol
Original post by Anonymous
I’m a 16 yr old girl and i’ve never been drunk. i know so many people who have gotten drunk & gone to parties & i desperately long to experience these things too because i don’t want to miss out and ruin my teen years by doing nothing.
i have had alcohol before but i never really liked it, but on new years i had like 2-3 shots of vodka because i wanted to know what it was like. i would’ve only had one shot but i loved the warm sensation it made down my throat an it made me want to have more. i’m worried that if i ever to start to drink i would get addicted - i know that is pretty far fetched but what if i just can’t stop??
also, i’m worried that i’d reveal secrets that i’m not meant to tell or i’d do something really stupid. my bff always tells me crazy stories about things she and other people have done and said whilst drunk.
i know lots of people get much more confident when they’d drunk too and i’d love to be more confident, which makes me feel more inclined to get drunk. but what if i’m an angry drunk? or a sad drunk? or just really horrid to be around whilst i’m drunk?
i don’t know what to do i feel so conflicted!!

Nah I feel like if u do it once or twice.. like going in Extreme drunk mode taking 8 to 10 shots, that is the very moment you open ur 3rd Eye.... Just kidding.. Its like u took ur curtains off and that is the real you.. For me I feel really confident, in general I am really shy specially with girls, but I feel a new me after getting drunk XD. All in good terms tho.. Cheers
Original post by riik112233
Nah I feel like if u do it once or twice.. like going in Extreme drunk mode taking 8 to 10 shots, that is the very moment you open ur 3rd Eye.... Just kidding.. Its like u took ur curtains off and that is the real you.. For me I feel really confident, in general I am really shy specially with girls, but I feel a new me after getting drunk XD. All in good terms tho.. Cheers

Sorry but you have a problem. Instead of getting Drunk to have confidence to talk with girls, go get a Therapist (I don't say that rudely) to sort that shyness. I know one, she does Hypnotherapy and other therapies and would cure your shyness. Much cheaper than drink. Maybe £140 (2 sessions of 1 hr) job done. Then you can cut back on drink and
bingo.

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