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So what happened was that a girl was disrespecting me and I just didn't want to respond to her nonsense so I remained silent but my bsf started talking back to her. I told her to remain silent as I don't want to create any conflict moreover I just don't have the energy but my bsf kept going. Now she fought with me and told me that I was half smiling( i wasn't )when that girl insulted her. Is it my fault? Please be honest
Reply 1
yes and no
becauze when nowadyz ur quite in beef it csuzes roblems
but not ur fault as friend is trying to back u but also she sees no point in ignoring.
but u could explain the reason for being quite
Reply 2
Original post by JF ZAK
yes and no
becauze when nowadyz ur quite in beef it csuzes roblems
but not ur fault as friend is trying to back u but also she sees no point in ignoring.
but u could explain the reason for being quite

I told her the reason but she started with other previous topics , like how that same girl insulted her last time and i told her that I won't be able to talk like a friend with that girl (like obvly I won't treat that girl like a friend after she insulted my bsf) , she started with how I still talk like a friend to that girl(which I don't at all, i didn't even gift anything to her on her bday even tho she did) . Now I can't just stop taking to people of they approach me but still I don't talk to her like a friend but she's in my class and I've to discuss few topics about study. She angry with me Caz of that too
Original post by Anonymous
I told her the reason but she started with other previous topics , like how that same girl insulted her last time and i told her that I won't be able to talk like a friend with that girl (like obvly I won't treat that girl like a friend after she insulted my bsf) , she started with how I still talk like a friend to that girl(which I don't at all, i didn't even gift anything to her on her bday even tho she did) . Now I can't just stop taking to people of they approach me but still I don't talk to her like a friend but she's in my class and I've to discuss few topics about study. She angry with me Caz of that too


Seems like ur bsf is a bit immature.
Ask her if she'd stop talking and start ignoring ppl you don't like for you.

I don't think she would, esp if tht person was her friend.
You're not in the wrong, you didnt want beef, your friend joined in when no one asked her too and now she's mad at you for not backing her up? That's crazy.

However, you should have deffo stepped up when your friend got insulted, told the other person to su or sum
Reply 4
Original post by limbobimbo
Seems like ur bsf is a bit immature.
Ask her if she'd stop talking and start ignoring ppl you don't like for you.
I don't think she would, esp if tht person was her friend.
You're not in the wrong, you didnt want beef, your friend joined in when no one asked her too and now she's mad at you for not backing her up? That's crazy.
However, you should have deffo stepped up when your friend got insulted, told the other person to su or sum

I did had a conversation with her about this and apologized too but she started bombarding with various other things and told me that I'm jealous of this one girl when she's with her (which I'm def not jealous at all, I've always hyped her to make new friends). Even tho I apologised she sarcastically replied with "okaa" and left. It's been 2 days we haven't said a word to each other.
Original post by Anonymous
I did had a conversation with her about this and apologized too but she started bombarding with various other things and told me that I'm jealous of this one girl when she's with her (which I'm def not jealous at all, I've always hyped her to make new friends). Even tho I apologised she sarcastically replied with "okaa" and left. It's been 2 days we haven't said a word to each other.


Yk sometimes its best to drift apart from ppl who seem immature.
Friends are meant to understand each other, now if ur in the wrong and ur not understanding or whether she's in the wrong and refusing to accept tht, it rly doesnt matter.

You guys currently arent suited to be friends. Do u have other friends to talk to? Befriend new ppl, leave toxic ppl behind. Im saying as someone who has dealt with toxic ppl for 2-3 years. After a while, it drains u and even backfires on you when u try to be understanding or u stand up for urself and speak up.

Better to find good friends than become someone who no one trusts because you've got a toxic person by urside.
Reply 6
Original post by Anonymous
Yk sometimes its best to drift apart from ppl who seem immature.
Friends are meant to understand each other, now if ur in the wrong and ur not understanding or whether she's in the wrong and refusing to accept tht, it rly doesnt matter.
You guys currently arent suited to be friends. Do u have other friends to talk to? Befriend new ppl, leave toxic ppl behind. Im saying as someone who has dealt with toxic ppl for 2-3 years. After a while, it drains u and even backfires on you when u try to be understanding or u stand up for urself and speak up.
Better to find good friends than become someone who no one trusts because you've got a toxic person by urside.

Not really, nobody seems likable yk. She's the one I trust with everything that's why I apologised. The last words when I spoke to her were "I'm sorry". It's our last high school year , it's hard to loose someone who's so close with you. She's the first one whom I felt like the friendship ain't one sided. But afterall this, she probably doesn't want to talk with me like obvly
Reply 7
Original post by Anonymous
I told her the reason but she started with other previous topics , like how that same girl insulted her last time and i told her that I won't be able to talk like a friend with that girl (like obvly I won't treat that girl like a friend after she insulted my bsf) , she started with how I still talk like a friend to that girl(which I don't at all, i didn't even gift anything to her on her bday even tho she did) . Now I can't just stop taking to people of they approach me but still I don't talk to her like a friend but she's in my class and I've to discuss few topics about study. She angry with me Caz of that too

i guess ur friend is over protective
but in the wrong if she countinues
just drop her cauze u can fight ur own battles
and if u still want to get on with other girl the ur choice
she cant force u
Original post by Anonymous
Not really, nobody seems likable yk. She's the one I trust with everything that's why I apologised. The last words when I spoke to her were "I'm sorry". It's our last high school year , it's hard to loose someone who's so close with you. She's the first one whom I felt like the friendship ain't one sided. But afterall this, she probably doesn't want to talk with me like obvly


Look if ur friend clearly doesn't wanna talk to u, i think its best to see that the friendship IS onesided
Reply 9
Original post by JF ZAK
i guess ur friend is over protective
but in the wrong if she countinues
just drop her cauze u can fight ur own battles
and if u still want to get on with other girl the ur choice
she cant force u
Yea today I asked her if we are over and she said yes :frown:
Original post by Anonymous
Look if ur friend clearly doesn't wanna talk to u, i think its best to see that the friendship IS onesided

Yes I are kinda right ig. I asked her today if we are over directly and she replied "yes" so ig yea
Original post by Anonymous
Yes I are kinda right ig. I asked her today if we are over directly and she replied "yes" so ig yea


Damn, yeah get better and new friends.
Reply 12
Original post by Anonymous
Yea today I asked her if we are over and she said yes :frown:

that was a bad friend

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