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scared of exeter uni stereotypes

Hi, I'm an offer holder for at Exeter uni for 2024

I like the location of the uni and the course I'm doing but I'm scared of the stereotypes. The people from my school that are going and the people I've seen online from Exeter are probably all really nice people but not the kinds of people that I see myself being friends with. I'm more of a quiet person, not a big fan of drinking/clubbing etc.

I was thinking about going for Duryard accommodation which is a 20 min walk away from central campus but I figured it might be a bit quieter? Can anyone who has lived there let me know how it is?

I know I might seem small minded for being scared of all this, but I just really want to make a good group of friends at uni. If any Exeter students who were in a similar situation to me can let me know how it went for them, that would be great! Or if any other offer holders are scared of similar things..
Hi Anonymous #1,

First of all, congratulations on your offer!

A few years back when I was joining the university, I’d heard of all these stereotypes too. But after settling in here, I can truthfully say that there are all different kinds of people with different interests and preferences when it comes to socialising, and you’ll find your people!

I like to go out sometimes, but I’ve also got friends who don’t like going out, and socially I’d say they get on just fine. There’s so much stuff you can do in Exeter that doesn’t revolve around going out all the time. There’s a host of awesome coffee shops, and the countryside and scenery makes it a beautiful place to explore!

So, bottom line is - if you fancy the uni, like the course, and think it’s right for you, I wouldn’t let the stereotypes put you off.

Best of luck,

Jen,

University of Exeter student ambassador
Students at Cornwall campus, University of Exeter
University of Exeter
Exeter

Conversely I’d be more concerned over how poor that student’s behaviour must have been to fall under the uni’s harassment policy. Can’t read the rest of the paywalled article but the ‘gender fluidity is “stupid”...’ quote is setting off every alarm bell going.

Let’s hope our OP doesn’t bump into anyone like that.
Reply 4
Original post by Admit-One
Conversely I’d be more concerned over how poor that student’s behaviour must have been to fall under the uni’s harassment policy. Can’t read the rest of the paywalled article but the ‘gender fluidity is “stupid”...’ quote is setting off every alarm bell going.
Let’s hope our OP doesn’t bump into anyone like that.


It "must have been" bad must it? You know something everyone else doesn't then? Because Exeter Uni are refusing to engage and have published no such information. You can read all about it in several news sources that are not paywalled.

People aren’t allowed to express perfectly common views about gender and veganism to someone during a private phone call with nobody else in the room? Wow.
(edited 2 months ago)
Original post by Anonymous
Hi, I'm an offer holder for at Exeter uni for 2024
I like the location of the uni and the course I'm doing but I'm scared of the stereotypes. The people from my school that are going and the people I've seen online from Exeter are probably all really nice people but not the kinds of people that I see myself being friends with. I'm more of a quiet person, not a big fan of drinking/clubbing etc.
I was thinking about going for Duryard accommodation which is a 20 min walk away from central campus but I figured it might be a bit quieter? Can anyone who has lived there let me know how it is?
I know I might seem small minded for being scared of all this, but I just really want to make a good group of friends at uni. If any Exeter students who were in a similar situation to me can let me know how it went for them, that would be great! Or if any other offer holders are scared of similar things..

hi i'm also an offer holder for exeter this year and really relate to this. i'm hoping to meet people through societies that are similar to me and not wanting to go clubbing all the time. I definitely understand being stressed about this though as i also really want to make close friends, are there any societies you were thinking of joining?
Original post by Anonymous
hi i'm also an offer holder for exeter this year and really relate to this. i'm hoping to meet people through societies that are similar to me and not wanting to go clubbing all the time. I definitely understand being stressed about this though as i also really want to make close friends, are there any societies you were thinking of joining?
My son has just accepted an offer for Exeter after a long time deciding. He is not like one of those stereo-types at all and won't want to go clubbing. You will find your people there, don't worry. He likes films and politics.
Reply 7
Original post by Anonymous
Hi, I'm an offer holder for at Exeter uni for 2024
I like the location of the uni and the course I'm doing but I'm scared of the stereotypes. The people from my school that are going and the people I've seen online from Exeter are probably all really nice people but not the kinds of people that I see myself being friends with. I'm more of a quiet person, not a big fan of drinking/clubbing etc.
I was thinking about going for Duryard accommodation which is a 20 min walk away from central campus but I figured it might be a bit quieter? Can anyone who has lived there let me know how it is?
I know I might seem small minded for being scared of all this, but I just really want to make a good group of friends at uni. If any Exeter students who were in a similar situation to me can let me know how it went for them, that would be great! Or if any other offer holders are scared of similar things..

My advice for finding like-minded people during your time at uni is to try to attend as many different society socials and events during freshers week as possible. All freshers are in the same situation of being in a new place with a bunch of people they don't know, so everyone is looking to make friends and meet people, and the best place to do this is societies (in my opinion), since it's where you'll find people with similar hobbies and interests to you.
Reply 8
Hey,

I started Exeter University in 2014, so will be 10 years exactly from when you will be a first year. I graduated around 6 years ago.

I would say that the 'stereotype' was more prominent when I started a decade ago of most of the students being very well off, posh sports players etc.

Do you get these types of students still? Yes. But the majority are really just nice and down to earth people. The truth is, anywhere you go in the world there will always be a few unpleasant people. That can never be avoided.

The past few years in particular Exeter seems to have accepted students from a wider range of backgrounds. However as I said, you will get good and bad everywhere and should not go in with the mindset that the students will be a certain type of way.

Exeter is a fantastic University and an awesome place to be a student. Join lots of societies and make full use of living in such a cool place! Huge variety of restaurants, clubs, bars, student nights etc. And you are a train ride away from really beautiful villages and seaside towns i.e. Exmouth, Teignmouth, Totness. Make full use of that too!

Have a blast there and make the most of it!
(edited 4 weeks ago)
Original post by Origin8a
It "must have been" bad must it? You know something everyone else doesn't then? Because Exeter Uni are refusing to engage and have published no such information. You can read all about it in several news sources that are not paywalled.
People aren’t allowed to express perfectly common views about gender and veganism to someone during a private phone call with nobody else in the room? Wow.

Exactly
Original post by Anonymous
hi i'm also an offer holder for exeter this year and really relate to this. i'm hoping to meet people through societies that are similar to me and not wanting to go clubbing all the time. I definitely understand being stressed about this though as i also really want to make close friends, are there any societies you were thinking of joining?

Hi, it's nice to know others are thinking the same :smile:
I was thinking about joining stuff like litsoc, and I really want to try fencing! What about you??
Original post by Anonymous
Hi, it's nice to know others are thinking the same :smile:
I was thinking about joining stuff like litsoc, and I really want to try fencing! What about you??


i tried fencing a few years ago its so fun!
Original post by Anonymous
Hi, I'm an offer holder for at Exeter uni for 2024
I like the location of the uni and the course I'm doing but I'm scared of the stereotypes. The people from my school that are going and the people I've seen online from Exeter are probably all really nice people but not the kinds of people that I see myself being friends with. I'm more of a quiet person, not a big fan of drinking/clubbing etc.
I was thinking about going for Duryard accommodation which is a 20 min walk away from central campus but I figured it might be a bit quieter? Can anyone who has lived there let me know how it is?
I know I might seem small minded for being scared of all this, but I just really want to make a good group of friends at uni. If any Exeter students who were in a similar situation to me can let me know how it went for them, that would be great! Or if any other offer holders are scared of similar things..

Heyy I'm in a really similar situation, offer holder for September and I can't go clubbing because of medical reasons so I really want to find friends who also don't just want to club! I was thinking of putting Rowe House/Duryard for accommodation as well! What societies do you want to join/ what hobbies are you interested in? There's a sober socials society which organises events not centred around drinking so you could definitely make friends through that as well as sports/hobbies.
Original post by Anonymous
Heyy I'm in a really similar situation, offer holder for September and I can't go clubbing because of medical reasons so I really want to find friends who also don't just want to club! I was thinking of putting Rowe House/Duryard for accommodation as well! What societies do you want to join/ what hobbies are you interested in? There's a sober socials society which organises events not centred around drinking so you could definitely make friends through that as well as sports/hobbies.
Heyy, i'm glad others are in the same situation! I have so many societies that i want to join and i'm not gonna have time for them all haha. Definitely litsoc and maybe women in stem since i'm doing maths, i'm also not great at sports involving balls so i'm going to try out fencing I think, what about you?
Original post by Anonymous
Heyy, i'm glad others are in the same situation! I have so many societies that i want to join and i'm not gonna have time for them all haha. Definitely litsoc and maybe women in stem since i'm doing maths, i'm also not great at sports involving balls so i'm going to try out fencing I think, what about you?

I'm the same they have so many societies I definitely want to try lots out and then just choose properly later! But I was also thinking about joining litsoc 🙂. I'm thinking of journalism/debating as well. Sports= maybe continuing girls rugby but I really want to try surfing for fun and maybe volleyball/athletics. Goodluck in the maths exam tomorrow!
Original post by Admit-One
Conversely I’d be more concerned over how poor that student’s behaviour must have been to fall under the uni’s harassment policy. Can’t read the rest of the paywalled article but the ‘gender fluidity is “stupid”...’ quote is setting off every alarm bell going.
Let’s hope our OP doesn’t bump into anyone like that.


University used to be a place where ideas could be expressed freely. I hope the OP bumps into all sorts of people who think all sorts of things, otherwise there's no point in any of it.
Original post by Origin8a
It "must have been" bad must it? You know something everyone else doesn't then? Because Exeter Uni are refusing to engage and have published no such information. You can read all about it in several news sources that are not paywalled.
People aren’t allowed to express perfectly common views about gender and veganism to someone during a private phone call with nobody else in the room? Wow.

Up until 20 minutes ago, pretty much everyone on earth thought gender fluidity was stupid. And with the exception of a very small number of people in Europe, North America and Australia, pretty much everyone on earth still thinks that. One of the big issues today is that those small number of people think that surpressing any other idea is the high water mark of liberalism and human freedom.
Original post by Anonymous
Heyy, i'm glad others are in the same situation! I have so many societies that i want to join and i'm not gonna have time for them all haha. Definitely litsoc and maybe women in stem since i'm doing maths, i'm also not great at sports involving balls so i'm going to try out fencing I think, what about you?

How it generally shakes out is that you join 10 societies and end up doing 1 seriously and 1 half heartedly.
Original post by Anonymous
Hi, I'm an offer holder for at Exeter uni for 2024
I like the location of the uni and the course I'm doing but I'm scared of the stereotypes. The people from my school that are going and the people I've seen online from Exeter are probably all really nice people but not the kinds of people that I see myself being friends with. I'm more of a quiet person, not a big fan of drinking/clubbing etc.
I was thinking about going for Duryard accommodation which is a 20 min walk away from central campus but I figured it might be a bit quieter? Can anyone who has lived there let me know how it is?
I know I might seem small minded for being scared of all this, but I just really want to make a good group of friends at uni. If any Exeter students who were in a similar situation to me can let me know how it went for them, that would be great! Or if any other offer holders are scared of similar things..


Hi there, I go to exe and in my first year I had this exact fear. I don’t go clubbing, drink, quiet etc. So I really thought I’d be left out What I will say is make sure when asked what your interests are filling out ur accom application, that you list as much as you can. I ended up being with people similar minded to me even tho the rest of my accom was absolutely loud and crazy. I would also say join societies and really don’t try and ‘fit in’ with groups of people you wouldn’t usually hang out with. I’ve seen students try and do that only to be dropped when drinking and partying wasn’t involved. Be true to yourself and you will attract people who want to be around you and that you want to be around too.
Original post by Anonymous
Hi there, I go to exe and in my first year I had this exact fear. I don’t go clubbing, drink, quiet etc. So I really thought I’d be left out What I will say is make sure when asked what your interests are filling out ur accom application, that you list as much as you can. I ended up being with people similar minded to me even tho the rest of my accom was absolutely loud and crazy. I would also say join societies and really don’t try and ‘fit in’ with groups of people you wouldn’t usually hang out with. I’ve seen students try and do that only to be dropped when drinking and partying wasn’t involved. Be true to yourself and you will attract people who want to be around you and that you want to be around too.

Heyy, thanks for the response!
I think they removed the option of putting down your interests in the accommodation form which is kinda annoying.. There is a box that asks if there is anything else they should take into consideration but I'm not sure if writing anything in there will change anything?

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