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there is this female friend of my boyfriend i am insecure off and i have discussed this with my boyfriend and he being very supportive towards me. But my boyfriend told me that he going to drop her off mid way back home. Should I tag along with them or not?
Reply 1
No; why would you do that?
Original post by girl.next.door
there is this female friend of my boyfriend i am insecure off and i have discussed this with my boyfriend and he being very supportive towards me. But my boyfriend told me that he going to drop her off mid way back home. Should I tag along with them or not?

Go for it that’s red flag behaviour that he’s your man he should be prioritising you and your safety and wellbeing yet he’s so focused on making sure she’s gone home safe.
Original post by Surnia
No; why would you do that?

Why wouldn’t she do that reread what you wrote again
I don't really see the issue in dropping a friend off home, especially if you've raised your concerns and your BF has been supportive. Sometimes helping a friend out is just that.
Original post by Mohammed_2000
Go for it that’s red flag behaviour that he’s your man he should be prioritising you and your safety and wellbeing yet he’s so focused on making sure she’s gone home safe.
Not red flag behaviour in the slightest and feel free to point out where the OP has said that her safety/wellbeing was being put at risk. Just because you are in a relationship - doesn't mean you can't have friends of the sex you are attracted to.
Original post by Anonymous
Not red flag behaviour in the slightest and feel free to point out where the OP has said that her safety/wellbeing was being put at risk. Just because you are in a relationship - doesn't mean you can't have friends of the sex you are attracted to.

How is it not that is he is her man to the least or to some extent prioritise and know your girl safe, I’m not saying he can’t be friends with the opposite gender I didn’t say OP safety or wellbeing at risk he should focus more about the OP than that other girl mate of his. Yeah I’m aware of that be in a relationship and have friends of the opposite sex but prioritise and learn to take care of your own woman first before worrying about a girl who’s just a friend. For all you know that could be the start of something flirtatious or something cheat worthy happening behind OP back.
Reply 7
Original post by Mohammed_2000
Go for it that’s red flag behaviour that he’s your man he should be prioritising you and your safety and wellbeing yet he’s so focused on making sure she’s gone home safe.

The OP hasn't said she's being left unsafe by not getting a lift, just that her boyfriend is dropping off a friend and she is thinking of joining them because she's insecure, ie doesn't trust her boyfriend.
Reply 8
Original post by Mohammed_2000
Why wouldn’t she do that reread what you wrote again

Her boyfriend is giving a friend a lift; why does the OP need to be there for that? Should she go to work or shopping with him in case he meets a girl she doesn't trust?
Original post by Surnia
The OP hasn't said she's being left unsafe by not getting a lift, just that her boyfriend is dropping off a friend and she is thinking of joining them because she's insecure, ie doesn't trust her boyfriend.

I’m referencing to how a man should prioritise his own girl safety. Why is he so focused on dropping another girl off let alone not be worried about his own
Original post by Surnia
Her boyfriend is giving a friend a lift; why does the OP need to be there for that? Should she go to work or shopping with him in case he meets a girl she doesn't trust?

Clearly stated OP insecure of her boyfriend female friend she has every right to be there with him. In that scenario no but in the case of dropping a female friend of yes
Reply 11
Original post by Mohammed_2000
I’m referencing to how a man should prioritise his own girl safety. Why is he so focused on dropping another girl off let alone not be worried about his own

Theres nothing TO worry about or prioritise; the OP isn't unsafe, is she? She's not being left standing on a random street while someone else gets a lift from her boyfriend!
Original post by Surnia
Theres nothing TO worry about or prioritise; the OP isn't unsafe, is she? She's not being left standing on a random street while someone else gets a lift from her boyfriend!

Probably your standards or expectations of a relationship then but different girls have different standards and boundaries to a relationship. Yeah but so what.. he’s going to drop another girl off what I’m saying is his focus should be on the OP the OP is his girl after all why the need to physically be in presence especially dropping another girl off I can understand maybe talking casually as friends or even working but why the need to drop for.
Reply 13
Original post by Mohammed_2000
Probably your standards or expectations of a relationship then but different girls have different standards and boundaries to a relationship. Yeah but so what.. he’s going to drop another girl off what I’m saying is his focus should be on the OP the OP is his girl after all why the need to physically be in presence especially dropping another girl off I can understand maybe talking casually as friends or even working but why the need to drop for.

Your reply 6: "I’m not saying he can’t be friends with the opposite gender." So he's giving a friend a lift. Would you object if the boyfriend was giving a male friend a lift or don't you believe in equality? It's not the boyfriend, or his actions, that are the problem, but the OP's insecurities, which she needs to address, because she's projecting them on to her boyfriend.
Original post by Surnia
Your reply 6: "I’m not saying he can’t be friends with the opposite gender." So he's giving a friend a lift. Would you object if the boyfriend was giving a male friend a lift or don't you believe in equality? It's not the boyfriend, or his actions, that are the problem, but the OP's insecurities, which she needs to address, because she's projecting them on to her boyfriend.

Him being friends with the opposite gender there’s no problem in that. Although OP admittance is that she’s insecure over the fact he is. I do believe in equality although since OP insecure about it wouldn’t it just put her insecurity at ease if she’s present?
Reply 15
Original post by Mohammed_2000
Him being friends with the opposite gender there’s no problem in that. Although OP admittance is that she’s insecure over the fact he is. I do believe in equality although since OP insecure about it wouldn’t it just put her insecurity at ease if she’s present?

And what does the OP do next time she can't tag along when her boyfriend is seeing the friend? Being present is too easy; either she trusts her boyfriend or she's doesn't, and if she does she'll give him freedom.
Reply 16
Original post by girl.next.door
there is this female friend of my boyfriend i am insecure off and i have discussed this with my boyfriend and he being very supportive towards me. But my boyfriend told me that he going to drop her off mid way back home. Should I tag along with them or not?

Why are you insecure? Is it just this girl or others? Do you not expect your boyfriend to correctly deal with anything she may do?

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