Heartbroken

I’ve been seeing this lad for about 8 months now and coming up to three months ago he said he can’t do a relationship now, which honestly broke my heart because in November and December he said he was going to make me his girlfriend soon and that he ‘was never gonna leave me’ and even gave me a kiss on the cheek after he said that when we were in bed together. He’s the first boy who I’ve ever trusted and who I’ve liked this much. I wasn’t even looking for a relationship but he showed me so much interest and we got on so well so I was like you know what I’ll see where it goes. And I know I should have left him when he said he wasn’t ready for a relationship but I didn’t because my friends said he might come round to it. For the first month, he was basically like normal, like what we were before he told me. Just stopped saving my snaps in chat and liking my stories… we said morning every day. Until about two weeks ago. He totally stopped. Like two days before he was the one who kept saying morning. I confronted him a week ago, and he said he’s lost feelings which is totally understandable but he never told me and gave me a false sense of hope as about a month ago he told me we would see eachother again and then he said ‘like you said, we don’t speak, and I don’t think we will see eachother again’ that literally BROKE me. I burst into tears. Tbh, we sort of ended things in early March but we started speaking again and became normal a few days later. And I also brought up to him the other day how he made me feel and he was giving me **** replies, I can see when he’s active and he was active all the time. And yesterday I sent him a snap and he left me on delivered for 14 hours whilst he was active for ages. I just want him back. I think the reason I’ve stayed around for so long is because I really believe that me and him will become something? Or that I genuinely like I genuinely can’t let go of him. I really can’t. There’s something there where I can’t just let him go. Like people say you need to but I just don’t have it in me. Please someone say something!

You say he didn't tell you he lost feelings, but he did, 3 months ago, when he said he didn't want a relationship! Though tbh, if after 4 months he still couldn't decide if he wanted you as a girlfriend the writing was on the wall.
You sound quite young; is this your first relationship? Because what you've done is have a conversation with your friends, and not with him on how to navigate the break-up; you've both let things drift and assumed the other was OK with it, and you've taken that as a positive sign. He can leave you on delivered, because you aren't a priority to him anymore. Time to let him go and break off communication so there's no confusion.

You say he didn't tell you he lost feelings, but he did, 3 months ago, when he said he didn't want a relationship! Though tbh, if after 4 months he still couldn't decide if he wanted you as a girlfriend the writing was on the wall.
You sound quite young; is this your first relationship? Because what you've done is have a conversation with your friends, and not with him on how to navigate the break-up; you've both let things drift and assumed the other was OK with it, and you've taken that as a positive sign. He can leave you on delivered, because you aren't a priority to him anymore. Time to let him go and break off communication so there's no confusion.

Plenty of fish in the sea i guess. But in my opinion talk to a friend about it or just talk to him about it and accept the breakup thats the only way to deal with it.

Is it him that you miss or was it the attention he gave you? That should help you get over him!