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what is it like moving out?

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Original post by pharmacyrockz
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Hi @pharmacyrockz,

It is definitely normal to feel nervous about moving away.

If you are moving into university accommodation I would advise you to have a see if there are any Facebook groups for your year as a fresher as it can be a great way of finding flat mates. This could then mean if you don't live too far away from them a chance to meet up ahead of moving in just to get to know them a bit better.

If not during freshers week you have lots of opportunities to get to know them better.

I think just remember you will likely feel homesick for quite a while and that is totally normal but if you can bring some home comforts such as photos that could help.

I would recommend not going home within the first couple of weekends as I've heard that it can make coming back to university more difficult as you will settle back home and if you've not yet settled at university it can make it difficult to want to come back. You could instead see if your family or friends are willing to come up and see you for the day instead.

Freshers week is there to make you forget about moving away as you will have induction week for your course during the day and then all the freshers activities in the evenings. I would just say try and keep busy and make the most of your time.

Hope that helped!

Rebecca
3rd Year Geonevironmental Hazards Student
Both my daughters handled it a different way. But top tips id say is get cooking. Eldest lived on waffles, beans and hotdogs in year one lol. So learning spag bol, or pasta in sauce, or rice and veg, chicken fajitas and that is great. You can batch cook and store some in the freezer.
That helps you save some money which leads onto budgeting.

The youngest took a gap year, and shes starting in 2024, and looking at supermarkets on line and pricing things up. She will be living in private studio halls with her boyfriend so shes budgeted for the pair of them. Shes also taken into consideration, bus fare, socialising, bit of money to put away for clothes, printing, laundry and phone.

Next thing to help you be more independant is the washing and drying. There are videos on circuit laundry on how to use them which is a huge help.

Socially- freshers facebook groups are good, and also making sure you have joined societies as well. You can always drop one if you feel you joined too many.
Go and visit the city, explore with your new flat mates. Say hi to as many people as you can. You could have some flatmate friends, society friends, and subject group friends. Thats how eldest did it and she started when restrictions were on during covid.
Keeping busy is also a good way to avoid the homesickness. and try not to go home within the first two weeks, and let parents come to you instead.
Original post by pharmacyrockz
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@pharmacyrockz

It's perfectly normal to feel nervous about moving away. It's getting out of your comfort zone and it can be pretty scary to have the independence to make your own choices without input from family. It means it can be easy to get into a pattern of lazy shopping and eating : (

It can be a struggle to be away from home without a routine, so I think one of the quickest ways to adjust is to create your own routine i.e. the day you go shopping, do the laundry, clean, etc...I think it helps with feeling more settled as it gives structure to the week and prevents things not getting done and rolling on to the next day.

You won't be on your own. There will be other students away from home trying to figure out university life and how to use their new-found-freedom. This can make it easier to make friends as people can feel pretty vulnerable away from home. The desire to feel settled quickly means that people are more likely to form friendships.

Moving away is daunting, but hopefully by the end of the first term, you will feel confident navigating your away around the university, have met some interesting people in your halls or on your course and feel more at home in the town or city where the university is based.

Don't panic!

Oluwatosin 3rd year student University of Huddersfield
Honestly the whole university experince kind of sucks so I don’t really recommend moving out. Socially it’s overrated, you’re basically hanging out with idiots every day. There’s not really any benefits to living at university in first year.
Original post by pharmacyrockz
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Hey @pharmacyrockz

Moving out for uni is a big and exciting step. It is natural to feel nervous and doing things to get prepared can be really useful. Buying and colleting things as you go can be really helpful and make the challenge of making sure you have all you need less overwhelming and more enjoyable. If your moving into halls / student accommodation there are often group chats where some connect before hand and can make it less scary.
Knowing some basics of cooking, laundry and spending is helpful. Knowing your finances and making a budget can also be good to help keep you on track.
Embrace it and all the best!
Catherine - University of Strathclyde Student Ambassador
Hi @pharmacyrockz,
At 19 I moved into halls and was at a university more than three hours from my family. These few months were a mixture of emotions and experiences. In the beginning, it was lonely. I did not know the people who lived next to me. My attempts at making friends were repeating psychology jokes like “How many therapists does it take to change a lightbulb?”. By becoming more involved in the Christian and dance societies I got to be around others. Being surrounded by other people felt less lonely even if we were not that close. After that, the best thing I did was moving back home and enrolling at a local university. Everything you do will give you experience and I do not regret mine. At 24 I am still living at home and very happy doing that. Moving away works amazingly for some people you never know what you are missing until you give it a go.

Is there anything in particular you are nervous about?

Hristiana (Kingston rep)
1st Year Mental Health Nursing Student
Original post by pharmacyrockz
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Hi there,

It's completely normal to feel like this before you move into your new uni flat so don't worry!

I'm assuming you are moving into uni halls so I'm going to give you my best tips that helped me when I was moving into my flat in first year:

1- Join Facebook groups before you come! There are usually Facebook groups for your uni and then usually there will be an accommodation group too. This is good to join and people often post in there what flat they are living in and then you can potentially meet some of the people who will be living in your flat. This helped me as I already knew a few people before I moved in so it felt a lot less daunting when moving day came around.

2- Make a budget plan before you come! This really helps with saving some money and not spending it all in freshers week! You should be able to look up how much loan you will be getting and then I would work out how much you will need for rent and then you can split the rest between food and fun activities! This Willa also help you to work out if you will need a part time job while you are at uni.

3- Learn to cook a few different meals. If you take some time at home to learn how to cook a few basic meals this will really help you while you are at uni! It can be hard moving out and having to cook for yourself all the time so it is worth finding a few meals that you know you can cook after a day at uni! This will also make sure you are still eating well as this is essential to keep motivated with uni work.

4- Print some pictures for your room of family and friends as this really helps your room to feel like your own and makes you feel less homesick. Also get some other homely bits for your room as again this helps you to feel at home which can help if you start to miss home.

5- When you move out, make sure you try and make an effort with everyone you see! Ask your flatmates if they want to go out and having pre's is also a good way of getting to know people and breaking the ice. Talk to the people on your course too and see if they want to meet you and do things as it is good to have a few different groups of friends so you know you will always have someone.

6- Look into joining societies. These are a great way of meeting people and making friends with people who have similar interests to you. It's also good to just get you out of the house for a bit doing something that you enjoy. The socials are always fun too so you will enjoy it.

7- Familiarise yourself with your new city. In the first week make sure you take time to have a look around your new city and get your bearings with everything. This will really help you to make sure it feels like home which is always a good thing.

8- Go to the welcome week events. Even if you think it might not be worth it, I would recommend going, especially to any course welcome events you have on. This is a great way of meeting people on your course and also finding your way around the university buildings.

9- FaceTime family and friends and keep in regular contact with them. Of course don't spend all of your time on your phone to them when you could be making other friends etc, but make sure you keep in contact with all of your home friends so you are all still chatting regularly!

10- Try not to go home for the first couple of weeks. This can make it harder to go back again to uni and it can also become a habit so it is worth trying to stick it out and not go home for the first few weeks.

I hope some of this helps 🙂

Lucy -SHU student ambassador.
Original post by pharmacyrockz
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Hiya @pharmacyrockz !

Moving out can be both exciting and challenging!🤩
I am sure you will be excited to have more independence and freedom and it will be a chance for you to experience this new chapter of your life at uni!

To ease the transition, consider starting by familiarising yourself with the university campus and the surrounding city. Exploring these areas beforehand can help you feeling less lost or overwhelmed during the first week at uni.

I found that Fresher's week is an excellent chance to explore activites outside the classroom! Consider attending events with your new classmates or your future flatmates - if you'll be living in university student accommodation. Engaging in sports or joining societies can be a great way to connect with other students and find new friends.

Additionally, my biggest tip is don't forget to check Facebook to find groups related to your course cohort or student accommodation. Usually they start appearing at the end of August (if you are starting in September). I personally built a lot of connections by using Facebook and I remember some people from my course had also created a Whatsapp chat, so it was really nice to connect with classmates before starting the course!

Best of luck 🍀

Martina - 1st Year Bachelor of Veterinary Medicine & Surgery
Original post by pharmacyrockz
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Hello!

It is definitely normal that you feel nervous about moving out! It can be challenging at first when moving out from home, especially if it is your first time, but I promise you that you can do it. It will get easier.

Starting university can be really daunting, especially if you are moving far from home. It can help to keep in contact with friends and family from home, as well as getting stuck in with new things at uni. Join lots of societies, go to events and explore your new city! Push yourself to go outside of your comfort zone, but do things that you know will make you feel safe and happy. Don't stop doing things you love just because you are in a new place!

What helped me when i first moved out was to visit the city by myself. it really improved my confidence knowing that I could navigate myself and do things alone in a new place. Maybe this might help you? Journaling was also really helpful for me.

It is normal to be anxious and to find things a little bit rocky at first. You will definitely not be alone in feeling like this, most people are experiencing this for the first time at uni too. If thigs become difficult, always remember that your GP and uni wellbeing services are available too.

All the best!

Lucy
2nd year languages student
Original post by pharmacyrockz
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Hi there,

It is totally normal to be nervous about moving out for the first time! University is both an exciting and daunting time, but there are some things you can do to be as prepared as you can!

I'd first recommend saving up as much money as you can. It's important to plan ahead and be secure, as it ensures you are able to afford food, rent, clothing, have spare money in an emergency, and are able to enjoy yourself.

It would also be important to learn basic skills. Master a few meals that you love, especially ones that can be done on a budget - this is a lifesaver! Know how to do your laundry, book a doctors appointment, do a grocery shop (and not spend an insane amount), how to ask for help, and how to keep your space clean. These skills are essential, and contribute to a successful experience at university.

It is common to be homesick, so be kind to yourself. Moving out can be hard for some, so don't compare your experience to anyone else's. I personally loved it, but I know many people who struggled. It might help to do your research beforehand to know what you'd like to get involved in. This could be campus activities, sports and societies, fairs, part-time work, volunteering, and things in the city you might like to do, which will help the transition to a new place.

Making your living space feel like home can also help you settle in. I brought photos, fairy lights, and a cozy blanket, which made my space feel like home.

Best of luck,

Isabella
Third-year Geography with a Year Abroad Student
Original post by pharmacyrockz
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Hey there 😀

Feeling this way is completely natural and understandable. Starting university, especially when coupled with moving away from home to live independently, is a significant life transition. It is perfectly normal to feel nervous about it. However, I want to reassure you that the experience is often much smoother and more enjoyable than one might anticipate. In fact, it can be a fantastic adventure and a truly memorable chapter of your life.

Transitioning from Poland to study in the UK marked a significant change for me, and initially, I grappled with feelings of homesickness. However, looking back, I would not alter my decision for anything, as I deeply value the adventure and personal development that accompanies embracing independence. This experience has nurtured resourcefulness and accountability within me, and has expanded my connections with others. I have overcome numerous mental hurdles and mastered the art of stepping outside my comfort zone. This independent journey through university life has lessened my fear of failure and boosted my self-confidence

I hope it was helpful 💪 Feel free to reach out if you have any questions 😉 You can also chat with me or other students directly through The Ambassador Platform.

Best of luck,

Julia
Psychology student
De Montfort University
Original post by pharmacyrockz
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Hi there

It is really normal to feel nervous about moving out for University. I am currently a final year law student, and I remember being quite stressed and anxious three years ago. However, going to University is a really good experience, so take your time to settle in, and I am sure you will enjoy the experience.

University life is different as you are given a lot of freedom to organise your time, space, and decide what you want to do. Having the freedom and responsibility gives you a chance to gain a lot of new skills that will be really useful. Furthermore, I think that University is a great chance to meet new people, friends and take on different activities. Everyone will be in the same position as you, so try speaking with others and maybe joining societies that you are interested in.

I found that calling my family frequently helped me with getting used to the environment and its is always possible to return home during the weekend if you need to. Take things at your own pace and explore different opportunities at University. :smile:

I hope this helps.
Chloe
University of Kent Student Rep

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