There's this guy.

Hi so idrk what I'm asking but basically here goes:
I met this boy about 2 years ago and I got his number and we started texting and we briefly went out for like a week. Our conversations though were so amazing and no relationship I've ever had has felt like this, I rly felt comfortable texting him and I can't even remember how we ended up breaking up but it was for a very stupid reason. We never shouldve ended it though cause he was the sweetest guy ever who constantly did nice things and nice gestures for me.

ever since then I've never stopped thinking about him. I text him again like last year to tell him that I never forgot but he was going through something so I didn't want to tell him and mess up his life/confuse him even more.

Fast forward to now, hes at like a better place in his life so I got in touch with him again and we talked until late at night at one point (our conversation being very deep ) and I thought since he was so open with me then he must like me back, but he's a nice guy so he could just be being nice. then I text him and told him how I feel in like a huge paragraph. And I thought it was a good time to tell him because he said he was single but was talking to another girl though he hadn't seen her for weeks.

He rejected me (in a nice way to be fair as he was perfusly apologising). His reason for rejecting me was kinda wierd tho. He said he was stressed with exams and wanted to work on himself as he just got out of a toxic relationship but then said he wanted to see how things went with that other girl as he wanted to commit to her.

I kinda just left it there, his reasoning didn't make sense and it kind of annoyed me and I realised he didn't like me. So I didn't text back. But then, he said that he still wants to keep texting me cause he missed me.
This was around 2 days ago and we've been texting since then but it's wierd now: he takes such a long time to text back : like multiple hours and he isn't as invested in our conversations. I only still text him though cause he did ask.

I don't really know what I should do now though.
Do I keep texting and hope he catches feelings for me, or do I tell him his reasoning for rejecting me didn't make sense cause I'm still annoyed by it. It's probably gonna end badly cayse he said he wanted to commit to someone else : I don't wanna stop talking to him tho cause he's so important to me. Unless yall think I should let him go.

Reply 1

profdumb13

maybe you should try and focus on being friends instead. see how that goes and progress from there.

Reply 2

Hiiiinooooooo

Original post by profdumb13

maybe you should try and focus on being friends instead. see how that goes and progress from there.

Yeah, I'm trying to do that but even that can be a push cause he doesn't reply for like a half a day. Is it possible he just doesn't want to talk to me anymore and was just being nice when he asked me to text him

Reply 3

jelllyfiiish

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Original post by Hiiiinooooooo

Perhaps it's a matter of letting go? From what you've written, he seems quite committed to the other girl.

I hope you're having a wonderful day. :smile:

Reply 4

Tomatomayo

He got out of the toxic relationship and now he’s having something with another girl.. that is weird because he says he needs time yet he already has a situationship going on 😐it’s okay to be rejected. He tried to make a meaningful reason out of it, even if it doesn’t make sense to you. I’m not sure but I’m afraid that if things don’t work out between him and that other girl, he will crawl back to you…and that’s not ok. I feel like that girl is a rebound relationship. He doesn’t consider you like that, maybe he doesn’t want to mess this up so he gave you a meaningless reason to not date you. I don’t know. But I would just leave the conversation the way it is and not talk to him unless he texts you one day.

Reply 5

Tomatomayo

Original post by Hiiiinooooooo

I definitely think that you are just a side girl he’s talking to. Please don’t chase him. Let him chase you. If he really wants you, he would definitely find the time to answer to you, to talk to you, to see you. It’s not the case. Leave this boy. You’ll be proud of yourself later, in the long run.