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Husband studying everyday with a colleague he finds attractive

Hi all, this issue has been really getting me down and insecure.

My husband has a female colleague who he is fond of, he says good things about her and has told me in the past that he finds her attractive.

He’s told me that they both have agreed to be study partners for an exam in a few months. They will soon start studying together. He told me at first it will be several times a week then increase to daily. They’ll be meeting both online and in person one on one for months.

I’ve never met this woman and I feel very insecure. I honestly feel like going abroad a few weeks to get away from this.

Any advice would be appreciated

Reply 1

Do you trust your husband or not? Running away and distancing yourself is almost literally asking for trouble though.

Reply 2

Okay, hell NO. If this is your husband, and you tell him that this is disturbing to you because he already told you in the past that he finds her attractive, and he still goes studying with her: d-I-v-o-r-c-e! Directly. Why would he not consider your feelings, when YOU are literally his WIFE? That’s not a man to me.

Reply 3

Original post by Anonymous
Hi all, this issue has been really getting me down and insecure.
My husband has a female colleague who he is fond of, he says good things about her and has told me in the past that he finds her attractive.
He’s told me that they both have agreed to be study partners for an exam in a few months. They will soon start studying together. He told me at first it will be several times a week then increase to daily. They’ll be meeting both online and in person one on one for months.
I’ve never met this woman and I feel very insecure. I honestly feel like going abroad a few weeks to get away from this.
Any advice would be appreciated


It’s definitely strange that he would say he finds her attractive. If he’s married and finds a woman attractive, having her as a study buddy is potentially the worst person he could choose. You’re within your rights to feel uncomfortable about this, I’m a very secure person but that is just plain weird. Not saying men and women can’t be just friends… but why is he even saying he “finds her attractive”?

Reply 4

Original post by Tomatomayo
Okay, hell NO. If this is your husband, and you tell him that this is disturbing to you because he already told you in the past that he finds her attractive, and he still goes studying with her: d-I-v-o-r-c-e! Directly. Why would he not consider your feelings, when YOU are literally his WIFE? That’s not a man to me.


Couldn’t have said it better ^^^ sounds like an odd man to be doing that. Basically having an emotional affair out in the open

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