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An Urgent thing please guys I NEED HELP

So i’m a university student in my final year and there’s a person that i’m really in love with but i’m homeschooled like a uk student and the person is international. I told my mum about it and she was against it and she thinks the person isn’t for me.. However i fought for him she is fully against but i wish if she can see what he does for me But really he is being the best for me, like one time i had a problem with my assignment like i lost my whole code while i was meant to submit it, i of course was in a whole shock and started panicking so i informed that person and he immediately without any hesitation like he left his job and came to me to our university,... i'm having a family problem he is the only one that listens to me all the time and is ready to do anything for me like he is suffering financially due his tuition fees but he still do everything for me he got paid he immediately got me a new water bottle because mine was broken, we are in the university he is the one who pays for our lunch he let me pay few times but mainly him.. All of that is happening without my mum knowing and she asked about him 2 times i think but i was afraid to admit or to tell her that we are together and he is the best i tell her no there’s nothing happening i barely see him so can anyone tell me what should i do? I really would love to approve this relationship and not to do anything behind her back
Original post by Anonymous
So i’m a university student in my final year and there’s a person that i’m really in love with but i’m homeschooled like a uk student and the person is international. I told my mum about it and she was against it and she thinks the person isn’t for me.. However i fought for him she is fully against but i wish if she can see what he does for me But really he is being the best for me, like one time i had a problem with my assignment like i lost my whole code while i was meant to submit it, i of course was in a whole shock and started panicking so i informed that person and he immediately without any hesitation like he left his job and came to me to our university,... i'm having a family problem he is the only one that listens to me all the time and is ready to do anything for me like he is suffering financially due his tuition fees but he still do everything for me he got paid he immediately got me a new water bottle because mine was broken, we are in the university he is the one who pays for our lunch he let me pay few times but mainly him.. All of that is happening without my mum knowing and she asked about him 2 times i think but i was afraid to admit or to tell her that we are together and he is the best i tell her no there’s nothing happening i barely see him so can anyone tell me what should i do? I really would love to approve this relationship and not to do anything behind her back


Your mother cannot tell you what to do with your life. It's your life, not hers. Who cares what your mother thinks? You're an adult now too. If your mother cannot get behind you, then maybe you should ignore her and telling her that this is how things are and that she either supports you or she can go bother rocks for all you care.
Reply 2
Go get ur man :redface:
Reply 3
Original post by KwaziiCat
Go get ur man :redface:

But how? that's the problem
Reply 4
Ask him what he feels about you casually over coffee. Does he like you, what his feels are towards you? etc If its all yes and positive you can ask him would it go anywhere further etc. Some examples to get you started.

If not coffee somewhere you like to meet up casually.
Reply 5
Original post by Anonymous
But how? that's the problem

idk I'm a lesbian lol. just talk to them ig

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