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My relative is always talking about food

I live with my relative and she’s always talking about food. She’s always planning of the next meal for us to eat. Even when we are eating, she’s thinking of what to make. One the days I cook for both of us, she’s always hounding me when I should making the dinner. On the days she cooks for both of us, she’s always yelling on what time she will start the dinner. And this is SO annoying. Nobody thinks or cares about food this much, or do they? Is there a way to go about this with my relative, or should I just let her be obsessed with food in peace? It’s actually annoying that all she talks about is what we are going to eat. When we are at the dinning table together, she’s always telling me what she’ll bring out the freezer for us to eat or what she’s thinking of making next. It’s pretty sad, that food is on her mind 25/8. When I could hardly care less! Nobody is going to die of hunger in the house. Food is always available. Advice?

Reply 1

If the house is hers and she pays for the food you need to suck it up and be grateful she provides for you. If you pay your way, perhaps suggest that food isn't that much of an issue for you and while you appreciate that cooking is a hobby of hers, you're not that interested.

Reply 2

Original post by marple
If the house is hers and she pays for the food you need to suck it up and be grateful she provides for you. If you pay your way, perhaps suggest that food isn't that much of an issue for you and while you appreciate that cooking is a hobby of hers, you're not that interested.

I am grateful she provides for me. I also pay a large contribution towards her, and I’ll probably just tell her that.

Reply 3

Original post by Anonymous
I live with my relative and she’s always talking about food. She’s always planning of the next meal for us to eat. Even when we are eating, she’s thinking of what to make. One the days I cook for both of us, she’s always hounding me when I should making the dinner. On the days she cooks for both of us, she’s always yelling on what time she will start the dinner. And this is SO annoying. Nobody thinks or cares about food this much, or do they? Is there a way to go about this with my relative, or should I just let her be obsessed with food in peace? It’s actually annoying that all she talks about is what we are going to eat. When we are at the dinning table together, she’s always telling me what she’ll bring out the freezer for us to eat or what she’s thinking of making next. It’s pretty sad, that food is on her mind 25/8. When I could hardly care less! Nobody is going to die of hunger in the house. Food is always available. Advice?

i have never met anyone who cares about food 24/7 is not like is the end of the world

Reply 4

Original post by Anonymous
I live with my relative and she’s always talking about food. She’s always planning of the next meal for us to eat. Even when we are eating, she’s thinking of what to make. One the days I cook for both of us, she’s always hounding me when I should making the dinner. On the days she cooks for both of us, she’s always yelling on what time she will start the dinner. And this is SO annoying. Nobody thinks or cares about food this much, or do they? Is there a way to go about this with my relative, or should I just let her be obsessed with food in peace? It’s actually annoying that all she talks about is what we are going to eat. When we are at the dinning table together, she’s always telling me what she’ll bring out the freezer for us to eat or what she’s thinking of making next. It’s pretty sad, that food is on her mind 25/8. When I could hardly care less! Nobody is going to die of hunger in the house. Food is always available. Advice?

I had to laugh because my mother’s a bit like this!
Do you think it could be that feeding people shows love and care for them in your relative’s thinking? Food sometimes means more than just nutrition.

If you ever tell them don’t you care about the food, and you don’t want to talk about it all the time, definitely tell them what you appreciate about them at the same time. Maybe even give them a hug, if you’re that kind of family!

Reply 5

Original post by Antique1
I had to laugh because my mother’s a bit like this!
Do you think it could be that feeding people shows love and care for them in your relative’s thinking? Food sometimes means more than just nutrition.
If you ever tell them don’t you care about the food, and you don’t want to talk about it all the time, definitely tell them what you appreciate about them at the same time. Maybe even give them a hug, if you’re that kind of family!

I don’t think so, because my relative will also ask other people what they are having for dinner. (On a phone call because she speaks with the speaker on) she’ll speak to other family members and wonder what they are eating or talk about the next meal to make.

Then, whenever we have leftovers from the dinner, she’ll tell me she’ll have them for lunch at work etc or for another day that “saves her from cooking” as if I truly care about THIS much about it lol. I haven’t even told her my thoughts about this subject, but I’ll consider breaking it to her at some point, bc it’s truly annoying, this being our daily source of communication.

Reply 6

Original post by Anonymous
I don’t think so, because my relative will also ask other people what they are having for dinner. (On a phone call because she speaks with the speaker on) she’ll speak to other family members and wonder what they are eating or talk about the next meal to make.
Then, whenever we have leftovers from the dinner, she’ll tell me she’ll have them for lunch at work etc or for another day that “saves her from cooking” as if I truly care about THIS much about it lol. I haven’t even told her my thoughts about this subject, but I’ll consider breaking it to her at some point, bc it’s truly annoying, this being our daily source of communication.

Yes, I really understand how irritating it can be when someone is obsessed with something you don’t care about!
Let her obsess in peace and you do your own thing!
(edited 1 year ago)

Reply 7

Original post by Anonymous
I live with my relative and she’s always talking about food. She’s always planning of the next meal for us to eat. Even when we are eating, she’s thinking of what to make. One the days I cook for both of us, she’s always hounding me when I should making the dinner. On the days she cooks for both of us, she’s always yelling on what time she will start the dinner. And this is SO annoying. Nobody thinks or cares about food this much, or do they? Is there a way to go about this with my relative, or should I just let her be obsessed with food in peace? It’s actually annoying that all she talks about is what we are going to eat. When we are at the dinning table together, she’s always telling me what she’ll bring out the freezer for us to eat or what she’s thinking of making next. It’s pretty sad, that food is on her mind 25/8. When I could hardly care less! Nobody is going to die of hunger in the house. Food is always available. Advice?

As long as it is not affecting her health, I don't see the problem. Some people are obsessed with worse things.

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